10 Clear Signs A Scorpio Man Is Not Interested Anymore

by Anna Kovach, relationship astrologer
Does a Scorpio man seem cold or disengaged? Don’t waste anymore of your energy if you feel that your Scorpio man is not interested anymore. Keep reading...

Are you super frustrated that you cannot figure out what is going on with your Scorpio guy anymore? Does he seem cold or disengaged? Don’t waste any more of your energy if you feel your Scorpio man is not interested anymore.

Signs a Scorpio man is not interested anymore are not hard to find if you just scratch the surface. In order to understand what makes him tick, you’ll need to know what lies beneath his particular personality traits.

So, how to know if a Scorpio man is not interested anymore? To win the heart of a Scorpio man, it takes a special kind of lady. It’s a difficult task to figure out what makes him run to you like a knight in shining armor but what makes him run from you, even more.

I have some things for you to read that just might help you figure things out. You will learn about his signals, which may help you conclude why he has lost interest in you.

Keep reading to determine signs that a Scorpio man is not into you.

What Makes A Scorpio Man Not Interested?

Scorpio men are all-or-nothing creatures living in extremes. In relationships, once a Scorpio man has decided to fall in love, if his relationship grows into something he wants for the long term, he will eventually balance everything else out, adding his lady to his busy world.

He loves her intensely, and if he sees that he cannot emotionally connect with her, he will easily lose interest. If she has trust issues or is acting needy or clingy, those are all huge turn-offs for a passionate Scorpio, so he will not allow himself to be vulnerable with her but instead will look for his way out of the relationship.

Unreliability plays its part as well, and he despises this trait in a partner. He wants to trust her and feel comfortable next to her. If she is disloyal and flirts with other men, he will terminate the relationship.

How To Know If A Scorpio Man Is Not Interested Anymore?

There are many reasons why a Scorpio man may lose interest in you. Some things are obvious; others are not.

Scorpio men have a very strong personality, and if a woman is not compatible and not aligned with their purpose, values, goals, etc., they will lose interest.

In such cases, Scorpio may exhibit hot and cold behavior, distancing and avoidance, a lack of communication, followed by a lack of effort to work on the relationship. Also, a Scorpio man who is not interested will be indifferent to his woman’s emotional needs, and he won’t bother to show any concern or empathy.

7 Clear Signs A Scorpio Man Is Not Interested Anymore

1. When A Scorpio Man Acts Cold And Rude

One of the most obvious ways that a Scorpio man is not interested in you anymore is he’ll tend to want to spend less time around you and when he IS around you, he’ll be a rude character.

He’ll nitpick about anything you do or don’t do. He’ll say really awful things and could even call you crappy names too. He just is not a nice guy when he thinks it’s over and basically wants to get rid of you.

Instead of breaking up with you, he’ll just be a total jackass and hope that you’ll walk out and take it in your own hands. It’s not right but he doesn’t always do the right thing when it comes to love.

His emotions are probably all over the place trying to figure out what he wants to do, what he wants in general, and how he feels. This in itself makes him seem very cool and detached to anyone around him.

Why are Scorpios so hot and cold? << find out here

2. When He Makes Himself Scarce

Obviously if a Scorpio man doesn’t want to be with you anymore, he’s going to make sure he’s too busy to spend time with you. He’ll have all sorts of excuses why he can’t come to see you, why you can’t go see him, or why he can’t meet up.

He may go quiet for a period of time and then tell you he had something come up. In essence, he may actually lie to you. He doesn’t want to seem like the bad guy so it’s easier to make something up.

Scorpio man may back out of plans that were already made a while back with some lame reason. He may even claim to be very busy with work or whatever. Granted, sometimes that is true, then again, sometimes it’s not.

The point is, the Scorpio man will make sure that you get very little of his time if any at all. He sorts ghosts you and wants you to basically call it done for yourself so that he can get out of it. This makes it clear the Scorpio man is not interested in you anymore.

3. Scorpio Doesn’t Want To Have Sex With You

This is another HUGE red flag. Scorpio men are VERY sexual guys. When they have a girlfriend or are seeing someone, they normally want to be intimate. They even do this with a “friend with benefits”.

If he ever denies you sex or starts making himself scarce in the bedroom, something is definitely wrong. Him not having the desire or being horny around you indicates he’s not into you anymore.

When a Scorpio man loses attraction to his partner, he is pretty much done sexually and is already looking elsewhere. Not to say he’ll cheat but he’ll start juggling his options.

He may engage more with porn or find other ways to release his own sexual tension rather than having sex with his partner or “friend”. He isn’t into you and this is a bit telltale sign that you probably should move on.

Once he gives up on sex, you might as well call the whole thing off because he’s done in his head which means there is no recovering it or changing his mind. Once he’s turned off to someone, he’s 100% done and not interested in you anymore.

4. He Is Distancing Himself From You

Even if you live with your Scorpio man, he will keep himself busy with reading, doing work, playing video games, or whatever it is he does when he wants to spend less time with you.

He may find excuses to go hang out with friends whereas he used to stay at home with you. This is his way of getting out and away from you. Scorpio men don’t normally require space unless they’re starting to feel the relationship is failing.

Scorpio man falling out of love will result in him trying to figure out if he wants to still be with his partner or not which means he needs time to himself. That means he’ll do whatever he has to in order to be away from you.

He will take on extra hours at work, he’ll join a gym to get in shape, he’ll go to the library or bookstore, he may take up classes, or basically do anything he can to not be home.

In the case that he’s not living with you, he will still pull these same tactics. He may tell you he’s busy or going out with his friends when really he’s staying at home playing video games.

You may actually catch him in lies when it comes to him telling you he’s going to go do something and you find that he didn’t go. You may bust him being home when he told you he wasn’t.

Basically, when a Scorpio man is not interested in you anymore, he will go above and beyond to make sure you get it without actually telling you that he’s done.

Here’s more about what to do if your Scorpio man starts ignoring you <<

5. He Tells You He Doesn’t Know If It’s Going To Work

I’ve had many ladies write into me distraught that their Scorpio guy has said something like this to them. They wonder if there is still a chance, if he still cares, and if he will come around.

I hate to say this but it’s rare for them to change their mind and decide that yes they want to be with you unless they’re young and maturing. Otherwise, they’re pretty sure if they don’t have feelings for someone anymore.

If you’re in a situation where your Scorpio man says he doesn’t think it’s going to work and you’re feeling lost and unsure of what to do, I strongly recommend my 30-day Scorpio Man Love Challenge. This program is designed to give you all the tools you need to bring back the passion and connection in your relationship. Start your journey today!

6. When A Scorpio Man Stops Caring

One of the best qualities a Scorpio man has is his ability to care, to be dependable and reliable. If he tells you he will be there for you, you can count on him. But if he starts to cancel his plans, to exclude you from his activities, this is the sign a Scorpio man doesn’t like you anymore.

He will not make an effort to keep the connection between you and him up and rolling and this relationship will most likely end because when he stops caring for you, you can be certain that there is no way back to his heart.

You will sense his emotional distance, his unwillingness to engage, you will not know that something is off. This is a time to reevaluate your relationship with him and see if there is room left to work things out, whatever you do, don’t ignore this red flag.

Is Your Scorpio Man Using You? << check here for the surefire signs a Scorpio man just wants to be friends

7. He Is Not Consistent

If your Scorpio man is losing interest in you, he will play the inconsistency card. This means that you can expect him to make some plans with you, then bail out at the last minute without having to explain himself.

You may even expect that he will not set up a new time because he is clearly not making any plans to be in a serious committed relationship with you. Cold shower ladies! 

He won’t text you or he’ll be very short with his responses to your texts. He looks confusing but this is his way of letting you know that he’s just not feeling it. Learn here what to do when a Scorpio man stops texting you <<

So, if a Scorpio man tells you he wants to take you somewhere and then cancel his plans with you, it is a clear sign he is not into you. He’s pretty good at hiding out or pulling back into his shell when he knows you are interested in him but he is not interested in you or is already involved with someone else. That’s another common problem.

3 Obvious Signs A Scorpio Man Is Not Interested Through Text

He Is Unresponsive

If you’ve messaged him and he didn’t bother to respond to your message, especially if your message was in the form of a question, you can be certain he is not interested in you and deliberately delays his response so that you can get ‘the message’.

Your Scorpio becomes very much the “silent treatment” type of guy.

He Is Busy

When the Scorpio man is busy with work or anything else, he tends to blow off text messages unless they are emergencies. He prioritizes whatever he’s doing at the time as being very important.

I know Scorpio seems to have lots of reasons as to why they might ignore texts, but if you are sensing that things are not going well with you, you can only assume why you’ve been left in the dark.

He Sends Shorts Texts After Couple Of Hours

There are a variety of reasons why he’s not answering your texts in a timely manner, and one of the main reasons is that he is losing interest in you.

If he provides short responses, he is trying to let you know he is not making an effort. Your Scorpio man may be going through things you don’t even know about, and as a result, he closes himself.

Even so, obviously he is not doing his best to keep you in his world, so this is another red flag to make you aware that he is losing interest in you.

How Do You Know A Scorpio Man Is Losing Interest (And What To Do)

Ask yourself if you would like to have a stable and successful relationship with your Scorpio man. If you do, you need to have a deep understanding of his personality. Loving him would not be easy but would be very rewarding. It will be intense and passionate.

If you feel he is being emotionally distant, communicating less, and showing less eagerness to do things together, you can ask him his viewpoint and how he sees this relationship going.

If he assures you that everything is OK, but this is not good enough for you, you need to secure the relationship by reassuring him of your feelings.

For the Scorpio man to stay interested, he needs to know that he can trust you. Loyalty means a lot to him, so you’ve got to let him see that you are committed and loyal to him.

It is also important that he knows that you need him. A Scorpio man seriously thrives on being supportive. So when he can be there for you in your hour of need, it makes him feel closer to you.

Read next: How To Make A Scorpio Man Miss You Like Crazy

How Do Scorpios Act When No Longer Interested?

When a Scorpio man is no longer interested in you, he will not be emotionally expressive; he may become cold and even rude toward you.

You will instantly know that he is not into you. Furthermore, he will try to make excuses not to be with you, or you may see that he spends less time with you. Not involving you in his plans or activities and making you feel as if you are not a couple anymore—this all means that your Scorpio man is falling out of love.

Be careful, ladies; there are plenty of nasty red flags when a Scorpio man is done with you or feels detached from you. It may be time for you to move on.

Is Your Scorpio Man Avoidant?

Does your Scorpio man pull away or get quiet when you’ve just had a deep emotional connection?

Does he seem to disappear just when you thought he was getting closer?

Have you felt confused by his hot and cold behavior?

If so, then he might have an avoidant attachment style.

He could be Dismissive Avoidant and completely terrified of commitment…

Or he could be Fearful Avoidant and REALLY want commitment…

But get scared when he feels himself getting closer to you.

If he has either one of these attachment styles, you’re going to end up feeling extremely confused at times.

And both are caused by childhood trauma.

When you can see the scared little boy inside him that had to shut down his feelings if he’s a dismissive avoidant…

Or have a parent not provide his needs consistently if he’s a fearful avoidant…

It can make it easier to have empathy and compassion for his confusing and frustrating behavior. 

But that won’t fix it.

And while advice on attachment styles can be helpful…

What you really need to stop this frustrating hot and cold cycle is to understand him better.

Thankfully, there is a simple system to TRULY understand how he ticks based on his astrology.

It will stop him from pulling back when you begin feeling closer. And it will accomplish this in only 30 days.

So no more crying yourself to sleep when he pulls back…

No more feeling incredibly confused.

And no more wondering what in the heck is going on with him…

Even if he has an avoidant attachment style.

Go here now to turn things around with your Scorpio man in 30 days or less.

Sending you love,

Your sister and relationship astrologer,

Anna Kovach

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7 thoughts on “10 Clear Signs A Scorpio Man Is Not Interested Anymore

  1. This makes me sad. I’ve been seeing a Scorpio guy for 10 months. The first five months we had sex all the time. After that, maybe once a month. I asked him why he backed off and he said because I wanted a relationship and he didn’t. Although literally no sex, he called me at least 10-15 times a day. This is so confusing. Do we go out? Nope. It’s literally a phone relationship. Calls me in the morning, 4-6 throughout the day and before he goes to bed. He’s a workaholic so I just figure he busy with work. Breakfast here and there but that’s it. I tired breaking it off three times and he went off on me. I recently told him this isn’t working for me and loose my number. He blew up my phone and told me stop acting crazy. Then.. he stop calling as much. It’s so confusing. All this back and forth…

  2. I’d been seeing scorpion 3yrs on/off, he didn’t want relationship from the start, I did tho and had hi hopes but no,,, eventually he stopped asking what my schedule was and made excuses he couldn’t make it to mines, I’m just realising now I have been chasing him, today was the day I’ve deleted his number so I can’t contact him again, I don’t even think he will notice, the last time he let me down was the Last time! These guys are too much hard work and deceitful, not for me ? I will miss him but I’ve been through worse

    1. HI Aqau!

      While it’s true that you may have been chasing him, how you will you know it’s him if he does reach out if you deleted his number? Scorpio men like women who are fiercely independent and don’t need him. That makes him work harder to show her why she needs him. So yes, when you chase, you are showing him you need him. Backing off is a good idea but don’t assume he won’t notice. Sometimes they are only cooling off because they have other things going on in their lives that demand their immediate attention. Learn more by checking out my books on Scorpio Man Secrets!

  3. Mine is October 23born but our relationship is just 7month old, we had sex once… He was a great guy at d beginning but am getting confused now.., he work close to my place of work and he is always busy(tailor) … Pls enlighten me me more about him, i really like him

  4. Ned’s help please 6 months ago he contacted me I went to his he was vile felt like crap said leave him alone so I dis few months later try try told him leave me alone he said sorry please give me a chance I melt I went to his nothing forced natural he was very entitive with me making sure I was yea every Five 5 mins and then hear nothing all week feel disrespected what do I do help please hate feeling vunrable

    1. Dear Jane,
      When a Scorpio man goes cold, there is usually a reason for this. But the thing you NEED to remember about his sign is that he is actually very shy and introspective. He is more than an introvert than you probably realize.
      He is a very private person and will often need his space – you need to realize this about him if you want to be with him.
      This is why my advice would be for you to leave him alone for the time being so that he can get the space and distance he desires. If you put extra pressure on him he is just going to realize that you don’t understand him and he will start to find you clingy. You don’t want that!
      Let him come to you and stop chasing him. I know it probably hurts, but you need to allow him to miss you and realize how respectful you are of his space. Sending Love!

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