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What They Don’t Tell You About Dating a Scorpio Man

When it comes to popular astrology the sign of Scorpio seems to be one of the most favored of them all. This is usually related to the Scorpio’s powerful sex drive and their intellectual abilities, often interpreted as shrewdness or inclinations toward revenge.

“They” meaning the widespread and popular astrology texts tend to overlook some very important facts regarding this great sign. And if you want to learn more, let’s dive deeper into the heart of Scorpio.

Scorpio Is the Sign of a True Transformation

In the ancient times, this constellation was known as “the Eagle” and even in the Bible this sign is often mentioned in the Old as well as the New Testament, together with “the Lion, the Bull, and the Man”. The “face” of the Man is here referring to the sign of Aquarius, so the fixed astrological signs are portrayed as exceptionally important for marking the future of mankind.

So, what does this means for you? You have to be aware of the fact that the sign of Scorpio has three transformations along his lifeline. As a Scorpio, this person is often aggressive, vengeful, dishonest and even prone to criminal behavior. Then the life crisis follows and transforms this dangerous little animal into the Mighty Eagle.

The Eagle phase shows someone who is very dangerous also but is also courageous and righteous, with lots of skills and experience. And then, just for the special and chosen ones, the third transformation brings out the Phoenix. This is someone with extraordinary powers and the gift to heal the soul or the body of any living being.

Do You Really Know Which Type of Scorpio You Are Dating?

Dating a Scorpio Man

Let’s not exaggerate now; I doubt anyone might ever date the Phoenix type of guy. They are simply “undateable” because they belong to the avatar or a guru category.

But when you meet a Scorpio guy, do you ever wonder does he belong to the lower or a higher type of this zodiac sign? You will recognize a “lower” Scorpio by his harsh words, his fast gestures, and often his aggressiveness.

He will insist on a hookup type of experience and if you refuse, he might call you names and act disgustingly in many other ways. According to another scenario, he could be truly interested in you, but if you have a keen eye, you will be able to notice his nervousness, jealousy, and possessiveness. And those traits in him will increase over the time you spend together.

You may wonder now, what if you were so lucky to date an Eagle type of guy. Well, in this case, you are trapped for sure, because he will take your heart whether each of you two wants a committed relationship or not.

Like every Scorpio, he is very skilled in the arts of a physical and mental war, he can look deep into your soul and he knows many things about you before you even open your mouth for the first time, just by noticing your gestures, eyes and the levels of your energy.

Don’t Ever Fake with the Scorpio Guy

When you are dating a Scorpio man, trust me, you don’t want to fake with the Scorpio man ever. Don’t be misled by the popular viewpoints regarding this sign. You don’t need to pretend like you are a powerful vamp woman if you are not. And there is no reason for you to dress in black, paint your nails or lips in black also, wear something too revealing if those details don’t resemble your personality.

Your over-accentuated gestures or fashion style will only make him think that he is dating some sort of a classical theater actress or a nut, and you don’t want this to happen. Remember, your intelligence and the sense of humor, are the two major things which will bring you closer to him.

He, the higher type or the mature type of a Scorpio guy, is looking for a real woman with the high set of standards, but he is also looking for a woman who is easy and joyous to be with.

Have in mind that the first impression he gets regarding you will color your whole relationship, so try to show off with your true femininity, your sensitiveness, and your passion. The woman without her own personal passion doesn’t have a special value in his eyes.

This “passion” can be anything which uplifts your spirit, meaning your cooking, gardening, dancing, arts, sports, your interest in science or literally anything under heavens.

In this manner, you will clearly show to him and to the world, that you are a stable and independent human being and your life doesn’t revolve only around the issues or romance. On the other side, your natural femininity will force his subconscious mind to treat you like someone who needs to be protected and he will naturally slip into this role of a knight in shining armor.

Scorpio Man Is a Man, So Let Him Be a Man

Dating a Scorpio Man

When you are dating a Scorpio man, you don’t need to worry about him at all. If he is interested, he will approach you, he will ask your number and he will set the date. There is nothing special or extraordinary you should do before, nor will you have to “dance” around him to make him notice you. You have been noticed. If he is interested and attracted, he will make the first move, otherwise, you are just wasting your time.

In this day and age, when dating a Scorpio man, many women make the same mistake, presuming that he needs a little encouragement or perhaps he didn’t have the chance to see them in all of their glory. However, this is simply not the truth. If you approach him first and if you are the one to lead this relationship, even only in the early stages, then you should know that he won’t stick around for a long time.


In the game of love with the Scorpio guy, always remember the basic. He is Mars, you are Venus. And you don’t have to be or do anything except to be truly yourself. Then, if he is really into you, he will become your faithful protector and provider.

Do you have any experience dating a Scorpio man? Let me know!!

Share your story (or situation) with our community in the comment section below (don’t worry, it’s anonymous).

Wishing you all the luck of the universe

Your friend and Relationship Astrologer, Anna Kovach

  • I find him warm, then cold. Wondering if I offended him. He calls once a month for something I can for him. No dates, nothing but sex have we shared. He used me

  • A Scorpio guy and I were sexting pretty hot and heavy…I have no doubts that he was not a hacker….we planned to meet at a hotel,but I chickened out at the last minute and he pulled his profile off POF immediately..any chance he will check back with me? I really dug him!

  • I met a Scorpio male online, we were FB friends for years and to cut a long story, he told me he had fallen in love when he first saw a photo of me and we got together. It was a long distance r/ship of 8 months and he fitted the bill, the long silences, etc, then I found out he was cheating on me, and things started falling into place, then I discovered I think, am pretty certain he is a Narcisst Personality Disorder, he certainly fits the bill. He has blocked me out totally and Im left in pure misery because I ended up falling in love with him. I had dealings with a Scorpio once before and swore I would never get involved with another one, and my own brother is one and I can see a lot of traits that also fit him.

  • Hello. I’m going through a divorce. Yes I’m seeing a scorpion guy. Hot and cold. He’s not stayed away. We see each off and on. I’m honest with him. He says, he doesn’t know what to do? It’s like he’s always fighting with him self. Good and bad?! I’m confused. Unless we are together.
    Thank you.

  • My ex bf and I dated for almost six months, one day out of nowhere I came home from lunch and we got into a huge fight about something silly I didn’t tell him, to him it was a big deal because my ex came to my job to harass me. After that fight he broke up with me and stated he wanted me out of our house, I told him I wanted to work things out but he didn’t want to. I moved out and the same night I left he sent me random texts with pictures of one of our dogs being sad and the comment “are you happy yOu happy hour ruined our life for your new guy” couple days went by and I tried to find ways to fix our issue with no luck. One night he cane over and checked my phone which had a message to my best friend from childhood telling him that my ex and I broke up and I didn’t know what to do. My ex got furious and left right away saying I was a liar. During this past 3 weeks I found out he is seeing a new girl and confronted him because he keeps trying to make me look like I’m the one seeing other people, he said to me “as much as I hate to tell you she is not my girlfriend” this girl and I have friends in common and they keep talking about instagram post of her and my ex at the gym or him cleaning her car or her spending the night at my old house. Funny is that new girl has the same bday as mine so he is taking her to do the things he planed to do with me. So for my bday my parents bought me a ticket to go on vacation, I mentioned it to him and he responded “ I cannot do this, if I cannot trust you while you are here, how am I gonna trust you in another state, I cannot let this hurt me nor think about what you will be doing”. The day after that conversation I got into a car accident and he called me saying he was extremely worried, I told him I was ok, he asked what happened and I told him the Truth, I was leaving a bar after I picked up my friends and taking them home, he texted me a day later he knew exactly what I did and who I was with (no one obviously) so he needed to stop talking to me and block me which he has not block me just yet, I told him that fine but when you realize you lost a good woman that loved you and wanted a future with you I’ll be far gone. This was a couple weeks ago, he called me last Friday and he was upset with me because he said he wanted to talk about something important with me but I ruined it because I was talking to a new guy. Can somebody explain what is going on?
    Thank you

  • I was
    Married to a Scorpio for 22 years.
    Our courtship was quick, fast and furious! He proposed to me just 3 months after we met. We got married a year later.
    We had 5 kids together. It was a really great marriage. Many struggles but not within the marriage itself. We had many find adventures together. When he turned 40 he sorta changed. Or maybe he stayed the same and it was I that changed?? I discovered he was cheating on me, I found this out 6 months after the birth of our last baby. 1 year later he tells me he wants “alone time” and so that was 5 years ago… we been separated ever since.

    Currently, I’ve been seeing a Scorpio (which I only found out after I fell for this guy) – it’s a long distance relationship and I’ve been over to see him a few times. We’ve known each other for about 4 years. He’s recently separated too, ( just 6months)
    Next month I’ll be going to visit for his birthday! And he asked me if I’d want to go on a road trip to meet his mom and family! Sounds serious.
    By the way I’m an Aquarius. Apparently Aquarian’s and Scorpios are not comparable

  • I have been dating a Scorpio man on and off for 6 yrs
    I still do not know where I stand with him . I am always breaking off with him because he won’t commit. He said he loves me but he shuts down and acts indifferent and other times he is loving and caring. His actions just don’t match his words. I don’t feel loved. I am mostly disappointed. Everytime I say that’s enough we stop seeing each other and then weeks or months later he draws me back but the same thing happens. I just can’t resist him .
    I am a Leo and I need attention and want to be a priority to him and I know I am not.
    Very confused!

  • I’m in a relationship with a cancerian man but have been tempted by a Scorpioman into a friends with benefits relationship that only seems to have lasted a couple of months and now he’s not messaging me requesting what became a regular weekly bootie call. I so feel like chasing him and am pretty much stalking him in Facebook watching his conversations with other women and outings with ‘friends’. I just can’t get him out of my mind when I should just be focusing on my poor loyal trustworthy cancerian man that wants to marry me. Help I need some common sense kicked into me.

  • Wow, reading all of your comments about your Scorpio men has sure brought much more enlightenment to the table for me. I have been in a so called, sex only relationship with a Scorpio man for about 7 months. I too have tried to end it but he would find ways to win me some ways he is narcissistic.. just recently started to say some cruel things…there always seems to be personal issues,drama and excuses as to why he can’t have a real relationship right now or, bring it to the next level. I have not met any of his friends or family and I never see him on long weekends, most weekends or holidays. I know now that he is lying to me about having true feelings for me, just to keep the awesome sex going. On his terms and his schedule, late nights.. Yes. He is definitely the best I’ve ever had in bed and I got hooked and addicted to him right away. Unfortunately, my strong feelings for him, and never having been with a man that didn’t want a relationship with me, this entire sex only thing that’s beneath me and my values, drove me to the point of just about losing my mind. Drunken lashing out texts to him that if I wanted a secret sex kitten thing with a man that I would have to start charging by the hour. Not to mention, this has pushed me over the edge and to a point of such desperation that I had to start a form of counselling/ empowerment training. The good news is, this is helping and I’m realizing what an asshole he really is, and i’m taking my power back one piece at a time…and I’m starting not to like him.. I’m happy to say, that I’m starting to fall out of love with him and I know that I deserve much better than this. My advice to any of you drawn to and taken in by a Scorpio man who won’t commit, RUN!!! Before he has the chance to suck the entire life, respect and dignity right out of you and before he ruins your life. I left my husband for this scumbag.

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