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What They Don’t Tell You About Dating a Scorpio Man

When it comes to popular astrology the sign of Scorpio seems to be one of the most favored of them all. This is usually related to the Scorpio’s powerful sex drive and their intellectual abilities, often interpreted as shrewdness or inclinations toward revenge.

“They” meaning the widespread and popular astrology texts tend to overlook some very important facts regarding this great sign. And if you want to learn more, let’s dive deeper into the heart of Scorpio.

Scorpio Is the Sign of a True Transformation

In the ancient times, this constellation was known as “the Eagle” and even in the Bible this sign is often mentioned in the Old as well as the New Testament, together with “the Lion, the Bull, and the Man”. The “face” of the Man is here referring to the sign of Aquarius, so the fixed astrological signs are portrayed as exceptionally important for marking the future of mankind.

So, what does this means for you? You have to be aware of the fact that the sign of Scorpio has three transformations along his lifeline. As a Scorpio, this person is often aggressive, vengeful, dishonest and even prone to criminal behavior. Then the life crisis follows and transforms this dangerous little animal into the Mighty Eagle.

The Eagle phase shows someone who is very dangerous also but is also courageous and righteous, with lots of skills and experience. And then, just for the special and chosen ones, the third transformation brings out the Phoenix. This is someone with extraordinary powers and the gift to heal the soul or the body of any living being.

Do You Really Know Which Type of Scorpio You Are Dating?

Dating a Scorpio Man

Let’s not exaggerate now; I doubt anyone might ever date the Phoenix type of guy. They are simply “undateable” because they belong to the avatar or a guru category.

But when you meet a Scorpio guy, do you ever wonder does he belong to the lower or a higher type of this zodiac sign? You will recognize a “lower” Scorpio by his harsh words, his fast gestures, and often his aggressiveness.

He will insist on a hookup type of experience and if you refuse, he might call you names and act disgustingly in many other ways. According to another scenario, he could be truly interested in you, but if you have a keen eye, you will be able to notice his nervousness, jealousy, and possessiveness. And those traits in him will increase over the time you spend together.

You may wonder now, what if you were so lucky to date an Eagle type of guy. Well, in this case, you are trapped for sure, because he will take your heart whether each of you two wants a committed relationship or not.

Like every Scorpio, he is very skilled in the arts of a physical and mental war, he can look deep into your soul and he knows many things about you before you even open your mouth for the first time, just by noticing your gestures, eyes and the levels of your energy.

Don’t Ever Fake with the Scorpio Guy

When you are dating a Scorpio man, trust me, you don’t want to fake with the Scorpio man ever. Don’t be misled by the popular viewpoints regarding this sign. You don’t need to pretend like you are a powerful vamp woman if you are not. And there is no reason for you to dress in black, paint your nails or lips in black also, wear something too revealing if those details don’t resemble your personality.

Your over-accentuated gestures or fashion style will only make him think that he is dating some sort of a classical theater actress or a nut, and you don’t want this to happen. Remember, your intelligence and the sense of humor, are the two major things which will bring you closer to him.

He, the higher type or the mature type of a Scorpio guy, is looking for a real woman with the high set of standards, but he is also looking for a woman who is easy and joyous to be with.

Have in mind that the first impression he gets regarding you will color your whole relationship, so try to show off with your true femininity, your sensitiveness, and your passion. The woman without her own personal passion doesn’t have a special value in his eyes.

This “passion” can be anything which uplifts your spirit, meaning your cooking, gardening, dancing, arts, sports, your interest in science or literally anything under heavens.

In this manner, you will clearly show to him and to the world, that you are a stable and independent human being and your life doesn’t revolve only around the issues or romance. On the other side, your natural femininity will force his subconscious mind to treat you like someone who needs to be protected and he will naturally slip into this role of a knight in shining armor.

Scorpio Man Is a Man, So Let Him Be a Man

Dating a Scorpio Man

When you are dating a Scorpio man, you don’t need to worry about him at all. If he is interested, he will approach you, he will ask your number and he will set the date. There is nothing special or extraordinary you should do before, nor will you have to “dance” around him to make him notice you. You have been noticed. If he is interested and attracted, he will make the first move, otherwise, you are just wasting your time.

In this day and age, when dating a Scorpio man, many women make the same mistake, presuming that he needs a little encouragement or perhaps he didn’t have the chance to see them in all of their glory. However, this is simply not the truth. If you approach him first and if you are the one to lead this relationship, even only in the early stages, then you should know that he won’t stick around for a long time.


In the game of love with the Scorpio guy, always remember the basic. He is Mars, you are Venus. And you don’t have to be or do anything except to be truly yourself. Then, if he is really into you, he will become your faithful protector and provider.

Do you have any experience dating a Scorpio man? Let me know!!

Share your story (or situation) with our community in the comment section below (don’t worry, it’s anonymous).

Wishing you all the luck of the universe

Your friend and Relationship Astrologer, Anna Kovach

  • I find him warm, then cold. Wondering if I offended him. He calls once a month for something I can for him. No dates, nothing but sex have we shared. He used me

    • Hi Medlia! Yes, Scorpio men do hot and cold quite frequently. That’s how they cope with the fact that they are unsure of themselves and are unsure of you as well. If you dive into bed with them too quickly you end up being a “friend with benefits”. If you feel he used you then you should probably cut him loose and move on. Not all Scorpio men are this way so please don’t rule them all out due to one bad guy. Just next time be careful and don’t form a sexual bond until you get a commitment first. Take care of yourself!

  • A Scorpio guy and I were sexting pretty hot and heavy…I have no doubts that he was not a hacker….we planned to meet at a hotel,but I chickened out at the last minute and he pulled his profile off POF immediately..any chance he will check back with me? I really dug him!

    • Hi donna ford! I’m not sure if he will check back with you but do you have a way to reach out to him again? I’d try to look him up on other sources if you can and if not, if he was on POF, chances are he’ll get back on there. He may have just enjoyed the experience with you and moved on as well. There is no way to know unless you’re able to reach out to him or vice versa. I wish you all the very best!

    • Hi Merlina! I can certainly understand where you are coming from. They can be really confusing and down right heartless sometimes. However, they’re also amazing and loyal. I think maybe you would benefit from checking out my book “Scorpio Man Secrets” as there is loads of information that may be useful to you. I wish you all the best!

  • I met a Scorpio male online, we were FB friends for years and to cut a long story, he told me he had fallen in love when he first saw a photo of me and we got together. It was a long distance r/ship of 8 months and he fitted the bill, the long silences, etc, then I found out he was cheating on me, and things started falling into place, then I discovered I think, am pretty certain he is a Narcisst Personality Disorder, he certainly fits the bill. He has blocked me out totally and Im left in pure misery because I ended up falling in love with him. I had dealings with a Scorpio once before and swore I would never get involved with another one, and my own brother is one and I can see a lot of traits that also fit him.

    • Hi Marie! I’m so sorry to hear that you’ve had this experience. I do what you to know that not all Scorpio men are exactly the same. I hope you don’t rule them all out due to what you’ve experienced. Some of them are very loving and loyal. Their moon sign and rising sign play a huge role in their personality traits so next time, you should try to find out what those may be to see if it’s a more stable and secure type of Scorpio guy.

  • Hello. I’m going through a divorce. Yes I’m seeing a scorpion guy. Hot and cold. He’s not stayed away. We see each off and on. I’m honest with him. He says, he doesn’t know what to do? It’s like he’s always fighting with him self. Good and bad?! I’m confused. Unless we are together.
    Thank you.

    • Hi Christy! He’s dragging his feet in part because you’re not divorced yet and he can. He knows you cannot fully commit just yet and well, they’re terrified of getting hurt. This is going to take time with him so that he can get comfortable, you can take care of what you have to, and he can decide how to handle the feelings he has for you. If you aren’t clear on what it is he doesn’t know what to do with, ask him. Tell him you really care for him and want to take it slow so what is there to question. Maybe he’ll give you more clarity so that you can either move on or have patience with him.

  • My ex bf and I dated for almost six months, one day out of nowhere I came home from lunch and we got into a huge fight about something silly I didn’t tell him, to him it was a big deal because my ex came to my job to harass me. After that fight he broke up with me and stated he wanted me out of our house, I told him I wanted to work things out but he didn’t want to. I moved out and the same night I left he sent me random texts with pictures of one of our dogs being sad and the comment “are you happy yOu happy hour ruined our life for your new guy” couple days went by and I tried to find ways to fix our issue with no luck. One night he cane over and checked my phone which had a message to my best friend from childhood telling him that my ex and I broke up and I didn’t know what to do. My ex got furious and left right away saying I was a liar. During this past 3 weeks I found out he is seeing a new girl and confronted him because he keeps trying to make me look like I’m the one seeing other people, he said to me “as much as I hate to tell you she is not my girlfriend” this girl and I have friends in common and they keep talking about instagram post of her and my ex at the gym or him cleaning her car or her spending the night at my old house. Funny is that new girl has the same bday as mine so he is taking her to do the things he planed to do with me. So for my bday my parents bought me a ticket to go on vacation, I mentioned it to him and he responded “ I cannot do this, if I cannot trust you while you are here, how am I gonna trust you in another state, I cannot let this hurt me nor think about what you will be doing”. The day after that conversation I got into a car accident and he called me saying he was extremely worried, I told him I was ok, he asked what happened and I told him the Truth, I was leaving a bar after I picked up my friends and taking them home, he texted me a day later he knew exactly what I did and who I was with (no one obviously) so he needed to stop talking to me and block me which he has not block me just yet, I told him that fine but when you realize you lost a good woman that loved you and wanted a future with you I’ll be far gone. This was a couple weeks ago, he called me last Friday and he was upset with me because he said he wanted to talk about something important with me but I ruined it because I was talking to a new guy. Can somebody explain what is going on?
    Thank you

    • Hi MV! Scorpio men have trust issues. They’re born with them. The thing is, if he’s that insecure it’s because he has low self esteem when it comes to your love. He feels he’s not good enough or that he cannot give you what you deserve which makes him fearful that you’ll leave him for someone else who can give you what you deserve. Make sense? Him sabotaging things is his way of proving that you’ll leave him which makes no sense because he’s the one pushing. Tell him you’re not talking to anyone else and if he cannot get over his insecurities then you’re going to have to give up. Tell him you respect yourself and need to make sure you’re not going to get hurt. He probably won’t like that but he’ll have to think about it and decide if he still wants to act this way or if he realizes it’s HIS problem and fixes it. I wish you all the best!

  • I was
    Married to a Scorpio for 22 years.
    Our courtship was quick, fast and furious! He proposed to me just 3 months after we met. We got married a year later.
    We had 5 kids together. It was a really great marriage. Many struggles but not within the marriage itself. We had many find adventures together. When he turned 40 he sorta changed. Or maybe he stayed the same and it was I that changed?? I discovered he was cheating on me, I found this out 6 months after the birth of our last baby. 1 year later he tells me he wants “alone time” and so that was 5 years ago… we been separated ever since.

    Currently, I’ve been seeing a Scorpio (which I only found out after I fell for this guy) – it’s a long distance relationship and I’ve been over to see him a few times. We’ve known each other for about 4 years. He’s recently separated too, ( just 6months)
    Next month I’ll be going to visit for his birthday! And he asked me if I’d want to go on a road trip to meet his mom and family! Sounds serious.
    By the way I’m an Aquarius. Apparently Aquarian’s and Scorpios are not comparable

    • Hi Tammy! My gosh, you’ve been through it haven’t you sweetheart?! Be careful with your heart as you get to know this other Scorpio guy. Not all of them are the same but you’ve still go to take care of yourself. Do what your intuition tells you to and don’t settle. Only further this relationship if things work well. No matter what the match up, if both people love each other and are willing to do the work, they can make it last. Trust in yourself sweetheart!

  • I have been dating a Scorpio man on and off for 6 yrs
    I still do not know where I stand with him . I am always breaking off with him because he won’t commit. He said he loves me but he shuts down and acts indifferent and other times he is loving and caring. His actions just don’t match his words. I don’t feel loved. I am mostly disappointed. Everytime I say that’s enough we stop seeing each other and then weeks or months later he draws me back but the same thing happens. I just can’t resist him .
    I am a Leo and I need attention and want to be a priority to him and I know I am not.
    Very confused!

    • Hi Anne Marie! It sounds like he’s non committal for whatever reason and you’re not going to change that about him. He will if he wants to but do you really want to sit around and wait on him to figure it out? You’re not happy. You need to find someone who will give you all the attention you crave honey. Someone else will make you a priority!

  • I’m in a relationship with a cancerian man but have been tempted by a Scorpioman into a friends with benefits relationship that only seems to have lasted a couple of months and now he’s not messaging me requesting what became a regular weekly bootie call. I so feel like chasing him and am pretty much stalking him in Facebook watching his conversations with other women and outings with ‘friends’. I just can’t get him out of my mind when I should just be focusing on my poor loyal trustworthy cancerian man that wants to marry me. Help I need some common sense kicked into me.

    • Hi Sue! This is a mess honey. FWB is never worth it. It 99% of the time goes nowhere and isn’t worth the risks. If you love your Cancer man then don’t give up on him. If things aren’t working well with him then you need to get out of the relationship before you enter into another one. Let this guy go (Scorpio man) and find your own way. Your Cancer man loves you enough to marry him but if you feel something is lacking then you need to find out what it is or you need to leave so you can find your happiness. Your bliss comes from within, not from someone else. Love yourself!

  • Wow, reading all of your comments about your Scorpio men has sure brought much more enlightenment to the table for me. I have been in a so called, sex only relationship with a Scorpio man for about 7 months. I too have tried to end it but he would find ways to win me some ways he is narcissistic.. just recently started to say some cruel things…there always seems to be personal issues,drama and excuses as to why he can’t have a real relationship right now or, bring it to the next level. I have not met any of his friends or family and I never see him on long weekends, most weekends or holidays. I know now that he is lying to me about having true feelings for me, just to keep the awesome sex going. On his terms and his schedule, late nights.. Yes. He is definitely the best I’ve ever had in bed and I got hooked and addicted to him right away. Unfortunately, my strong feelings for him, and never having been with a man that didn’t want a relationship with me, this entire sex only thing that’s beneath me and my values, drove me to the point of just about losing my mind. Drunken lashing out texts to him that if I wanted a secret sex kitten thing with a man that I would have to start charging by the hour. Not to mention, this has pushed me over the edge and to a point of such desperation that I had to start a form of counselling/ empowerment training. The good news is, this is helping and I’m realizing what an asshole he really is, and i’m taking my power back one piece at a time…and I’m starting not to like him.. I’m happy to say, that I’m starting to fall out of love with him and I know that I deserve much better than this. My advice to any of you drawn to and taken in by a Scorpio man who won’t commit, RUN!!! Before he has the chance to suck the entire life, respect and dignity right out of you and before he ruins your life. I left my husband for this scumbag.

    • Hi Ann! Yikes! I don’t think you should ever leave anyone unless that relationship isn’t working. Leaving someone for someone else usually doesn’t pan out and can distribute a karmic slap. I’m guessing this may have been what happened because it backfired. Take good care of yourself and do what you need to in order to feel fulfilled within yourself before you meet someone new. When you’re feeling good about your life and path, you’ll find things fall into place more. Don’t cast off all Scorpio men though. Not all of them act the way this guy did. He wanted his cake an eat it too which is unacceptable. Next time a guy tries the FWB route, say no! Don’t settle!

  • I dated a scorpio man….
    It’s 3 yrs relationship and we were about to marry,i was fighting in home to agree for us to marry and he just finished it within a minute…. He created so many scenes to make me guilty about break up…..

    • Hi Aaaaa! I’m so very sorry you’ve had to deal with this emotional terrorism. Many Scorpio men are good at doing that when they’re trying to get revenge. Try to brush it off and pick yourself back up. Cut the cord and move forward. Not all Scorpio men will treat you badly so I hope you don’t write them off entirely. Sending you blessings!

  • I’ve been married to my first boyfriend, who is Capricorn. Last semester, I met someone in the college, A Scorpio guy, who got me thinking about him all the time. We started to flirting with each other. I wasn’t sure he noticed I was married.I fell hard for him. So, I decided to send him an email telling him about my feelings and my marital status. He changed with me. I don’t know if it’s because I told him about my feelings or about my marital status. I went talk to him, and told him I told everything to my husband and that we are going to divorce. He encouraged me to do it, he said he believes me and that we would still see each other out of the campus. We talked one day more in the campus. Two weeks ago I tried to talk to him and he was so cold to me, that I apologized for taking his time and walked away. Since them, we didn’t speak or see each other. I don’t know what to think about it. Someone can help me please?

    • Hi JJ! Scorpio men are naturally untrusting and have to see it to believe it. That being said, I think he’s waiting to see that you divorce before he gets too close to you. He wants proof that you’re going to do what you say. You can initiate to him as far as talking goes but I wouldn’t press him about anything further until you’re free from your situation. He will want you to be all his. I hope this helps!

  • Hello Ann, this is the 2nd time I’m dating my Scorpio guy. The last couple times I stayed over his Mom’s house I was under the weather. After that we had a discussion on marriage and children sharing his concern about my Health. But also he said something really mean along the words that I wouldn’t be a good Mother.

    I 💖 him and I want this to work. Any advice?

    • Hi Rachel! I would be asking him why he thinks you would be a bad mother. That’s not a nice thing to say to someone you are planning a life with. You need to find out if it’s a concern of his that is valid or was he just in a bad mood? I know you love him but if he says any other out of left field mean things to you then he’s in some way emotionally abusing you and you need to put your foot down and not allow that. Love doesn’t mean it’s alright to be a door mat to someone. You both sound young and perhaps need to grow some more before you commit to each other permanently. Please do what is best for you!

  • Currently in a relationship with a scorpio man. We’ve been together for a bit over a year. I’ve never dated one. (Virgo here, btw.) We met online and it’s been a whirlwind in some ways but because of past trauma for both of us we’re taking things slowly. I’ve met family and he’s met mine. I am very happy with him. We talk about everything. I feel I can be my complete self and he still loves me. He doesn’t mince words with me. We’ve had a few bumps in the road but we are able to talk things out. My past relationships were with a libra and an aquarius. The aquarius was emotionally abusive to me. Very deceptive… his actions stopped matching his words. I tell my scorpio that he is a breath of fresh air because he is open and honest with me. I know exactly where I stand with him…I try to let him know where he stands with me. We’ve helped each other rebuilt our hearts to love again.

    • Hi Q! Virgo and Scorpio go very well together. Meeting families is a very big thing for the both of you. I think this relationship is on a really good track and has the capability to last a life time as long as you both keep that wonderful communication open between you. Thank you so much for sharing your experience with me sweetheart!

  • I’ve been seeing a scorpion man for over a year. Met each other’s family. Traveled alone and with family. I’m pisces and my prior relationship was with a cancer who was amazing but couldn’t commit to me. He wanted someone else. So when I met my scorpio they were very similar. Respectful, homest, secure, supportive, extremely funny, and amazing in bed. For the last 2 months he’s changed. No sex. No dates. No spending time with me whatsoever. Says he’s just changed his philosophy. He didn’t throw me away (this is my feeling). Says school is his priority. He’s always studying and I haven’t seen him with anyone else. He calls randomly and video calls from time to time. I text my feelings and no response. He’s killing me!!!!! I support him for being studious. In fact I love his drive for it, but meanwhile I feel like crap. What do I do?????

    • Hi YYD! Yes, you are a water sign who is drawn to other water signs since you seem to understand them on a deep emotional level. He’s prioritized and relationships have become back burner to what he thinks needs to be done first. I can understand how this makes you feel. It’s a matter of you deciding if you can wait him out and be patient or if you have to perhaps maintain friendship with him while you move on. Maybe by the time he’s ready again, you’ll still be available. Then again, you could meet yet another water sign in which you feel very loving with. It’s up to you what you want sweetheart. I wish you all the very best in whatever you decide.

  • I am currently in a relationship with a Scorpio who is a Marine..and WOW. Hes passionate and intense and persued me, wouldnt give up which I found very attractive. Has openly admitted to being possessive and jealous but I find it endearing. Hes already asked me to marry him after 2 mos. I of course said yes because hes the man of my dreams. Everything good that has been said through these emails is exactly my Matthew.

    • Hi Jamie Larson! Scorpio and Marine? That’s doubled passion right there! Yes I can also see him being jealous and possessive which is normal for a Scorpio but also for a Marine I believe. That mentality of order and loyalty. I’m glad you said yes to his proposal and I wish you all the happiness in the world darling. Thank you so much for sharing your wonderful Scorpio man experience!

  • Yes I have dated 2 in my lifetime. I loved both of them. I am an Aquarius/Pisces cup. It wasnt about the sex, I just enjoyed being with them. One was killed many years ago but we still had a courtship at the time. The other one is still alive and we still have a courtship. They are unpredictable beings almost like Bipolar disorder or something. They come and go at any giving time. Very mean and whoreish man.To date this man and be happy is to find yourself and love yourself. Do focus on him until needed too. I enjoy him when he is around and acting normal but have he starts to wonder and stray away for no reason at all I simply let him go and do me. He will return and if you want to date him fine but if youre done, tell him to go on. But he will never completely leave you alone even if he dates other people.

    • Hi Sharita! It sounds like you’ve gotten a perfect formula for how to deal with a Scorpio man. Good for you and thank you for sharing what you know. I am sorry for your loss though sweetheart. Blessings to you!

  • I work with a guy who is a Scorpio. I think he likes me but has not initiated anything. On the phone we can talk for hours and he shares things with me that he doesn’t share with others. He’s defended me to our coworkers when they said not nice things and lately has been opening the door for me when we’re together. One day we have a deep conversation, the next day he seems cold and distant. I’m giving him space and not bothering him as I know he is focused on school. Any advice? Please help.

  • Hey Anna! I hope you can help me realizing some signs that I probably have missed. So I met my scorpio boyfriend when he was in a holiday. He visited my country and we started seeing each other and dated straightaway. (I’m a Pisces with gemini moon and Venus in pisces. He’s a Scorpio with Libra moon and Venus in Virgo).
    Things were so great when we were still together. We clicked and connected in a way. I would say we were so great together.
    But then, when things were just so great, he told me that his ex would come to visit him for 2 weeks soon and he couldn’t promise if they wouldn’t get drunk one day and have sex. We broke up but we were still seeing each other afterwards. Until his ex came, we didn’t speak to each other, his ex left, we met each other again and talk about things. He said he realized that he really love me. We kept going until he had to leave back to his country. We’re doing a Long Distance Relationship right now and it was good the first 2 weeks. But then he started being hot and cold again, which I’m kinda getting used to it, but that time he went cold for too long so I called him out. We talked things through and all good. But then I asked him, did you have sex with someone else?
    And he said yes. We’re always being honest with everything since the beginning.
    He told me that he had sex with one of his ex (AGAIN) when he got back to his country and it was actually on my birthday week! I had an accident on my birthday and had to stay in hospital for 4 days. And he had sex during that period.
    I was so upset at him and he said sorry he didn’t know why he did that and no excuses for that. But he felt very stressful after he did it. I know, logically it’s not right for me to take him back and pretend like everything’s okay. But at the same time, I could totally understand his position and I know how fucked up he could be because of his past and everything else which we’re trying to fix.
    But I don’t really know if I should give him a second chance or if I should just pull away from him. I don’t know what to do in this situation and what to say to him. I know there’s a difference between being understanding and being a doormat. Please help 🙁

  • Wow. This really opens up some of the mysteries behind my Scorpio man. He indeed approaches me with the worst manners & such ghetto behavior that its repulsive. I dont care to be called “bitch” thank you. Ill be the first to tell you a bitch but I dont contend with being called one in the way hes used the term. Yet, hes a sweet very attentive lover once he shuts up. Which is hardly ever lol. I had a toothache, I asked him to throw some his power to me to heal it (on the phone)….it went away, instantly. That is profound, Im a healer so I know its authentic. What I cant understand is the Scorpio mans need to be told not to mess up my home. Hes tracked mud, leaves fingerprints on doors lol, throws dirty clothes on my floor& left haor all over my shower floor. OMG. How rude & ignorant & disrespectfult can he get? I told him if he showers aty place that HE needs to clean up after himself. No dice. I feel like Im raising another child. My five yr old doesnt act like that even. I guess it has to do with upbringing maybe. He hadnt mentioned his mother much, come to think of it. Hes only said his father hit him. Theres many dynamics involved regarding behavior, mostly its fear based thinking that pulls us astray from a forward thinking path. Nonetheless, I am one who seeks understanding & Ive tried to avoid things like dirty clothes n mud but its as if Im ignored. And thats just not good. Its like a test, but Im not a fan of such maneuvers attempted by people. Im brutally honest, an empath, Im psychic & gifted in all areas, & Im intelligent. My Scorpio isnt aware of what or who an empath is, so that already leaves a gap for his wild mind to fill with a void of false impressions. But this is why I point things out & put it all out there. Perhaps like myself, he may have to discover these things for himself. Maybe hes been misled by others & doesnt recognize my authentic nature. Ego seems to stand before me in line. Maybe hes an Eagle that is still not confident so reverts to other ways instead of less comfortable ways that it would take for him to level up & maintain it. Im concerned he will miss the opportunity to shift towards the higher calling while hes wasting time repeating past behaviors & maintaining the habits of ignoring the fire thats kindling before him while hes distracted by some other fire that doesnt need started or attended. The fire is burning, will he stop trying to build & start the fire thats not serving the greater good? Im going to allow him some self learning, Ive already started to back off in certain areas of my up frontness about things. So far, it seems like Im still on question 34/100 on a difficult exam, the clock is ticking & my mind is going “what?” so loudly. Sorry for the rant, it may not make sense lol. Thank you for the insightful meaningful info.

  • I am dating a Scorpio guy for few days now (officially). But we were somehow dating for 3 months (Unofficially). Everything is amazing. His family likes me, his friends do too. And he also told me he loves me. Well. Actually he texted it. And he was pushing me to text it back. But I wanted to tell him in the eyes. And he misunderstood and started to text things like he doesn’t want something like this, one-sided, that it’s not gonna work and it hurt. I don’t like the way he’s pushing me to it. It’s not for the first time. He wants me to always tell him how I love him, care about him, what I like about him. But it’s hard for me to say such a things and he knows it. But he uses ending our relationship as a threat and I feel under pressure. Why are words so important to him? I want to show it, not say it. Words are meanless.

  • Anna, I met my Scorpio almost two years ago when he was recommended to make repairs to my house before closing. My daughter and real estate agent were there when we first met. I saw him and those piercing blue eyes and was mesmerized. He looked at me and said, do I know you? I know that I know you. Instant sparks. When he left the real estate agent said “that was really something!” and my adult daughter said, “Mom, what was that? He couldn’t take his eyes off of you!” Flash to two months ago when I reached out to him to reroof my house. We saw each other. Same sparks. He started texting me extensively and although there has been and still is lots of very hot texting (I can’t wait to get him in bed), more recently he has started opening up to me about his life. He says he doesn’t want another relationship (he is 60, I’m 66), but in the next text, he is flirting with me, trying to make me jealous (as a tease), etc., then he tells me he is monogamous. I believe him. I just know there are no other women but me an there hasn’t been one in years. We are going through the Covid-19 shutdown here and he has health issues and he stays 6′ away from everyone, so there has been no touching whatsoever and no dating because everything is closed. I am oh so ready for touching. Anyway, I have seen him 3 times in the last few weeks, more than I ever have. He has started moving to stand right next to me and a few days ago, he stroked my hair and arm. My sister passed away a few days ago and he was so supportive and loving in his talks with me. However, sometimes he doesn’t contact me for days at a time. Several times I have reached out first, sometimes he reaches out first and things are always fine. Each time he does this, I feel like my world is ending and he won’t be back. I know in my heart-of-hearts that he is a truly good man and he has been showing his softer side…he’s a tough guy on the outside. He just has a lot going on in his business, his health, etc. He is always testing me and I mostly give the right responses but I have been hurt badly and have the same trust issues that he does. This means that sometimes I am not strong and he knows it. He says I am overthinking everything…which I do! Sorry about the rambling, but I know that Scorpio men need their space/privacy, but I can hardly handle it. Should I keep being patient with this or am I being foolishly in love with a man who says he doesn’t want a relationship? I can’t understand why he just can’t text me an “I’m okay, just busy” or something. Pretty certain that he cares about me but not as much as I do him. What should I do? Wait, run? I’m scared that I have turned him off by my occasional insecurity. What should I do to keep this gorgeous man and get things to the next step. Thanks, Anna!

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