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What They Don’t Tell You About Dating a Scorpio Man

When it comes to popular astrology the sign of Scorpio seems to be one of the most favored of them all. This is usually related to the Scorpio’s powerful sex drive and their intellectual abilities, often interpreted as shrewdness or inclinations toward revenge.

“They” meaning the widespread and popular astrology texts tend to overlook some very important facts regarding this great sign. And if you want to learn more, let’s dive deeper into the heart of Scorpio.

Scorpio Is the Sign of a True Transformation

In the ancient times, this constellation was known as “the Eagle” and even in the Bible this sign is often mentioned in the Old as well as the New Testament, together with “the Lion, the Bull, and the Man”. The “face” of the Man is here referring to the sign of Aquarius, so the fixed astrological signs are portrayed as exceptionally important for marking the future of mankind.

So, what does this means for you? You have to be aware of the fact that the sign of Scorpio has three transformations along his lifeline. As a Scorpio, this person is often aggressive, vengeful, dishonest and even prone to criminal behavior. Then the life crisis follows and transforms this dangerous little animal into the Mighty Eagle.

The Eagle phase shows someone who is very dangerous also but is also courageous and righteous, with lots of skills and experience. And then, just for the special and chosen ones, the third transformation brings out the Phoenix. This is someone with extraordinary powers and the gift to heal the soul or the body of any living being.

Do You Really Know Which Type of Scorpio You Are Dating?

Dating a Scorpio Man

Let’s not exaggerate now; I doubt anyone might ever date the Phoenix type of guy. They are simply “undateable” because they belong to the avatar or a guru category.

But when you meet a Scorpio guy, do you ever wonder does he belong to the lower or a higher type of this zodiac sign? You will recognize a “lower” Scorpio by his harsh words, his fast gestures, and often his aggressiveness.

He will insist on a hookup type of experience and if you refuse, he might call you names and act disgustingly in many other ways. According to another scenario, he could be truly interested in you, but if you have a keen eye, you will be able to notice his nervousness, jealousy, and possessiveness. And those traits in him will increase over the time you spend together.

You may wonder now, what if you were so lucky to date an Eagle type of guy. Well, in this case, you are trapped for sure, because he will take your heart whether each of you two wants a committed relationship or not.

Like every Scorpio, he is very skilled in the arts of a physical and mental war, he can look deep into your soul and he knows many things about you before you even open your mouth for the first time, just by noticing your gestures, eyes and the levels of your energy.

Don’t Ever Fake with the Scorpio Guy

When you are dating a Scorpio man, trust me, you don’t want to fake with the Scorpio man ever. Don’t be misled by the popular viewpoints regarding this sign. You don’t need to pretend like you are a powerful vamp woman if you are not. And there is no reason for you to dress in black, paint your nails or lips in black also, wear something too revealing if those details don’t resemble your personality.

Your over-accentuated gestures or fashion style will only make him think that he is dating some sort of a classical theater actress or a nut, and you don’t want this to happen. Remember, your intelligence and the sense of humor, are the two major things which will bring you closer to him.

He, the higher type or the mature type of a Scorpio guy, is looking for a real woman with the high set of standards, but he is also looking for a woman who is easy and joyous to be with.

Have in mind that the first impression he gets regarding you will color your whole relationship, so try to show off with your true femininity, your sensitiveness, and your passion. The woman without her own personal passion doesn’t have a special value in his eyes.

This “passion” can be anything which uplifts your spirit, meaning your cooking, gardening, dancing, arts, sports, your interest in science or literally anything under heavens.

In this manner, you will clearly show to him and to the world, that you are a stable and independent human being and your life doesn’t revolve only around the issues or romance. On the other side, your natural femininity will force his subconscious mind to treat you like someone who needs to be protected and he will naturally slip into this role of a knight in shining armor.

Scorpio Man Is a Man, So Let Him Be a Man

Dating a Scorpio Man

When you are dating a Scorpio man, you don’t need to worry about him at all. If he is interested, he will approach you, he will ask your number and he will set the date. There is nothing special or extraordinary you should do before, nor will you have to “dance” around him to make him notice you. You have been noticed. If he is interested and attracted, he will make the first move, otherwise, you are just wasting your time.

In this day and age, when dating a Scorpio man, many women make the same mistake, presuming that he needs a little encouragement or perhaps he didn’t have the chance to see them in all of their glory. However, this is simply not the truth. If you approach him first and if you are the one to lead this relationship, even only in the early stages, then you should know that he won’t stick around for a long time.


In the game of love with the Scorpio guy, always remember the basic. He is Mars, you are Venus. And you don’t have to be or do anything except to be truly yourself. Then, if he is really into you, he will become your faithful protector and provider.

Do you have any experience dating a Scorpio man? Let me know!!

Share your story (or situation) with our community in the comment section below (don’t worry, it’s anonymous).

Wishing you all the luck of the universe

Your friend and Relationship Astrologer, Anna Kovach

  • I find him warm, then cold. Wondering if I offended him. He calls once a month for something I can for him. No dates, nothing but sex have we shared. He used me

  • A Scorpio guy and I were sexting pretty hot and heavy…I have no doubts that he was not a hacker….we planned to meet at a hotel,but I chickened out at the last minute and he pulled his profile off POF immediately..any chance he will check back with me? I really dug him!

  • I met a Scorpio male online, we were FB friends for years and to cut a long story, he told me he had fallen in love when he first saw a photo of me and we got together. It was a long distance r/ship of 8 months and he fitted the bill, the long silences, etc, then I found out he was cheating on me, and things started falling into place, then I discovered I think, am pretty certain he is a Narcisst Personality Disorder, he certainly fits the bill. He has blocked me out totally and Im left in pure misery because I ended up falling in love with him. I had dealings with a Scorpio once before and swore I would never get involved with another one, and my own brother is one and I can see a lot of traits that also fit him.

  • Hello. I’m going through a divorce. Yes I’m seeing a scorpion guy. Hot and cold. He’s not stayed away. We see each off and on. I’m honest with him. He says, he doesn’t know what to do? It’s like he’s always fighting with him self. Good and bad?! I’m confused. Unless we are together.
    Thank you.

    • Hi Christy! He’s dragging his feet in part because you’re not divorced yet and he can. He knows you cannot fully commit just yet and well, they’re terrified of getting hurt. This is going to take time with him so that he can get comfortable, you can take care of what you have to, and he can decide how to handle the feelings he has for you. If you aren’t clear on what it is he doesn’t know what to do with, ask him. Tell him you really care for him and want to take it slow so what is there to question. Maybe he’ll give you more clarity so that you can either move on or have patience with him.

  • My ex bf and I dated for almost six months, one day out of nowhere I came home from lunch and we got into a huge fight about something silly I didn’t tell him, to him it was a big deal because my ex came to my job to harass me. After that fight he broke up with me and stated he wanted me out of our house, I told him I wanted to work things out but he didn’t want to. I moved out and the same night I left he sent me random texts with pictures of one of our dogs being sad and the comment “are you happy yOu happy hour ruined our life for your new guy” couple days went by and I tried to find ways to fix our issue with no luck. One night he cane over and checked my phone which had a message to my best friend from childhood telling him that my ex and I broke up and I didn’t know what to do. My ex got furious and left right away saying I was a liar. During this past 3 weeks I found out he is seeing a new girl and confronted him because he keeps trying to make me look like I’m the one seeing other people, he said to me “as much as I hate to tell you she is not my girlfriend” this girl and I have friends in common and they keep talking about instagram post of her and my ex at the gym or him cleaning her car or her spending the night at my old house. Funny is that new girl has the same bday as mine so he is taking her to do the things he planed to do with me. So for my bday my parents bought me a ticket to go on vacation, I mentioned it to him and he responded “ I cannot do this, if I cannot trust you while you are here, how am I gonna trust you in another state, I cannot let this hurt me nor think about what you will be doing”. The day after that conversation I got into a car accident and he called me saying he was extremely worried, I told him I was ok, he asked what happened and I told him the Truth, I was leaving a bar after I picked up my friends and taking them home, he texted me a day later he knew exactly what I did and who I was with (no one obviously) so he needed to stop talking to me and block me which he has not block me just yet, I told him that fine but when you realize you lost a good woman that loved you and wanted a future with you I’ll be far gone. This was a couple weeks ago, he called me last Friday and he was upset with me because he said he wanted to talk about something important with me but I ruined it because I was talking to a new guy. Can somebody explain what is going on?
    Thank you

    • Hi MV! Scorpio men have trust issues. They’re born with them. The thing is, if he’s that insecure it’s because he has low self esteem when it comes to your love. He feels he’s not good enough or that he cannot give you what you deserve which makes him fearful that you’ll leave him for someone else who can give you what you deserve. Make sense? Him sabotaging things is his way of proving that you’ll leave him which makes no sense because he’s the one pushing. Tell him you’re not talking to anyone else and if he cannot get over his insecurities then you’re going to have to give up. Tell him you respect yourself and need to make sure you’re not going to get hurt. He probably won’t like that but he’ll have to think about it and decide if he still wants to act this way or if he realizes it’s HIS problem and fixes it. I wish you all the best!

  • I was
    Married to a Scorpio for 22 years.
    Our courtship was quick, fast and furious! He proposed to me just 3 months after we met. We got married a year later.
    We had 5 kids together. It was a really great marriage. Many struggles but not within the marriage itself. We had many find adventures together. When he turned 40 he sorta changed. Or maybe he stayed the same and it was I that changed?? I discovered he was cheating on me, I found this out 6 months after the birth of our last baby. 1 year later he tells me he wants “alone time” and so that was 5 years ago… we been separated ever since.

    Currently, I’ve been seeing a Scorpio (which I only found out after I fell for this guy) – it’s a long distance relationship and I’ve been over to see him a few times. We’ve known each other for about 4 years. He’s recently separated too, ( just 6months)
    Next month I’ll be going to visit for his birthday! And he asked me if I’d want to go on a road trip to meet his mom and family! Sounds serious.
    By the way I’m an Aquarius. Apparently Aquarian’s and Scorpios are not comparable

    • Hi Tammy! My gosh, you’ve been through it haven’t you sweetheart?! Be careful with your heart as you get to know this other Scorpio guy. Not all of them are the same but you’ve still go to take care of yourself. Do what your intuition tells you to and don’t settle. Only further this relationship if things work well. No matter what the match up, if both people love each other and are willing to do the work, they can make it last. Trust in yourself sweetheart!

  • I have been dating a Scorpio man on and off for 6 yrs
    I still do not know where I stand with him . I am always breaking off with him because he won’t commit. He said he loves me but he shuts down and acts indifferent and other times he is loving and caring. His actions just don’t match his words. I don’t feel loved. I am mostly disappointed. Everytime I say that’s enough we stop seeing each other and then weeks or months later he draws me back but the same thing happens. I just can’t resist him .
    I am a Leo and I need attention and want to be a priority to him and I know I am not.
    Very confused!

    • Hi Anne Marie! It sounds like he’s non committal for whatever reason and you’re not going to change that about him. He will if he wants to but do you really want to sit around and wait on him to figure it out? You’re not happy. You need to find someone who will give you all the attention you crave honey. Someone else will make you a priority!

  • I’m in a relationship with a cancerian man but have been tempted by a Scorpioman into a friends with benefits relationship that only seems to have lasted a couple of months and now he’s not messaging me requesting what became a regular weekly bootie call. I so feel like chasing him and am pretty much stalking him in Facebook watching his conversations with other women and outings with ‘friends’. I just can’t get him out of my mind when I should just be focusing on my poor loyal trustworthy cancerian man that wants to marry me. Help I need some common sense kicked into me.

    • Hi Sue! This is a mess honey. FWB is never worth it. It 99% of the time goes nowhere and isn’t worth the risks. If you love your Cancer man then don’t give up on him. If things aren’t working well with him then you need to get out of the relationship before you enter into another one. Let this guy go (Scorpio man) and find your own way. Your Cancer man loves you enough to marry him but if you feel something is lacking then you need to find out what it is or you need to leave so you can find your happiness. Your bliss comes from within, not from someone else. Love yourself!

  • Wow, reading all of your comments about your Scorpio men has sure brought much more enlightenment to the table for me. I have been in a so called, sex only relationship with a Scorpio man for about 7 months. I too have tried to end it but he would find ways to win me some ways he is narcissistic.. just recently started to say some cruel things…there always seems to be personal issues,drama and excuses as to why he can’t have a real relationship right now or, bring it to the next level. I have not met any of his friends or family and I never see him on long weekends, most weekends or holidays. I know now that he is lying to me about having true feelings for me, just to keep the awesome sex going. On his terms and his schedule, late nights.. Yes. He is definitely the best I’ve ever had in bed and I got hooked and addicted to him right away. Unfortunately, my strong feelings for him, and never having been with a man that didn’t want a relationship with me, this entire sex only thing that’s beneath me and my values, drove me to the point of just about losing my mind. Drunken lashing out texts to him that if I wanted a secret sex kitten thing with a man that I would have to start charging by the hour. Not to mention, this has pushed me over the edge and to a point of such desperation that I had to start a form of counselling/ empowerment training. The good news is, this is helping and I’m realizing what an asshole he really is, and i’m taking my power back one piece at a time…and I’m starting not to like him.. I’m happy to say, that I’m starting to fall out of love with him and I know that I deserve much better than this. My advice to any of you drawn to and taken in by a Scorpio man who won’t commit, RUN!!! Before he has the chance to suck the entire life, respect and dignity right out of you and before he ruins your life. I left my husband for this scumbag.

    • Hi Ann! Yikes! I don’t think you should ever leave anyone unless that relationship isn’t working. Leaving someone for someone else usually doesn’t pan out and can distribute a karmic slap. I’m guessing this may have been what happened because it backfired. Take good care of yourself and do what you need to in order to feel fulfilled within yourself before you meet someone new. When you’re feeling good about your life and path, you’ll find things fall into place more. Don’t cast off all Scorpio men though. Not all of them act the way this guy did. He wanted his cake an eat it too which is unacceptable. Next time a guy tries the FWB route, say no! Don’t settle!

  • I dated a scorpio man….
    It’s 3 yrs relationship and we were about to marry,i was fighting in home to agree for us to marry and he just finished it within a minute…. He created so many scenes to make me guilty about break up…..

    • Hi Aaaaa! I’m so very sorry you’ve had to deal with this emotional terrorism. Many Scorpio men are good at doing that when they’re trying to get revenge. Try to brush it off and pick yourself back up. Cut the cord and move forward. Not all Scorpio men will treat you badly so I hope you don’t write them off entirely. Sending you blessings!

  • I’ve been married to my first boyfriend, who is Capricorn. Last semester, I met someone in the college, A Scorpio guy, who got me thinking about him all the time. We started to flirting with each other. I wasn’t sure he noticed I was married.I fell hard for him. So, I decided to send him an email telling him about my feelings and my marital status. He changed with me. I don’t know if it’s because I told him about my feelings or about my marital status. I went talk to him, and told him I told everything to my husband and that we are going to divorce. He encouraged me to do it, he said he believes me and that we would still see each other out of the campus. We talked one day more in the campus. Two weeks ago I tried to talk to him and he was so cold to me, that I apologized for taking his time and walked away. Since them, we didn’t speak or see each other. I don’t know what to think about it. Someone can help me please?

  • Hello Ann, this is the 2nd time I’m dating my Scorpio guy. The last couple times I stayed over his Mom’s house I was under the weather. After that we had a discussion on marriage and children sharing his concern about my Health. But also he said something really mean along the words that I wouldn’t be a good Mother.

    I 💖 him and I want this to work. Any advice?

  • Currently in a relationship with a scorpio man. We’ve been together for a bit over a year. I’ve never dated one. (Virgo here, btw.) We met online and it’s been a whirlwind in some ways but because of past trauma for both of us we’re taking things slowly. I’ve met family and he’s met mine. I am very happy with him. We talk about everything. I feel I can be my complete self and he still loves me. He doesn’t mince words with me. We’ve had a few bumps in the road but we are able to talk things out. My past relationships were with a libra and an aquarius. The aquarius was emotionally abusive to me. Very deceptive… his actions stopped matching his words. I tell my scorpio that he is a breath of fresh air because he is open and honest with me. I know exactly where I stand with him…I try to let him know where he stands with me. We’ve helped each other rebuilt our hearts to love again.

  • I’ve been seeing a scorpion man for over a year. Met each other’s family. Traveled alone and with family. I’m pisces and my prior relationship was with a cancer who was amazing but couldn’t commit to me. He wanted someone else. So when I met my scorpio they were very similar. Respectful, homest, secure, supportive, extremely funny, and amazing in bed. For the last 2 months he’s changed. No sex. No dates. No spending time with me whatsoever. Says he’s just changed his philosophy. He didn’t throw me away (this is my feeling). Says school is his priority. He’s always studying and I haven’t seen him with anyone else. He calls randomly and video calls from time to time. I text my feelings and no response. He’s killing me!!!!! I support him for being studious. In fact I love his drive for it, but meanwhile I feel like crap. What do I do?????

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