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What to Do if Your Scorpio Man Starts Ignoring You Due to Anger or Hurt

Are you getting the Scorpio silent treatment? Did you make him angry or hurt his feelings and now he’s pulling away from you?  

There are things you can do when a Scorpio man is mad at you. Keep reading to find out some really important information that just may save your relationship with your brooding Scorpio guy.

Scorpio Man Silent Treatment

You know you’ve really stepped into it when your Scorpio man starts ignoring you. Either you’ve hurt him or done something that pissed him off. You may not even know what you did.

If a Scorpio man ignores you, he tends to close himself off when he’s upset until he feels he can talk about it. That means that you’ll have to wait for him to come out of his shell and discuss it with you.

If it’s really bad, he may even leave for a while to get his head together. If you try to push him to talk to you; it will only make things worse. So if you can visibly tell he’s angry or upset with you via silent treatment, leave him be.

If your Scorpio man starts ignoring you for some reason, you can ask him once if there is something you can do. After you do, if he still is reluctant then let him have time to himself so he can work it out. He’s not going to open up to you until he feels he can.

Hurt or Angry Scorpio Man Moods

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Sometimes the Scorpio man is just in a nasty mood. When this happens, it has nothing to do with you though he could lash out. You can feel the energy coming off him when he walks in.

If you feel this vibe, it’s best to just back off and leave him alone. He’ll talk to you when he’s calmed down and ready to. Otherwise, if you try to get him to talk about it, he may blow up.

Where it wasn’t about you before, he’ll make it about you. So when he’s in one of these moods, back off and let him deal with his own issues. You can let him know you’re there when he’s ready to talk but then let him have quiet time.

You should be able to tell what’s going on with him by looking at his face or his actions. You’ll be able to tell when it’s safe as the energy will shift again as will his ability to communicate.

Of course if the Scorpio man silent treatment is painfully obvious, you’ll need to know exactly what to do. You can’t just dive in and question him.

This is a signature move from the Scorpio guy that shows you he’s upset with you in particular. So what do you do when this happens? The next section will help explain.

When it’s You, Apologize

When a Scorpio man is mad at you, he starts to ignore you then you definitively know that it was you that upset him. The best thing you can do is apologize and then let him have time and space to figure out whatever he needs to.

Scorpio men tend to hold grudges so it may be awhile before he’s able to completely forgive you depending on how bad it really was. He may not break it off but he’ll forever remember what happened.

He will resent it though if you know it was your fault and you don’t apologize. So whether he will remain upset with you or not; it’s best you admit your fault in whatever happened.

If you know it was your fault and you deny it, that will only further make him angry or hurt which will go against you and could cause him to call it quits. Be very careful!

How To Apologize To A Scorpio Man

This is a matter of delicacy for sure. You cannot just say “I’m sorry” and think that’s going to do the trick. You have to actually tell him the reason why you are sorry and that you’ll never do it again.

He is going to want full detail as to why you know you were in the wrong and how you plan to make it better. You can also tell him how you will make it up to him.

In this process, you need to mention that you didn’t take his feelings into account and that was wrong. Tell him that in the future, you will think of him before you say something or do something you’ll regret.

As long as he’s sure that you learned from your mistake and that you are actually really sorry about it, he may be very likely to forgive you. That is if you didn’t do something really awful.

Apologizing to your Scorpio guy is essential otherwise he’s going to feel you don’t care and that he should just let you go. Prove to him you are there for him for the long haul.

When Scorpio Man is Angry and Leaves

Whatever you do, do not chase after him. If you do, things will escalate and you will not like the results. He isn’t ready to hear anything you have to say and will just get angrier.

He needs time to cool off, think things over, and figure out what he wants to do about what happened. An apology won’t likely be heard in the heat of the moment. So while you should apologize, wait until things calm down.

Anything you say to him while he’s in a state of anger or great hurt, he will ignore it or feel you’re only telling him what he wants to hear. He will use it against you and send you away.

If he goes for that door or takes off in his car, let him go. He will return to you when he’s had some time to cool off and process everything that happened. He will likely want to ask you questions.

Until he gets to this point though, you’re going to have to remain patient and understand that he needs some time to himself. It’s much easier to talk to him when he’s regained his calm demeanor.

To Avoid Him Being Spiteful

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This guy is known for lashing out when he’s pissed off. This is yet another reason that you should just let him have space and time to sort things out when you know he’s upset.

If you do not, he will lash out at you and be rather hurtful. If you’ve hurt him in the past, he’ll bring that back up and throw it in your face. It’s best to avoid this altogether by just giving him some time.

When you are at his place, you should be the one to tell him that you’re going to give him some time and leave. Let him have alone time to process everything he has on his mind.

Whatever you do, don’t poke the hungry bear. Get out and spend some time on your own to allow him to figure out what happened and what he feels about it aside from blind anger.

It’s safer and healthier for you both to have some quiet time after a big blowout. Anger is never good for anyone neither is hurt. Scorpio is one of those signs that is hot tempered as well.

Conclusion to When a Scorpio Man Is Mad At You

Your Scorpio man has to have space and time in order to fully work through whatever it was that happened. When the time is right; you can go to him and apologize so that you can proceed to work things out.

If he’s ignoring your texts or phone calls; just give him some time. I know it’s hard but he feels deeply and it will take him a bit to figure it all out.

The Scorpio man silent treatment is no joke ladies! Just make sure you don’t do something that’s so bad that he cannot get past it or forgive you.

Be gentle with him and don’t forget to be gentle with yourself as well. It’s important to watch how you talk to each other. That makes for a better lasting relationship.

Temper or not, did you know that the personable and sexy famous TV chef, Gordon Ramsey is actually a Scorpio? It would be fun to cook something special up with him in the kitchen wouldn’t it?!

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Wishing you all the luck of the universe

Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,

Anna Kovach



  • So i met this guy online we talked and were really really close i helped him in his hardest times and depression. He did the same. Then i fell for him .. I don’t know why that happend it wasn’t intentional. He used to tell me he is scared of love but as we were best friends i had to tell him that i love him so i did then his behaviour changed he cared and said you are really special. But he talked less really less and kinda started ignoring me. I talked about the whole situation to him and he said that things changed because of love he said he has always been afriad of love and is scared even more now he said he was hurt knowing that he was hurting me. He said he is trying to aviod everyone and everything. So i decided to give him his space but its really hard we were so close and then things changed. I need help please tell me what should i do. I really love him he is in my soul i don’t wanna lose him at any cost. He said “things chnaged” if i give him time then would it be possibke that things get better. He is a scorpio. And honest and loving ones and he loved me as his best friend and still values me. What to do now?

  • I be been dating a Scorpio man for four years now married for months,I’m a cancer woman. I love him but he’s one of the most difficult signs I’ve ever dated, it’s tough but I do give him space, just wish he didnt always think he was right. However he’s my husband & I’ve learned how to deal with him. We recently had a big fight which was not my fault it was his controlling ways,now he’s fleed the scene and giving me the silent treatment. I’ve been here before Ihate it (silent treatment)but it’s just the way Scorpio men are,if your dating a Scorpio don’t blame yourself especially if it’s not your fault and just be patient,if you really want to be with him. Good luck!

    • Wow! This is my guy to a tee. I hate the silent treatment but that is his go-to when he’s mad or hurt. I’ve learned to just keep doing what i need to do and try not to think about it l. It use to make me really sad and i would think our relationship was over. I know now how to handle it but it still sucks.

    • Thank you, my Scorpio guy is slightly annoyed at me and I don’t know how to deal with it. But now I know. Thank you! ❤️

  • So my Scorpio man said he wanted to play the game when he comes over and when he came he let me practice for a little bit before we started playing the game which is Nintendo… so I practiced for a while he asked me a couple times if I was losing or etc and I was telling him I was so I kept playing then I noticed he was watching a show on his phone so I assumed he didn’t wanna play so when I was done practicing he asked am I done and I said yes and then he said u ready to play and I said yes and he was like just forget it u don’t want to play and I’m like yes I do …. then he just continued looking at his phone and I’m like are U gonna sit there and do that the whole night and he said u weren’t worried about me so don’t worry about it … so it became akward … I just felt like it wasn’t a big deal because i felt if he was ready to play he would just say ok u got enough practice let’s play now…. so I kept letting time go past but he just kept looking in his phone and i kept asking him are u gonna keep sitting there it was frustrating me because I didn’t understand why it made him so mad and distant it got to a point he wanted to leave and told me he feel uncomfortable … and I tried to stop him I kept apologizing and but he didn’t care and I apologized before hand too…when he left I texted him told him sorry again he said it’s cool just sleep I’ll ttyl and I told him please come back and said no he’s just not feeling it and told me to get rest …. I texted him again this afternoon told him even though he’s not talking to me right now I’m here if he needs me and to have a good day and not to stress …. what’s annoying is that his birthday is in 2 days should I still get him a present?

  • Ive been dating my boyfriend for 5 years we are highschool sweethearts we live together and have a 2 year old, they are my life i love them to death. Recently we broke up back in May we never had a serious break up until then because i moved out and left to live with my mom along with my son, then we got back together and i moved back in with him and let me tell you i have never tried this HARD with anyone in my life and i do it because i love him so much we had problems in the past that where both mine and his faults but whatever i let that go trying to move forward and make this relationship work. But recently out of the blue literally one day to another he told me he wasnt feeling me anymore of the relationship we have and that he was confused about what he wanted and that he just wanted to be alone and not worry about anyone but himself and he wants to live his life, travel and do all that and i told him whats the problem doing all that as a FAMILY. and i just cant get to him he gives me the cold shoulder and i just take it all i take all the pain all the back talk all the ignoring everything because i love him to death hes the love of my life, hes my sons father and we share a family but at this point im not sure what to even do anymore im giving him his space so he can just think and just have alone time because ive learned the hard way scorpios are ALL about having their space, where as i like to talk about my problems im a libra woman. So im just letting him be and im continuing to be there when he needs me to be there but also i want him to committ to me as much as i do to him, but like i said at this point im not even sure anymore. Its sad

    • Girl I relate to your relationship because I AM a female Libra as well dating a Scorpio male. This relationship is the most intense dynamic because of the polarities of emotions! My Scorpio guy and I have known each other for 4 years and been on and off for the past two years after engaging in a serious relationship. It is so difficult to surrender to the silent treatment especially as Libra woman . We hate conflict and ignoring problems within an argument especially if we feel it is our fault. The best suggestion I can advise you on is to give him space and respect his individual desires. I understand it feels selfish of him but in order for a relationship to succeed we have to acknowledge and understand our partner is an individual with independent needs and wants outside of a committed relationship. While respecting his wants also ASSERT yours! Communicate your expectation and set boundaries to prevent him from complacency and believing he will always have security in your relationship when “shit hits the fan” because of your forgiveness and willingness to prevail. I wish you all the best in this relationship! I hope you find comfort in my response as well.

      Sending love your way! xoxo

  • I been dating a Scorpio guy for 3years I don’t understand him at all he is quick to get mad block me it would be a small argument we have ldr I’m blocked he didn’t wish call or text me for new years he is mad over sending his stuff off in mail I’m confused and hurt, so I sent the stuff off and I’m still blocked this point idk what to do or how to deal with it.

    • That’s happening to me right now.. something so stupid that made no sense caused me to be blocked on everything can’t even call him… I went a little creepy and made a “fake page” wrote him and he blocked that page also, he can clearly see I’m apologetic and I wish we could move on from this stupid fight but it’s been 2 weeks no contact from him he even had his friend ignore me.. how long will this go on? I don’t know but I’m getting impatient.

    • I am a scorpion woman, we act the same, we don’t like being ignored or blocked, listen to me, I would forget about him totally. When he comes back, I would do the same thing. Nothing is really wrong about scorpion men. Just don’t give them to much attention, and they will come and chase you. All they do is looking for your weaknesses, and use them against you. Always show he is not a priority. Show him ohh you are ready to leave, well so honey I already have my dress on to leave before you. I know them very well. Please tchuiiiiiip

  • My scorpio man is passionate, intense, loyal, hard working, dedicated, smart, stubborn, controlling and a know it all! He’s also a Marine and the first born so the perfect storm, lol! He is definitely the love of my life and i am his. He’s 47 so there is some maturity there for sure but he loves the silent treatment. Sometimes over something I said or did or just because he’s in a mood. I’ve learned to just give him his space and wait for him to return. That is so much easier said then done. He’s a truck driver, so he’s gone a lot. And we talk on the phone about 4-5hrs a day throughout the day. When he’s mad, we may go all day without one word and that just KILLS me! I’m a Capricorn and I love to talk it out. I have never worked so hard on a relationship but I do think he’s worth it. WE are worth it! I just have to breath through the tough times…

  • I said something that inadvertently hurt my Scorpio’s feelings. It was a texting typo! He didn’t even give me time to apologize. His reaction was a swift “Go to hell!!” I tried to reason with him and he texted “I have nothing to say to you right now” I haven’t heard from since that day…Feb 12th ? We had the best communication, due to being long distance. Our mantra was “talk it out to work it out.” I desperately want to apologize. I don’t think he gave me a chance and he is letting a misunderstanding come between us. He has blocked & unfriended me and changed his phone # (not bcs of me) Short of writing him a letter, I have no other means of communication.
    What should I do? I miss him terribly! Will he ever come back? Will I ever hear from him again? I am a Pisces and we are soulmates/twin flames. We definitely have a special connection from day one that neither of us has felt before. Neither if us has ever been in love or felt real love..until now.

  • Hi! I have something to ask that.
    In 2006, I know him yet not long after we get tgt in nature. But Becoz of one thing I done wrong, yet I admitted to his family member. We will forced to be separated. We lost contact and I have been searching for him but yet to get his call. I dunno whether is he really love me or toying with my feeling?
    Meanwhile through out those few years. He kept coming back to me in few years wanted to be with me. I am confuse abt his feeling towards me. That why I will pull back when he tried to intimate with me. We never had sex before. Not even once. And I dunno why, cannot be explain that how come whenever each time I see him, I will feel shy (blushed). But he dun believe.

    He told me he was angry with me when I threw him alone in the hotel and he kept calling me many calls but I refuse to answer. With his past action that he did not put in effort try way to contact me after separated by his dad.
    Its definitely normal to be afraid that he will hurt me again what. So I am just protecting myself from holding back my feeling. I will pull back when he try to intimate with me.

    Why does he so concern about that hotel matter. When he suddenly called me ask me to meet him up, went to the hotel to looked for him but at that moment he was drunk, he did try to touch me but I push him away. And when he slept soundly I went off. This is just a minor matter. Why does he take so seriously?

  • His birthday is 11/14/1987. Why I m reluctant to do with him that’s Becoz I m afraid that after we do, he might mia again. That will hurt me more deeply. He is so mysterious and secretive.

  • We met randomly. He’s in his 50s. I was not quite 50. Neitherof us looking for romance. Too many failed relationships.
    He is a road construction worker. He was doing work on my street. I was walking my dog. I said something to the dog, he heard me and thought it was funny. He laughed and commented. We started talking. Instant connection! Like we had known each other for years. We both felt it. We learned we had a lot in common and even attended the same schools and knew some of the same people. We were confused, but inseparable after that. He drove from wherever he was, to have lunch with me, when he was no longer working on my street. He called or texted as time allowed, just to say hi. He friended me on fb a week after we met. We both knew there was something happening between us. We felt it in our souls. Like nothing either of us had ever felt before.
    He lives 1.5 hrs away in the opposite direction. It could have been the other side of the world! He made every effort to see me when he was in the city (working, visiting family, etc), but it wasn’t often. He is a small town boy. He avoids the city as much as humanly possible…and it was all on him to come to me, bcs I don’t drive. We saw each other twice a month, if we were lucky. Once we became comfortable, he would sometimes stay with me, once or twice during the week. It saved him a 3:30 alarm and a commute.
    It turned out that I live 20 minutes from where he worked! Otherwise, we were limited to a phone & text relationship, time permitting bcs of his crazy commute & work schedule. We could go 2-3 nights without speaking, bcs he got home late & had to be in bed by 9:30. He is very regimented & doesn’t go off his schedule for anything or anyone.
    This went on from Aug17/17 to Feb 12/18.
    Everything was amazing and our feelings got stronger with time.
    On Feb 12, he was at home, sick with the flu. We had a terrible misunderstanding, by text. I unintentionally hurt his feelings. He reacted..and hasn’t spoken to me since. He ghosted me and never gave me and opportunity to apologize. Wanted nothing to do with it. He blocked me shortly after and only recently unfriended me from fb (March 24), where we never talked to, or posted to each other (he is very private) but to be on his friend list, was to be considered a very important person in his life. It crushed me. My heart broke (again).
    He just changed his phone # as well (he was getting spam calls that were annoying him) Short of writing him a letter, I literally have no way to contact him.
    Will he ever come back? Is he angry? Hurting? Both?
    I love him so much and I miss him something awful. I think about him all the time. I spend my days crying and my nights dreaming of him. Some of them very vivid. He speaks to me and gets into bed beside me & holds me in his arms.
    We had something so incredible & special.
    I can still feel him and our connection. It would be a shame to let this come between us and keep us apart.

  • How do you know that he loves you and he will come back, or is he just going to leave you forever? I’m terrified

    • Mine came back after 10 months. Literally asked to fly to my state in the winter during Xmas time, then moved in together, but I’m in a situation too now

  • im in love with a scorpio man and i must say reading your comments lets me know im not going crazy at all lol im a leo and we get along good for the most part hes the most loving man i ever had in my life and i love everything about him EVERYTHING but sometimes its like walking on eggshells because theres no room for mistakes with him he will not ever let things go and im so confused at times i mean i love him to death but i just dont know if we are supposed to be at times

  • My Scorpio man & I live with his grandparents. I said something hurtful to him, he stormed out & said he’s done. We have been together for 4 years. He is not speaking to me, but will come home. If I say something to him like hi or ask a question about something trivial, he will answer me, but he is not initiating anything. He is sleeping in the recliner in our room instead of in bed with me or in another room on a couch.

    Since I relocated to this state & began living with them, I have been stressed and insecure. We have lived together before in my state, but now I am alone with a new job. I have been jealous of the amount of time he spends on the phone with his friends because I have noone & want all of him. It has come off as I don’t trust him. I know I have mothered him, said things I don’t mean & violated his trust. I don’t want to loose him.

    I have been working on meditation & leaving the area when my emotions seem out of control. I want to show him that things can be different, but also if we stay apart, I am working on me. It has only been a couple days so I know I have a long way to go to show him. I’m just so worried that he is serious about this break up & will move on. I can’t stand the idea of him being with someone else.

    Right now I am giving him space. I have not apologized yet as I’m trying to be patient & give him space. I’m a Gemini & it’s killing me to watch him be in the same room with me, but I can’t hug or talk to him. Plus it seems like I’m in hell & he could care less.

    Thoughts, suggestions, words of encouragement?

    Michelle

    • If what you said is true and he can’t trust you, there is little to nothing you can do. To us Scorpios, loyalty and trust WILL make or break ANY relationship.

  • Mine came back after 10 months. Literally asked to fly to my state in the winter during Xmas time, then moved in together, but I’m in a situation too now

  • My Scorpio was a crush when I was growing up. We recently started talking through messages. We hit it off pretty strong, (from the get-go)…. But, I told him something” hurtful, and he said that he “was gonna back off I’m sorry” I apologized that night, but he never responded back to me, And I called him once and he ignored my call. The next day, he posted a picture, (of his “on-&-off tempered X gf who were split-up for 7 months”)

  • Hi I dated a scorpio one year ago. It started when i met him as one of my friends guy friend. I asked him questions and i liked him. Next day i send him a friend request or message on fb and we talked. We both wanted to hang out soon. I drove him to a park and we looked at the moon when we came back to the car he kissed me i was aloof. He knew i was interested in him from the questions he asked. So then we started dating & we didnt tell our friend. When the friend knew about it he punched my scorpio in the face. Thats strike number one because i never asked if he was ok…story short my scorpio declines in conversation and starts ignoring me slowly through time (we officially dated for about 3 months) i get overwhelmed because the lack of communication and blame him for dumb stuff then he blows up at me thru text making me cry and i block him and forget about him. But i still have dreams about him. We still see each other at our friends concerts. Recently i just tried to finally spill all my feelings to him thru text. I said i want another chance. I said how sorry i am for hurting him so much . i told him i underestimated him. I even dated one of our friends after and he asked our friend if i did that to make him jealous. Honestly i thought it would and i wanted to see if it did but i genuinely liked the guy…should i tell him i was trying to make him jealous? I sent him a long text and he didnt go online or read them but they were delivered, then i got his phone number and texted him that he had messages on there…still ignored. Should i wait to say anything more or just keep releasing feelings until he wants to talk. Granted its been like a year since we actually had a conversation so i am not sure if hes currently mad or resentful or holding a grudge:( ty

    • Hi Rachel! Thank you for writing in about your really confusing Scorpio man situation. Honestly, it would seem that the lack of communication between the two of you that should have been proper, wasn’t very open and therefore there were many mistakes made. If you want the air cleared, you’re going to have to come clean and tell him everything that you think and feel so that he knows for sure and isn’t guessing what you might be doing. You will need to apologize for any misunderstandings that were caused or any hurt you may have inflicted on him. He’s good at holding grudges so there is no guarantee he will accept what you say and want to start again or even be friends again. Scorpio men can be rather unpredictable in this type of setting. You’ll have to really lay it all out there and let him do the very same without reacting to what he says. Let him say his peace and get it all out. Then from there, you two should be able to figure out what is next, if anything. You might want to learn a bit more about Scorpio men to get a jump on what could happen through this. Check out my book “Scorpio Man Secrets”.

  • There is this scorpio guy in my class who I haven’t talked to so much, only a few times. We have always had a looking at eachother sometimes kind of relationship. A few weeks ago we started to look at eachother again and I would catch him looking at me and he would catch me looking at him, he glanced at me twice kind of nervously. Now he ignores me but often looks at me when other guys talk to me and listen to my conversations with other guys. Once I was talking to a guy next to me and he glanced at my way four or five times in a observant and little paranoid kind of way. I notice that he checks on me when other guys give me attention but he still ignores me. Why does he do this?

  • I met my Scorpio man just over a year ago. We started off hot and heavy, but then the relationship evolves into more of a beautiful friendship because he wanted to get to know me as a person. Every morning we would wake each other up for work via phone call. Talk every night after work and he told me on SO many occasions that I checked all the boxes he was looking for in a woman, but could never commit. I told him about 6 months ago that although I love our friendship, I have more than friend feelings for him. He always would just say “I don’t want to date anyone”
    Spring comes along and he’s been being secretive here or there and last week he posted a story which looked like he was clearly on a date. I called him out on it and just said “you know how I feel about you, I care so much about you, but if you want to date other girls, I can’t stand by, be your friend and watch. I have feelings for you and I need to let you go if that’s what you want to do”
    This is not the first time we’ve gone through this routine, but this time I stuck to my guns and just said “I will always be here but I I need to keep interactions light for now until it’s meant for us to talk”
    A few days went by and I noticed that our insta convo was gone. He blocked me and when I text him to ask why he blocked me he said he’s not dating anyone and the fact that I accused him says a lot and he doesn’t need that negativity or drama in his life so he is blocking me. He wished me well told me to keep smiling and that was it. Gone.
    Word on the street is once a Scorp blocks you out that’s it. Game over. Is there any exceptions to this rule?

  • Im proud to be a Scorpio, I have emotions never know alot about me until recently when my Leo partner frustrated me. It really hurt me that I decided to leave her, to let her go. The most funny thing about Scorpio(most expecially me) is that I used to me happy outside, but deep down inside me, Im always sad, always bitter, small thing got me spark, just like a bomb. Thats the nation of scorpios. The best match for us are Pisces, Cancer and Virgo

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