7 Surefire Signs A Scorpio Man Is Fighting His Feelings For You

by Anna Kovach, relationship astrologer
Do you suspect that a Scorpio man likes you, but is hiding it? Keep reading to find out signs a Scorpio man is fighting his feelings for you.

A Scorpio man fighting his feelings is one of the most common complaints I receive from my readers. These men certainly have a reputation for hiding their feelings and pretending like they don’t care.

Scorpio men are complicated creatures, this is why a Scorpio man likes you, but is hiding it. It is difficult to guess what these guys are thinking. This is why it is so important to know the signs a Scorpio man is fighting his feelings for you.

A Scorpio man confused about his feelings is not uncommon, sometimes they are so struck by what they feel that they struggle to make sense of it and in turn end up confusing you and driving you crazy.

A Scorpio man scared of falling in love is usually the reason for this. These guys are actually very sensitive and afraid of getting hurt and this is why they place these strong walls up towards the people who love them the most.

Do you suspect that a Scorpio man is fighting his feelings for you? Then you have come to the right place! Keep on reading to find out if your Scorpio man likes you, but is hiding it. Everything you need to know is right here:

Do Scorpios Hide Their Feelings?

Out of all the signs, Scorpios are the most mysterious and secretive. A Scorpio man is good at hiding everything, particularly his feelings. He knows that when he loves someone it makes him vulnerable to getting hurt. 

He is a very complex and complicated person who has experienced a great deal of upheaval and pain in his life, so the older he gets, the more cautious and pessimistic he becomes. I’m convinced he believes he can will his way out of his feelings. 

Scorpio men tend to hide their feelings and they do so because they are so afraid of getting hurt. It is a form of self-preservation and protection. This isn’t something you should ever take personally, in fact, it is a compliment that you make him feel something. 

Here’s more on how a Scorpio man expresses his love (7 ways a Scorpio man shows his love) <<

4 Surefire Signs A Scorpio Man Is Fighting His Feelings For You

1. He Reveals Private Information

A Scorpio man is by nature extremely reserved and private. He doesn’t like having others know certain information about him as he would much rather keep this part of himself a secret. However, when a Scorpio man starts to trust you, he will start becoming more revealing. 

This takes a lot for a Scorpio man to do as he would usually much rather keep these things to himself as this is what makes him feel most safe. But, when he meets someone, perhaps you, who he starts to trust, he will be more willing to share his innermost thoughts. 

This is especially true when he divulges information willingly, without you probing for information. It is much better if he slowly reveals himself to you at his own pace as nothing will make him run faster away than you pressuring him into being intimate and vulnerable. 

2. He Is Extremely Protective Of You

One of the more negative attributes a Scorpio man usually has is being jealous or possessive. These guys can be pretty intense when they know that the woman they are interested in or love might be involved with someone else. 

This is when they can show some protective and even possessive behaviors over you. You might not even realize how much you mean to your Scorpio man until he starts acting out and exercising his greed over you. 

He’ll make it known that you are his and that no one has the right to be near you while he is in your life. He might also be quite subtle about it and pick a fight about something totally unrelated so that he doesn’t show his true colors. He is very confusing!

3. He Gives You Presents

Scorpio men are always collectors of some sort, you might not think it but they can be a little materialistic, and sometimes when they gift you something it means a lot to them because they are trying to express to you how they feel without using words. 

A Scorpio man confused about his feelings might not always understand that he actually likes you and wants to be with you, but then he gets this pull to show you affection and the only way he knows how to do this is to perhaps give you a keepsake. 

This may seem small perhaps to some of you, but to a Scorpio man, this is almost like a declaration of love and care. He might not even be conscious of it, but I can promise you this is exactly what he means. 

4. He Becomes More Vulnerable

Scorpio men contain enormous power and control in their lives. They care very deeply about how much control they get to exercise in their life. They want to be in charge and not have anyone else tell them what to do. 

A Scorpio man wants to appear like he has all his ducks in a row and that he rarely has any flaws. However, when a Scorpio man starts getting close to a woman he may start becoming more open to the idea of sharing some of his flaws and weaknesses. 

This takes a lot for him to do because Scorpio men can be very stubborn and it can be difficult for them to admit. You must mean a great deal to a Scorpio man if he can openly admit that he isn’t perfect at all.

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5. He Acts Awkward And Nervous

Following from the previous point, Scorpio men love to be in control but sometimes when they are around the woman they adore they can become a little awkward and nervous. They may even act a little flustered. 

This is very interesting to see as you might notice him acting a little strangely around you. He is acting far from the cool and collected guy you first met. He’s probably just trying to make sense of what he is feeling himself. 

This just all means that he feels super vulnerable around you and that it feels like he is losing control when he is in your presence. This is all a compliment, but be aware, some Scorpio men may disappear after acting like this because they really dislike feeling so vulnerable. 

6. When A Scorpio Man Is Staring At You

One of the quickest ways to spot a Scorpio man is to notice how deeply and intense his gaze is. It is penetrating like he is seeing deeply into your soul. When a Scorpio man likes you he will hold your gaze for as long as possible. 

You may notice him staring and observing your every move. He is intrigued by you and innately knows doing this will make you melt and weaken at the knees. He knows what he is doing. 

This is one of the things he does that he might think is oh-so-subtle, but actually, when he stares at you it is quite obvious what he is doing. Watch his eyes, it will reveal a lot about how he truly feels about you.

7. He Acts Hot And Cold

A Scorpio man acting hot and cold is usually a red flag in my book, but I have noticed that this behavior happens when he gets a little overwhelmed by his feelings and doesn’t know how to make sense of them. 

If you have noticed your Scorpio man acting all into you one day, and then totally disinterested the next, then it is usually a sign that a Scorpio man is hiding his feelings from you. He is uncomfortable with how he feels. 

This can be really painful to have to go through, but if you can learn to be patient and just flow with his moods then he will see that you are a woman worth keeping around. He needs to know that you are consistent.

If you struggle to find the right way to make your Scorpio man open up and share his true feelings with you, I strongly recommend checking out my 100 Magic Phrases for a Scorpio Man. It will set you on the right path with your mysterious Scorpio man!

Why Is My Scorpio Man Hiding His Feelings? 4 Possible Reasons

1. He Feels Confused About His Feelings

Oftentimes, a Scorpio man will not speak up until he’s certain of what he feels. He doesn’t want to get hurt and he doesn’t want to hurt you either. He’d rather figure it out and make sure.

Scorpio men are already not very trusting of other human beings. He’s born suspicious and will remain this way throughout life. He knows that people have the capability of really hurting others.

It’s a defense mechanism for a Scorpio man to pull back and keep you at arm’s length until he feels as though things are headed in the direction he wants. Even then, he may still consider not fully letting you in.

If you’ve only been dating him a short while; cut him some slack. He’s not in a huge hurry to fall in love and get married. He’s not as slow as some of the other signs but he’s also not ready to make a mad dash to the chapel.

Slow down a bit and let your Scorpio guy figure things out for himself and figure out what it is that he feels for you. You’ll be a lot better off by having patience and understanding why Scorpio men are not forthcoming with their feelings.

Do Scorpio men test you before jumping into a relationship? Find out here <<

2. He Is In One Of His Moods

Some women write to me that has been with a Scorpio man for years and seem to have emotional highs and lows. When he’s at his lows, he doesn’t want to talk about his feelings.

Short story, Scorpio men are not forthcoming with their feelings and are very moody guys. They have times when everything is going great, they’re open, honest, and feel good about where things are going between you.

Then they have times when they’re unsure, worried about where things are headed, and concerned that maybe it might not work the way they originally intended it to.

This back-and-forth can give some poor women whiplash. However, if you’ve been with him for a while, you learn to cope with his ups and downs and just treat it like you would depression or being with someone bipolar.

In fact; some Scorpio men may actually have one of these disorders. Patience is always the best tool you can use with them when they’re going through these ups and downs.

Here’s more on what you can do when a Scorpio man pulls away <<

Learn to appreciate the times when he’s on an upswing so that when things are not so great, you’ll have the good to hold onto. He’ll never stay in one mood or another. He’s ever-changing with the day and the tide.

3. He Is The Master Of Self Sabotage

I know this may sound silly, but, often when the Scorpio man finally finds his best match; he becomes very nervous. He starts to second guess himself, second guess you, and second, guess whether he should stay or go.

You see; he gets into that mentality of “this is too good to be true” and if he lets it take over, this will be when he pulls back and gets twitched out about what is happening between the two of you.

Ultimately though; it’s more likely that he’ll work through it and come back to you full throttle but don’t be surprised if things are going REALLY well and he’s being very open with you to suddenly just be ice cold.

He figures out when he’s hot and heavy that he really likes you and that because things are going so well, it can’t possibly be for real. It terrifies him and causes him to back off.

If your Scorpio man is still texting you or communicating with you in some way while he’s cooled off, this means he’s not done and you should just give him some time. If he doesn’t talk to you at all and disappears, he let his fears eat him up.

There are some Scorpio men that will meet the right woman for them and end up screwing themselves out of a life of happiness due to their mistrust and fear. They will talk themselves out of a good thing.

Sometimes he’ll also wait until years later to reach out to that woman again and see if she’s still single and if she’d give him another chance. Hindsight is always 20/20, ladies.

Learn more about what a Scorpio man likes and dislikes in a woman here <<

4. He Is Overthinking

The truth of the matter is, this guy is very analytical, so it’s part of the reason why Scorpio men are not forthcoming with their feelings. The Scorpio man is constantly thinking. He’s constantly trying to process what is right and what is wrong.

He will look at your relationship many times over and he’ll never fully feel 100% sure that things will work. He’s just naturally untrusting of people. He’s also not trusting of himself at times.

With his mind going back and forth constantly about everything within his realm, he’s going to suffer from torturing himself. Sadly this is what keeps him from speaking up and telling you what he feels when he really should.

There are other times when he gets the “foot in mouth” disease as well. He’ll let an “I love you” slip when it’s inappropriate and probably not true. He’ll beat himself up for it because he knows what that will cause.

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If Your Scorpio Man Is Scared Of Falling In Love — Here’s What To Do

Trust is key when a Scorpio man is scared of falling in love. He is deathly afraid of having his feelings hurt. A Scorpio man definitely has more paranoia than most when it comes to his relationships, especially romantic ones. 

You are going to need a lot of patience to show him that you are someone he can trust because this is definitely not something that you can force to happen, it has to build over time. Keep being consistent and showing up for him, show him that you are reliable.

He is going to test you a lot and put you through hell, but he is doing so just to protect himself. But if you really believe in the beauty and love of your connection with him, then it’ll definitely be worth it. 

You don’t want to force or push him into being in a relationship with you if he isn’t ready for it. He needs to come around in his own time and realize what he has with you. You need to prove your loyalty and that you are someone he can depend on. 

All of this takes time and this is why Scorpio men are very slow to show their emotions and feelings. You better have a lot of patience if you want to keep up with him. 

Here’s how to show your Scorpio man you love him <<

FAQ On Scorpio Man Fighting His Feelings

Do Scorpios Lie About Feelings?

Scorpio men do lie about their feelings, especially if they are not ready to reveal them. They will deny that they have feelings for someone and do whatever they can to push you away to see if you are someone they can trust. 

Sometimes they lie to themselves about what it is they are feeling because admitting to themselves that they have feelings for someone is pretty intense for them as well.

Is your Scorpio man distant after intimacy? Here’s what to do <<

Do Scorpios Have A Hard Time Expressing Their Feelings?

It is very difficult for a Scorpio man to express his feelings, especially at the beginning. It takes a very long time for them to trust the situation that makes hem feel so vulnerable so they will try and hide it for as long as possible. 

Overtime they will become more comfortable and open with what they are feeling, but at the beginning it can be very difficult for them to deal with and admit to. 

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What A Scorpio Man Needs To Feel Loved?

The most important thing a Scorpio man needs to feel loved is to be with a woman who is loyal, trustworthy, reliable, affectionate, passionate, patient, understanding, nurturing, and loving. 

How Do You Know A Scorpio Man Is Serious About You?

A Scorpio man is very difficult to read and sometimes knowing if he is serious about you can be quite impossible to figure out. But if a Scorpio man spends a lot of time with you, is someone you can rely on, and he shares his vulnerabilities with you, then chances are good that he is serious about you. 

If You Listen To Dating Coaches, You Can Lose Your Scorpio Man Forever…

Over the years, I’ve had a lot of my clients send me advice they got from dating coaches. They wanted to know if it would work with their Scorpio man.

And I literally wanted to scream with frustration.


Because most dating advice definitely will NOT work if you use it with a Scorpio. You see, Scorpio men are VERY different than men of other signs.

And if you use standard dating advice with a Scorpio, it can backfire. He might disappear forever and you’ll never hear from him again.

I don’t want that to happen to you. Especially when it is SO easy to draw him to you and get him to connect deeply with your heart.

You just need to know the specific phrases to tell him…

So he’ll NEVER want to lose you.

He’ll be wrapped around your fingerAnd it won’t take him long to put a ring on that finger either.

These phrases are the EXACT thing you need to turn everything around with him.

So… for heaven’s sake… DON’T listen to normal dating coaches! They give out the same advice for ALL men… which is absolutely insane.

Because your wonderful Scorpio is NOT like other men… at ALL.

So go here now and find out the specific things your Scorpio man needs to hear to melt his heart.



About Author

Hi, this is Anna Kovach. I am a professional Relationship Astrologer and author of dozens of bestselling books and programs. For over a decade I’ve been advising commitment-seeking women like you and helping them understand, attract and keep the man of their dreams using the astonishing power of astrology. Join over 250K subscribers on my newsletter or follow me on social media! Learn more about me and how I can help you here.

2 thoughts on “7 Surefire Signs A Scorpio Man Is Fighting His Feelings For You

  1. I have met a Scorpio men through online dating site we live about 30 mins away from each other. I’m a Scorpio girl myself I have never found a Scorpio guy before, he actually reached out to me. We have been talking for a long time but only met up once but he texts me every day throughout the day. I just don’t understand why he doesn’t put in effort in whatever we have going on. I have tried talking to him and pushed him to give me answers to why he doesn’t want to actually spend time together. I don’t understand. I know being a Scorpio can be complicated and we’re both in our early 20s. I have gotten to the point where I told him to not contact me anymore but he swears he loves me tells me not to leave him. I understand that distance can be a small factor but I drove and waited like 2.5 hours until he arrive. I’m putting all of this effort in this mess of relationship that we have I don’t know what to do. Taking to him about this subject is like talking to a brick wall he tells me to just wait. I don’t if I can wait for him forever….

  2. WOW – This is my exact situation. He is a scorpio and I am a scorpio woman. He texts or messages almost everyday – we only just started being friends about 3 months but he is more comfortable in virtual reality than real life. He makes it difficult to meet up – even though he says he wants to.

    He is busy with school, farming and household chores – dogs etc – but I have a kid and I can still find the time .

    It’s annoying .

    Whatever dude – I’m tired – and after reading what you are going through I know I have the exact problem.

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