Is Your Scorpio Man Pulling Away? Here’s What To Do

by Anna Kovach, relationship astrologer
Is your Scorpio man pulling away all of a sudden? Find out the possible reasons why a Scorpio man pulls away and what to do about it.

Falling for a Scorpio man sets you up for a path of ever-evolving mystery and shocking discovery. When a Scorpio man shuts you out, it leaves you wondering.

These guys have intensely insatiable cravings, and in order to understand what makes them tick, you’ll need to know what lies beneath these particular personality traits. Expect to be seduced, emotionally manipulated, and totally thrown off your feet, but also expect a Scorpio man pulling away as well.

Why does the Scorpio man go cold and start to pull back? What are the signs that he’s bailing out on you? Has his love faded? What can you do to get him to stay with you and make your relationship stronger?

Thankfully, I’ve got some answers that may just help you. Keep on reading, and you’ll find out the possible reasons why the Scorpio man pulls away. You’ll also learn what you can do about it!

Understanding Your Distant Scorpio Man — Why Does He Pull Away?

Boundaries Are Busted

The Scorpio man is good at creating personal boundaries, so if you happen to break one of these, he may pull back to think things over and try to figure out if you’re who he really wants.

Perhaps he lives alone, and you just show up on the fly. He hates that! A Scorpio man wants you to call or text him first. It’s not that he’s doing anything he doesn’t want you to know about; he just believes in healthy boundaries.

Also, doing things like picking up his phone to check it out or digging through his stuff in his car or home will tick him off. He likely isn’t hiding anything, so just ask him before you rifle through his stuff.

He May Be Losing Interest In You

Naturally, when a Scorpio man shuts you out, it might be that he’s losing interest. If he finds something in you that doesn’t sit well with him then again, he will pull back and think it over or he’ll close the door.

This will be when he just isn’t responding to you anymore at all. He stops texting and calling, and he also doesn’t answer if you try to reach him. He wants nothing more to do with it and could potentially ghost you.

A Scorpio man loses interest when he thinks that you’re not exciting anymore, or if he sees qualities in you that just really don’t match with what he wants in a lifelong partner. It can really be anything – he’s very picky.

There’s Too Much Going On

When a Scorpio man has too much going on, he will have problems trying to juggle everything. If he has extra work or he took a new position that requires a lot of him, he will pull back. This applies to family issues he may have as well.

He has a tendency to take on too much sometimes, and he doesn’t know how to balance very well. A Scorpio man can also have a tendency to be a workaholic, trying to further his career.

When your Scorpio guy becomes too immersed in other things outside of your relationship, he’ll almost definitely get frustrated and overwhelmed. That makes him withdraw a bit. When he can talk to you about it, he most likely will, so don’t panic.

Read next: Why Is My Scorpio Man Hot And Cold? Is He Testing Me?

He’s Angry Or Upset

This one should seem more noticeable to you if you two had an argument or disagreed. He may feel disturbed, which will force him to take pause and see if he wants to go further.

You can tell if he’s upset with you for those types of things because you’ll notice the change in his eyes and facial expressions when you’re talking to him. That being said, give him some space and a little time to cool off.

Here’s more on how to make up with a Scorpio man after a fight <<

What To Do When A Scorpio Man Pulls Away

When a Scorpio shuts you out, you need to know what you can do to make it so that he doesn’t say goodbye and walk away.

You really have to have patience, love, and loyalty and give him time to work himself out. If you can tell he’s upset with you, tell him that you care and that if he needs to talk, reach out.

Then you give him some space for a bit. Wait a week or so, then you can reach out to him and ask him how he’s doing. That will show you’re not done with him and that you’re still his.

When a Scorpio man is overwhelmed with his life, it’s the same deal. He’ll get back to you when the insane become saner. It won’t be forever. Don’t push him, though, because if you do, he may end it and tell you he cannot have a relationship.

You have to be very careful with this sensitive scorpion. He isn’t able to handle too much, so if you make yourself scarce while he figures out his other stuff, he’ll gladly come back to you and will probably miss you!

The Scorpio man wants security in his love and relationships. You will have to prove to him that you are indeed there for him. If he’s playing head games, play along and give him the information he wants.

Do exactly what he wants you to do (within reason). If he doesn’t reach out to see what happens, then reach out to him and tell him you’re thinking of him and ask him how he’s doing. He loves having a support system. You can do this!

If you’re in a situation where your Scorpio man says he doesn’t think it’s going to work and you’re feeling lost and unsure of what to do, I strongly recommend my 30-day Scorpio Man Love Challenge. This program is designed to give you all the tools you need to bring back the passion and connection in your relationship. Start your journey today!

When To Walk Away From A Scorpio Man

Are you wondering if you should walk away from your Scorpio man? I can only imagine that his behavior is probably extremely confusing and feels like an emotional rollercoaster at times. One moment you are higher than high, and the next you are lower than low.

This can definitely feel like emotional abuse or a toxic relationship if you aren’t used to recognizing the red flags. You might start to realize that it is time for you to walk away from a Scorpio man because you have tried everything I have suggested and he is still treating you like dirt.

This is definitely not fair to you, and I would never recommend that a woman stay in a toxic relationship that will only end up hurting her more. So if you feel like you have tried everything I have suggested, then I would urge you to step away and stop giving your Scorpio man chances. You deserve a lot more than what he is giving you.

If you feel like your Scorpio man has pulled so far away that he is starting to act a bit shady and you don’t completely trust him anymore, then it is time to walk away from him. You deserve better, and I am sure you know this already.

Always remember that you deserve to be loved and respected. Never chase love, attention, or affection. If it isn’t given to you freely, then it isn’t worth having.

Read nextIs Your Scorpio Man Distant After Intimacy? Here’s What To Do

Is A Scorpio Man Testing Me By Pulling Away?

Yep, he’ll sometimes do things like this to see where your loyalty is, if you have patience, and if you’re willing to reach out to him first. Will you get frustrated and run? That’s what he wants to know.

Scorpio men love to test you and see what you’re made of when they really like you. He wants to be totally sure that you’ll be there for him when the hard times come. Knowing you’re as solid as a rock will give him comfort that he can rely on you.

A Scorpio man has a strong desire for commitment and loyalty, so you can expect to be tested to prove your dedication and trustworthiness. Scorpio men can provoke jealousy, pushing emotional boundaries, and he may observe your reaction to challenging situations.

A Scorpio man feels powerful because he knows that being emotionally manipulative will give him what he desires out of the relationship. And this is why he has a tendency to test his partner over and over again to see if she will stick around.

Read alsoIs Your Scorpio Man Using You? Surefire Signs He Just Wants To Be Friends

What Not To Do When A Scorpio Man Is Pushing You Away

When a Scorpio man is pushing you away, there is usually a reason for this. But the thing you need to remember about his sign is that he is actually very shy and introspective. He is more of an introvert than you probably realize.

This is why my advice would be for you not to leave him alone for the time being so that he can get the space and distance he desires. Scorpio is intense and prone to drama, so not putting extra pressure on him will make him think that you don’t understand him and that you are not interested in him. You don’t want that!

Let him come to you, and don’t chase him. Don’t sound needy and clingy, but show him you are interested by creating a distance for him to miss you. I know it probably hurts, but you need to allow him to realize how respectful you are of his space.

Learn more about what a Scorpio man likes and dislikes in a woman here <<

FAQ About Scorpio Man Pulling Away

Are you struggling to figure out what to do about your Scorpio man and how he feels about you? Well, luckily for you I have compiled questions that might come up in your relationship. Hopefully, this can help you navigate your relationship with your Scorpio man.

What Scares A Scorpio Man Away?

A Scorpio man can fall in love quickly without thinking it through. When this happens, there are things that suddenly dawn on him. Though he may feel he can open up to you, he may also suddenly think he can’t trust you.

It may be nothing at all that scares him. Then again, maybe you could have said something that led him down a dark road and made him feel as though maybe he was making a mistake.

Why Does A Scorpio Push Love Away?

Sometimes it happens that a Scorpio man changes his mind. He felt hot and happy about you, but then figured out some things that maybe didn’t feel good anymore for him, and he pushed the love away.

It could also be that he met someone else and feels that the other person may be better for him. It’s not very common for him to not let you know if he’s into someone else or wants to call it off. It can happen, though.

Do Scorpio Men Come Back After Pulling Away?

If your Scorpio man has decided that he cannot or doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you, then that may be an uphill battle. If he doesn’t like something or doesn’t like something about you, he’ll want to walk away.

But, how can you tell a Scorpio man is done with you? Find out here <<

If a Scorpio man misses you in his absence and realizes that you are living rent-free in his head, he will come back to you.

Does Your Scorpio Man Disappear After Intimacy?

Does your Scorpio man pull away or get quiet when you’ve just had a deep emotional connection? Or does he seem to disappear just when you thought he was getting closer? Have you felt confused by his hot and cold behavior?

If so, then he might have an avoidant attachment style.

He could be Dismissive Avoidant and completely terrified of commitment… Or he could be Fearful, Avoidant and REALLY want commitment… But get scared when he feels himself getting closer to you.

If he has either one of these attachment styles, you’re going to end up feeling extremely confused at times.

And both are caused by childhood trauma.

When you can see the scared little boy inside him that had to shut down his feelings if he’s a dismissive avoidant… Or have a parent not provide his needs consistently if he’s a fearful avoidant…

It can make it easier to have empathy and compassion for his confusing and frustrating behavior. 

But that won’t fix it.

And while advice on attachment styles can be helpful… What you really need to stop this frustrating hot and cold cycle is to understand him better.

Thankfully, there is a simple system to TRULY understand how he ticks based on his astrology <<

It will stop your Scorpio man from pulling away when you begin feeling closer. And it will be accomplished in only 30 days.

So no more crying yourself to sleep when your Scorpio pulls away… No more feeling incredibly confused. And no more wondering what in the heck is going on with him…

Even if he has an avoidant attachment style.

Go here now to turn things around with your Scorpio man in 30 days or less <<



About Author

Hi, this is Anna Kovach. I am a professional Relationship Astrologer and author of dozens of bestselling books and programs. For over a decade I’ve been advising commitment-seeking women like you and helping them understand, attract and keep the man of their dreams using the astonishing power of astrology. Join over 250K subscribers on my newsletter or follow me on social media! Learn more about me and how I can help you here.

8 thoughts on “Is Your Scorpio Man Pulling Away? Here’s What To Do

  1. Scorpio men are great guys. Every one is different

    I believe they cause their own heart aches. Most women at the age 40-60 do not want to deal with games or their head games

    50% of them I met have never been married or in a long time relation

    So Stop talking about them as such a great catch

    Be honest. Relations should not be that hard

    No relationship should need that much work

    My Scorpio is great. But I do not put up with nonsense

    1. Hi Anna!

      Yes every single one of them are different. Trying to lump them all together doesn’t make sense. In fact no sign is exactly alike. We all have all 12 signs in our birth chart which means we’re all complicated. Relationships will depend on varying factors in their chart as well as their upbringing or background. There are lots of factors just as they are for the rest of us. I’m glad your Scorpio is great. Good for you!

      1. Hello Anna, I am deeply in love with a scorpio man, he startes flirting with me, as our bond was completely professional at first. I am still in a relationship, he know’s this, but he also know that I want to leave this relationship, as I been unhappy for a long time, and It’s time to choose for myself. Now, the thing is, he was so understanding, loving, promised me the world, and suddenly he pulled back, and he did say it was because I was a little pushy, and he pulled back automaticly, that that’s his way. So I am not pushy anymore, but he still seems distance.. Now what can I do best? Just leave him alone for a week?

        1. Hi Darja!

          It sounds like he’s using something about you as an excuse to pull back. I think he’s scared thinking about you leaving your relationship to be with him. Then he has to be a responsible partner for you and commit. This really terrifies him. He likes you right now because you’re “taken” and it’s safe for him to flirt with you and not have any strings attached. I think you should still remove yourself from your relationship but be on your own for a bit so you can discover yourself and what you want. If that’s still the Scorpio man then you’ll end up going back around to talk to him. If you want more of the Scorpio man’s mind revealed, check out my books on Scorpio Man Secrets.

  2. So my Scorpio man, and I have been dating for a month now he’s already been vulnerable with me and I can not get him off my mind he open up to me as well as I open up to him but I reach out the next day after he told me his past and he then proceeded to tell me he need some time alone what do I do I really needed some advice, I been giving him time and I reach out reach out recent to tell him I am here if he needs to talk and he responded he said thank you for being understanding and through the text he seem so sad but it was very short text message what do I do from here.

  3. I’ve been dating a Scorpio for almost three months, it’s been going great so far. I know he’s busy with work, but it’s hard to tell if he’s using that as an excuse or if in fact he really is busy. I don’t think that he’s that type to use it as an excuse. Initially from the get-go, we said we don’t lie and we’re loyal people. It’s just that the communication between us has been dwindling so it’s like is it the work thing or is he losing interest? I did mention this to him and he’s aware that the communication is lacking but we’re back to a day or sometimes 2-3 and then I get a short message. When we have hung out before it’s always amazing, a warm and “home” like feel. I’m doing my best to not get frustrated and have patience, I’m just not sure how to proceed, what do you suggest?

    1. Hi Danielle!

      If he is telling you he is busy and he hasn’t shown any other red flags then you should be able to trust him when he says he’s busy. Patience is definitely something you have to maintain with him. Keep yourself busy like he does. Don’t immediately answer when he finally does message you. Make him wait a little bit. Sometimes if you pull back a little or be unavailable sometimes, it shows him that he needs to put in a bit more work with you. Otherwise, keep up with your patience and keep moving forward sweetheart. I wish you all the best!

  4. hi dear Anna
    im in love with a scorpio man
    he says he has feelings for me
    he behaves paradoxial
    but still says that we won’t be a good couple
    should i move on?

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