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How To Attract A Scorpio Man: 9 Things That Pull Him Closer

Being in a relationship with the Scorpio guy is never an easy task, but it’s always a very deep and transformative experience. Scorpios are known for their outstanding intelligence and faithful devotion, and if you are interested to learn what may attract a Scorpio man, please read on.

1. Awaken the Mystery and Magic in Your Heart

According to astrology basics, the area of love, talents, and creativity for the sign of Scorpio is placed in the sign of Pisces. The ruler of this sign is the planet Jupiter, but the planet which exalts in this place, meaning the planet which is at its greatest position here is Venus.

Pisces is all about dreaminess, poetry, arts in general, mists and fogs of the dark blue midnight sky and deep oceans.

This is the only inner psychological place where a Scorpio man can rest and relax. For you personally, this means that you have to act calmly and in a vulnerable manner, at least in front of him, and those traits will trigger his subconscious mind to look at you as someone who needs to be protected, therefore someone who needs him.

2. Level Up Your Looks

Venus in the sign of Pisces, the one he adores, will always act like a nice, romantic lady, dressed in pastel colors, mostly blue hues, with the silver or pearly details. She will never be rude, and the dirty words will never ever cross her mouth. Her gestures will always be feminine, and although she can, and often is, very sexy, those traits won’t be so obvious at first glance.

There are many misconceptions about how to attract a Scorpio man, but if you insist on black or burgundy outfits, paint your nails in those or similar colors and act like someone who just came out of the brothel, then you will be treated accordingly.

Have this in mind if you want to attract a Scorpio man and make him fall in love with you. Showing your sexiness in an open way won’t create the need in him to pursue you and finally commit to you. Rather, he will use you for the hookup arrangement and then leave.

3. Always See a Feminine Mannerism

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Let’s go through this extremely important point once more. You don’t need to have an expensive wardrobe, nor do you have to possess jewelry or pearls. However, you must have a style and this style must be feminine. Whatever you wear it should be “themed”, classy and of course, tidy. But more important than this, you should act like a lady, not like a street fighter, because this behavior will pull him back from you instantly.

He can behave like a lone wolf, a desperate man of a revenge mission, or whatever he is feeling at the moment, but from the woman of his dreams, he will expect sensitivity and tenderness for sure. Your voice and especially your gestures must be calm and gracious. If you have to, train yourself to talk a bit slower and pay close attention to how the royal figures appear in public.

They always have a nice smile, neat appearance, and their manners are clearly showing that nothing and nobody can make them act inharmoniously. Become a genuine royal figure and you will have his instant attention.

4. Let Him Pursue You

The planet ruling the sign of Scorpio is Mars, and as said previously, Scorpio falls for an exalted Venus in the sign of Pisces. So, the formula for winning his heart and devotion is very simple. He is the man and he will chase you. Don’t ever think that he hasn’t noticed you. He’d noticed everything and everyone around him. You could be in the distant part of the room and you don’t need to fake that you need to do something close to him, because he will notice that too.

To attract a Scorpio man, all you need to do is to be yourself, a feminine, receptive and above all, intelligent woman. If he is attracted to you, he will come closer. You don’t need to encourage him at all, because he is a Scorpio guy and if he feels like it, he will be able to slay any dragon. Starting the communication with the woman he likes is not a problem at all.

You should smile, as always, you should be calm and you need to have your own interests. Engaging in something creative will show the passion in your eyes and this will be the best magnet you can create for any man around, not just a Scorpio man. Your passion doesn’t have to be astrophysics, but it can if you like it.

You can be passionate about baking cookies, collecting porcelain ballerinas, or studying archeology, astronomy or the martial arts. It doesn’t matter what it is, but it has to be something which genuinely uplifts your spirit and shows the whole world that you are not focused on love matters solely, but you have a variety of other interests.

5. Don’t Fall for Him too Fast

When he initiates the conversation with you for the first time, or he openly shows you that he is attracted to you, then you have to know that you are stepping on the minefield. Don’t fall for his charm instantly. Be nice and warm, but not too warm and don’t talk to text with him for too long. The key here is to make him want you more. As a true martial sign, Scorpio will feel the deep inside need to fight for you.

And if he can’t find the dragons or the armed enemies to free you from, then you will have to give him the pleasure to fight for your attention and especially, your time. That is, only if you want to build a committed relationship with him. For non-committal experiences, anything goes, but in those cases, he will get the thing he came for and then disappear. I’ve warned you.

Try to keep your talks or texting to the minimum, because your goal is not to start the debate club with the Scorpio guy, you can have that with your friends. Your true goal is to make him take you on the regular dates, for few times a week, especially on Saturday’s evenings.

6. Make Him Want You More

Also, don’t forget to keep those dates shorter in the beginning, let’s say for two or maximum three hours for the first two to three weeks. I know that this will be hard for you, but you need to play in an experienced manner if you want commitment. And, don’t forget, no sex for the first few months of your dating. This can sound weird in today’s world or relationship, but you could have already noticed that today’s world of relationship is highly unstable ground.

To attract a Scorpio man you need to know that he is very conservative deep down in his heart, so stick to the tradition and you won’t make a mistake. Keep your conversation light and warm, but don’t “over deliver”, not in the beginning. Scorpio man is far from being stupid or even shallow. He will watch every move you make and every word you say with the utmost care.

You don’t need to talk about the meaning of the life and Universe, or any other complicated subject to prove to him how clever you are. He will get that before you even open your mouth, so relax, but keep a little part of yourself hidden and therefore mysterious to him.

7. Become a Practical and Savvy Woman

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You see, in the world of astrology, the sign opposite to Scorpio is Taurus. And this is the basic sign of partnerships for Scorpios, no matter are those partnerships of a business or a private nature. If you want to be seen as a marriage material in his eyes, then you should show some Taurus traits for sure. In short, you will still have style. This part won’t change at all, because the ruling planet of the sign Taurus is Venus.

However, in this case, you won’t be just a sensitive and poetic woman from his dreams. You will appear like a poetic and sensitive woman, but your mind or the core of your being will be practical, realistic and always on the lookout for good opportunities to increase or preserve your wealth.

You don’t have any wealth? This is no problem what so ever because you are your greatest wealth. Your intelligence, skills, education, way of reasoning and your uplifting appearance are your most valuable assets.

And in time, with or without him, you will gain some other forms of wealth if you are able to use your assets properly. Having an intelligent woman by his side is the greatest stimulus for any Scorpio man. And I don’t mean just the stimulus for his ego, but more for his sexual drive.

He will feel inclined more to prove himself as a good provider and protector in front of you. You will be someone of the high value and therefore he will want you more than any other girl.

8. Have in Mind the Practical Side of Venus

Venus in the sign of Taurus, as a marital house of Scorpio, is very down to earth type of goddess. She will look and act expensive, but she will take very good care that her appearance is neat, her home, husband, and children are well taken care of and she will have her focus on increasing her wealth, meaning her properties and incomes.

The “sexiest” way to attach a Scorpio guy to you forever is to become this type of Venus and to act thrilled when it comes to business issues, to spend your time learning about best ways to create the network of quality associates and how to use the best tactics to improve your life. This will have the effect of a drug to his mind because you will clearly emanate that your standards are high and he has to be an alpha type of man to be able to provide for the life you deserve.

9. Dive Deep Into Sexuality

The reason sexuality is number 10 on this list is very shrewd, I might say. Many popular astrology texts will guide you to play on your sexuality card right away, but I can honestly tell you that this is important, but not as important as the things you will have to do before you even land in bed with your Scorpio guy.

Go slowly and step carefully with him using the previously stated facts, before sex comes to your mind. In the opposite case, you will find out that you are just one of the numerous nameless women he was involved before he had met the right one.

Sex for the Scorpio man is something special and when he finally won the price, meaning he had to pursue you, treat you like a lady and attach to you before any naked experience, he will expect that this price will be extraordinary just as you are. In this phase, you have to be generous to him and to learn how to play in bed in an open and receptive way.

He doesn’t care about whether the lines of your body are perfect or not, but he truly cares about your happiness. So, show yourself as a one confident and curious lady and don’t be afraid to explore more than you have done with any of your partners from the past.

Now, when you are very precious to him and he will give his life and soul for you, you will need to satisfy his needs too and do it with genuine joy.

How did you attract a Scorpio man? Let me know!!

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Wishing you all the luck of the universe

Your friend and Relationship Astrologer, Anna Kovach



  • My Scorpio man has me all confused. He has indeed pursued me, & we have an easy, natural connection. He’s told me he finds me so intriguing & feels like he’s known me for years. However, I understood that if he’s interested he will ask me lots of questions about myself. He doesn’t do this. He DOES routinely ask things like “have you eaten lunch yet?” “Did you get a good night’s rest?” “How are you feeling today?”. That seems like a good sign. But he has me confused by sometimes seeming disinterested and then the next day saying “you look beautiful today, did you have a good evening? I hope you slept well” he also acts a bit possessive and jealous of other men. What do you think, Anna? I’m using all your techniques and I need your honest opinion please!

    • Hi Jessa! Asking you if you’ve eaten or if rested well, etc are all questions that show his concern and caring. He may not ask you a lot of questions as he probably figures things out on his own as far as who you are. His care for you is definitely there though or he wouldn’t bother. Disinterested moments are probably just when he has other things on his mind. They tend to get inside their own heads about things and seem cold or distant. I think you’ve got a normal loving Scorpio man though honey. Keep being the person he fell for and things should work out well.

  • Your descriptions of Scropio men are accurate. However I have one that is a bit Narcisstic. He wanted to get married very early in our relationship. I was so surprised and speechless..this seemed to make him nervous and almost angry. That was several months ago. We actually are in seperation now. But I feel him like he’s next to me…on my part it is not a physical longing .but an unexplainable connection. I am an Aries. Aquarius rising. I have a good amount of water in my chart. He is Leo rising to the tee..Need I say more ? Our fights are bad..But we cannot stay away from one another. He is considerably younger than I. I feel like the walking wounded most of the time. He can be very thoughtless. He tests me in confusing ways. Help !

    • Yes my Scorpio is narcissistic also, although he won’t admit it but will point it out in others includingme… We love passionately but fight fiercely and is very confusing it’s draining.. I hope we get some helpful information back..

    • Hi Alana! It’s not at all uncommon for a Scorpio man to be narcissistic. They don’t trust anyone else but themselves. Ha yes, Leo rising would definitely make him more into himself. As an Aries with Aquarius rising, you’re more logical and don’t understand why he is the way he is. The only way this is salvageable is if you two can learn how to communicate properly via counseling or mediation perhaps. There has to be a way for you two to find middle ground if it’s going to work. Otherwise you may have to consider letting go. Please do what feels intuitively best for you sweetheart! I feel for you.

  • He seemed aloof..it was a challenge to me. But more so to befriend him. He took my friendliness very seriously and here we are almost a year later. It’s been quite a ride. Not all smooth by any means..but I feel we definitely need each other. There is an unexplainable mystery between us. I feel his energy strongly..his mannerisms..his mood..his thoughts. Although Scropios are known to be very protective I feel that way over him. Almost to an unhealthy extreme. Like the understanding and unconditional love one has for a child. I can’t explain it but it’s just a tenderness and empathy I haven’t had for in a relationship before.

  • I met him through a mutual friend. 3 months later I finally text him and invited him to a fundraiser. From that night on he was hooked. But my best friend said take it slow as I just came out of a bad 21 yr relationship. He turned to another woman because I wanted to take it slow and ended up seeing both me and her for a few months. He wanted us to be in an open relationship, I said no but in time he convinced me to do so to please him. He kept saying he had to or he would tell me those magic 4 letter words. After a few months I told him I wanted him and him only. We agreed we had a connection like we’ve never had before, we felt it everytime we touched or just looked into each other eyes. He said he felt like he could be himself with me but couldn’t with other women.. but He wasn’t ready to commit to only me. We had a couple 3somes? He always initiated it as I wasn’t that in to it. So eventually I slept with a man and told him about it the next day. It broke him and I was surprised it did. Two weeks after that he proposed. So after 13 months he finally committed to me. We got engaged but with every argument he would take the ring off me and be horrible to me and humiliated me in front of my family, children & friends. Then he’d say if I wanted Him to marry I had to change and get rid of all the damage my violent husband of 21 years did to me. I am very insecure and have ptsd and he hates it. I have been to psychologist & counseling but I’m still damaged. It’s now been almost 4 years and we are on and off again, but never sleep with anyone else. I have now moved into my own house with my kids and don’t know what to do. I go to his to show him how much he means to me and run Errands for him. but he doesn’t go out of his way to show me. He thinks I should be grateful he even still loves me. We work together as a team when doing things so well, it’s like we know what the other is thinking and it just flows. We love the same outdoors things and always have a great time, until he wants to talk about how I need to change…
    This relationship is like a roller coaster ride and my heart just wants the happy flowing us, but it’s started to mentally wear me out… I wish I had of found this site when I first met him lol

    • Hi Mel! Oh my gosh honey… he sounds very controlling and that’s not good for you. If anything, you need to figure out why you’re drawing in controlling and abusive men so you can cure yourself and start drawing in men who treat you like gold. I think you need to walk away from this guy and start over. Give yourself a break, work on your own healing, and then try to move forward with a healthier soul. If you don’t this guy is going to continue doing the type of stuff he is doing. Taking rings off and saying things he does is emotional abuse and blackmail. You don’t need that in your life. I hope you stand up and do what you need to do in order to find the love you deserve honey!

  • I am 16 years older than my scorpio man. He is mysterious, but always in pursuit. He is a text book scorpio according to what I have learned from you. Could this be a real relationship. How can I know.
    He came to me. We vaguely knew one another several years earlier. Then one day I received a text from him. We became reaquainted and eventually very connected from my point of view.

    • Hi Dab! Ah yes, the Scorpio man is always very mysterious. They love being that way too. The only way you can know if it’s going to be a real relationship is by how he treats you and how much time he invests with you. Take your time, no hurry. Let him set the pace and you’ll likely find success with him. I wish you all the very best but if you need more help, please check out my book “Scorpio Man Secrets”.

  • I have met a Scorpio man online, I’m a Gemini and we connected online quite plainly and both not showing too much interest. One night a spectacular storm occurred and we connected to talk, I basically described the storm form what I could hear using elaborate metaphor and creative prose, and I didn’t know he had a room wide vista of this incredible storm occurring in front of him. Words flowed easily and the alchemy was palatable in the air, suffice to say our conversation continued into the small hours of the morning effortlessly. Then he wasn’t responding much for the rest of the week, I took that as nil interest and left my number for him to make contact and shut down my profile. I was pleasantly surprised to receive a text message within the hour. That was 2.5 months ago, ever since we have been chatting to eachother everyday at least twice a day (Co-vid arrived), social distancing. He has said many times he has never been this intrigued by a woman for so long, and finds me fascinating as do I of him. Our chemistry without seeing each other is so palpable, it can electrify and light up an entire city. He is a widow of 6 years and has not has a deep relationship since, once I asked for exclusivity as I declared I had feelings develop, he was happy to oblige because he feels the connection is true. Except we haven’t actually met yet. After the storm conversation I felt a deep shift and became curious about lithos man and dove into astrology to figure out his sign. I stopped at Scorpio because it seemed a fit, because all of the moisture in my body felt like it was trying to exit and make its way to him like a gravitation pull. I asked him and he confirmed he was a Scorpio. As my feelings have grown I have declared my position and he has told me he loves me, and doesn’t waste words. I feel the same way but I’m nervous as we haven’t actually met yet. He is a beautiful human being and we feel very aligned. Would love to hear your thoughts.

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