For the Scorpio man, matters of the heart are seen in black and white, you are either for him or against him and there is no middle ground.
Compromise is not a word he understands, and he won’t respond well to mixed signals. Find out what are the biggest turn offs for a Scorpio man.
He needs to know you adore and want him and only him, and then he gives loving you his attentive devotion in ways that might be too furious and all-consuming for some female signs.
Even a kiss with this man can be life-changing as he pours his entire being into almost everything he does, Scorpio is all about loyalty, intensity, passion and this comes with a reputation for jealousy that is famous throughout the zodiac.
You may be able to get his attention by appearing to flirt with other men, but do not even think of cheating on the moody, brooding scorpion as any hint of infidelity will lock him into a battle of attrition you can never hope to win.
A Scorpio man is at his best with a supportive woman in his life who is assertive enough to define clear boundaries and strong enough to tell him just how much he is loved and appreciated.
You show your devotion in the bedroom in sizzling acts of pure passion with lots of eye contact, and no room left open for interpretation as just how much he turns you on.
1. Competition
A Scorpio man is driven by the need to have the upper hand, and even when he appears and calm, he is plotting his next moves.
If you try to compete with him, or heavens forbid, give him a reason to think he has a rival for your affections, he won’t rest until he is back, firmly, and unquestionably, in control.
Spoil him with a luxurious massage or hours of oral pleasure, and let him do the same for you. He will do just about anything to maintain the upper hand, so in your foreplay and in the rest of your relationship, let him take the lead.
That doesn’t mean being weak and submissive, but allow him to define the boundaries and then assert yourself within them.
2. Passivity or Laziness
Scorpio men are keen students of human frailty. They completely understand that all people experience pain and rejection and he will show great compassion for your fears and weakness.
This Scorpio man will be your most compassionate supporter if you are brave enough to show the less glamorous sides of your sexual self but if you allow yourself to be a victim of these feelings, you won’t find much tolerance coming from him.
For him, sex is a mutual act of deep soul affirmation, and he needs you to be fully present and willing to give more of yourself than you might normally do.
He doesn’t show much patience for laziness and won’t be impressed if you lie back on the pillows and expect him to do all the work. Share your fantasies with him, and explore his, with energy and devotion and watch the fireworks explode.
3. Dishonesty
If you lie to your Scorpio man you can be sure of two things he will find out, and he will never forgive you. If you feel uncomfortable about something, don’t pretend, tell him what it is and why you feel the way you do.
This man has vast reservoirs of willpower and persistence, and he has an amazing capacity to reinvent himself so sharing your thoughts and feelings, honestly and bravely, is the only way to go.
He hates giving up control, and even a small white lie (pretending you love oral sex when it makes you feel shy) is a challenge to his authority.
In his arms, you have the chance to explore the most secret parts of yourself and you don’t need to pretend. He wants to know what you need and what you fear and will take great care to make you feel completely fulfilled.
4. Shyness and Frigidity
Scorpio men are among the greatest lovers in the zodiac. They are capable of extreme feats in love and sex and will stop at nothing to leave you breathless and thoroughly satisfied after marathon loving sessions that will make all other experiences of intimacy pale in comparison.
If you withdraw in shyness or show a lack of enthusiasm, he will take it very personally indeed, and his experience will be of personal rejection and an extreme insult to his very being.
You need to pour your heart and soul into every kiss and caress and be fully present in lovemaking to bring out the best in him. He doesn’t need you to be a fearless sex goddess, but he does need you to be your authentic self.
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Anna Kovach
