Over the last few months, I’ve been receiving many emails from women who are completely in the dark about their hot and cold Scorpio man. And who comes on strong and then suddenly goes very cold.
There are definitely reasons why the Scorpio man stops communicating when you least expect it. Luckily, I can help you figure things out a bit more. Here are some reasons why this may happen:
4 Reasons Why The Scorpio Man Acts Hot and Cold
1. Fear Hits Him Fast
The hot and cold Scorpio man has a tendency sometimes to jump in without fully looking. They can fall in love quickly without thinking it through. When this happens; there are things that suddenly dawn on him.
This will cause him to say he loves you but he isn’t ready for a relationship. He’ll play this sort of “tug of war” type of game with you. One minute he’s all about you and cares then the next minute he’s not talking.
This is all very normal for the fear-filled Scorpio. As a general rule, Scorpio men are untrusting of most people. Though he may feel he can open up to you, he may also suddenly think maybe he can’t trust you.
It may be over nothing at all that scares him. Then again maybe you could have said something that he took down a dark road and made him feel as though maybe he was making a mistake.
The only true way to ever know what it is he is afraid of is by giving him patience, time, effort, and by asking him to talk to you about things whenever he feels he is ready.
If you try to push him for answers or into a relationship; he will definitely cool his heels. He may also just go ahead and let you go. It depends on the full scope of his feelings at the time.
2. He Feels You Are “The One”
This is the part that is rather weird but, when the Scorpio man feels a woman is “the one”, he will be hot and heavy but then get filled with anxiety thus pulling back and cooling off.
It scares the crap out of him to have found the right woman. At first, he’s thrilled, elated, and relieved. Then his fears kick in that you’re good to be true so he back peddles.
He starts to feel that maybe he doesn’t deserve you. He may even think that maybe you’re flawed and he just cannot see it yet. He’s afraid that you’ll show your true colors.
There is a fear of being rejected, hurt, or punished for past karma. Scorpio men are untrusting by nature so if he isn’t suspicious of your intention; he may be suspicious of his own.
As strange as it may seem, he’s more terrified of the woman he loves that he is of any other woman he dates. So if you’ve felt an intense connection with a hot and cold Scorpio man that tells you he loves you then gets cold; he probably loves you.
Give him some time to figure it out and he’ll be back. He won’t let the woman he loves most in the world go. He just has to process everything and make sure he knows what he’s doing and how he’ll do it.
3. Changed His Mind
The very least with all of this is that he could very well have changed his mind. He felt hot and happy about you but then figured some things out that maybe didn’t feel good anymore for him.
He could have decided that you two don’t gel well together in the bigger picture. It could also be that he met someone else and feels that the other person may be better for him.
It’s not very common for him to not let you know if he’s into someone else or wants to call it off. It CAN happen though. Watch his behavior and more importantly; watch his eyes.
If there is anything at all you want to know, stare into his eyes and ask him. If he cannot look you straight in the eyes when he talks back; he’s possibly not telling you the truth.
On the other hand; if he CAN look at you in the eyes and answer you; he’s most likely telling you the truth. Remember this the next time you’re curious what he’s been up to or if he’s true with you.
There is also that possibility that the Scorpio man can go quiet after having sex. If your Scorpio man is distant after intimacy, he may have felt it wasn’t what he expected or wanted.
He may have been looking for a specific chemistry and didn’t find it. Sometimes he gets his hopes up too high and disappoints himself.
4. Genuine Confusion
Scorpio men are emotional guys. They can analyze around in circles which can make them feel very confused about what they want. It may have nothing to do with you but rather him not knowing what he wants.
If it’s the case that he just doesn’t know what he wants, you’ll definitely have to remain patient with him if you’re really into him. Otherwise, you may want to move on to someone else who isn’t so confused.
There are many factors that weigh in for this guy. He will harbor baggage from his past. He will carry forward any grievances he had from before. Sadly this can be projected on women he gets involved with.
If he’s been cheated on or hurt badly, he will sadly try to compare every woman after that with the woman that did him wrong. It’s not right but it’s something he does on some level. He probably isn’t even aware he’s doing it.
Bringing it to his attention will likely not help matters. He’ll feel he’s being attacked and that you just don’t understand him. You’ll have to approach the subject in a gentle way.
What You Can Do When Scorpio Man is Hot and Cold
The very best thing you can do for the hot and cold Scorpio man who is confused or playing this hot and cold game is to be very patient. Give him time and a little space to let him figure it out.
I’m not saying for you to stop talking to him. If you stop talking to him; he’ll think you don’t want him anymore. Just lighten up and don’t expect too much from the hot and cold Scorpio man. Focus on yourself and your life while you wait.
How To Deal With A Scorpio Man When He Goes Distant
Distance is something that Scorpio men are all too familiar and comfortable with. They tend to do this when they’re confused, upset, or are trying to figure things out.
If you notice that your Scorpio guy has gone distant, you may want to let him have that time and space. It should be alright short term. When or if he makes it more long term then there is a problem which should be addressed.
Give him space to figure things out but it’s up to you how much time you will actually give him before you reach out and tell him that you need to know what is going on or that you’re there if he needs to talk.
Having that open communication will help ease the worried Scorpio man if he’s wondering whether he can rely on you or trust you. In the event that the Scorpio man is distant after intimacy, you need to reassess.
Don’t let him get away with pulling back after you’ve given your intimate side to him. He may be confused but still he shouldn’t close himself off to you. Ask him what is going on.
Scorpio man pulling away isn’t fun and should be looked at. There is a reason he’s doing this and it’s up to you to ask him why. Don’t leave yourself hanging, find out!
Conclusion On When Scorpio Man Stops Communicating
It may seem very complicated when Scorpio man is pulling away but, if you learn what causes him to do this; you may have the upper hand. I do hope that some of what I’ve told you today helps you!
Remember that he can be a different type of man but he’s still a man and you’re a woman who can love him better than he’s ever seen. Hang in there if you know you’re the one for him.
Click here to learn why Scorpio men are so mistrusting and other behavioral traits. It may help you understand how he thinks a little better.
Here’s a neat fact, did you know that sexy actor/producer Ryan Gosling is indeed a Scorpio man? He fits all the attractive criteria for sure!
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Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,