A Scorpio man distant after intimacy is something I know most women are fearful of. These guys have a reputation for going a little funny after they have sex… They can disappear and make you feel like you made the worst decision by sleeping with them.
This fear has probably led you to want to know how to deal with a Scorpio man when he becomes distant. There must be a lot going on in your mind wondering if you could’ve done something differently… But, what you really need to know is that this is the Scorpio man’s nature.
A Scorpio man says I love you then disappears because what is happening with him is that he is truly fearful of being vulnerable with a woman. He knows that showing his true feelings has the potential of getting him seriously hurt.
Does this sound like your Scorpio man and are you worried about him being distant? Then keep on reading to find out why he does this and what you can do to prevent this behavior from happening again…
Why Are Scorpios So Cold And Distant?
The Scorpio man hot and cold is something all too common when it comes to this sign. They do this all the time because these are men who approach life in the biggest of extremes. It is all or nothing with them.
The main reason this happens is that the Scorpio man is actually very sensitive and emotional. He is deathly afraid of being hurt and this is why he tends to run away before there is a chance for him to get left.
A Scorpio man may say he has a desire for deep intimacy, but it is the thing that terrifies him just as much. He has a very big fear of being hurt, and this is why he creates walls that no one can penetrate because he feels safer this way.
A Scorpio distant all of a sudden is something you need to expect when getting to know him at first. He is going to put you through a lot as you get to know him. There is nothing simple about the Scorpio man as I am sure you know.
Learn more about Scorpio man likes and dislikes in a woman here <<
Is Your Scorpio Man Distant After Intimacy? Here’s What To Do
When a Scorpio man withdraws after intimacy it can feel really awful. Like you have been used and are no longer good enough. I know it hurts, trust me, I have been there too. It is one of the worst things he can possibly do.
It is very possible that all he wanted from you in the first place was sex… However, chances are much larger that he just feels really uncomfortable with intimacy and is afraid of what he is feeling now that he has slept with you.
He has real trouble opening up and showing his vulnerable side. I want you to know that the way he is treating you now is a reflection of him, and not of you, so please don’t beat yourself up or take it too personally.
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A Scorpio man pulls away after intimacy because he doesn’t want to show his feelings and make you think that he is weak. He wants to feel like he is in control of his emotions and if he is vulnerable with you, he is no longer in control.
This is one of the very big reasons a Scorpio man becomes distant after intimacy. What you can do is simply give him space and show him that you are understanding. You aren’t going to become clingy and needy. Give him a moment to breathe and don’t chase after him.
Scorpio Man Says I Love You Then Disappears — Why Is He So Confusing?
The Scorpio man is so confusing because he is confused himself. The emotions he feels are so intense that it can sometimes become a bit much for him and this is when he tends to retreat back into his shell where he feels safest.
He has a lot going on in his mind. Maybe your behavior has changed since he told you how he feels and now he feels suffocated and like he has nowhere to go. If you are rushing him to commit to you then you are going to push him away. He needs to feel like he is in control.
The Scorpio man still wants his freedom and if he feels like it is being taken away from him it can really make him feel crazy. And this is when he has the tendency to run away as far as possible to connect with himself again.
There is the possibility that you never told him how you feel about him back. So now he is feeling like an idiot because he is vulnerable and doesn’t know how you feel about him either.
There is also a chance that your Scorpio man is just using you and was never truly interested in you at all. If you think this might be the case for you, click here for more signs on what to look for if a Scorpio man is using you <<
How To Deal With The Scorpio Man When He Becomes Distant
Distance is something that Scorpio men are all too familiar and comfortable with. They tend to do this when they’re confused, upset, or trying to figure things out.
If you notice that your Scorpio guy has gone distant, you may want to let him have that time and space. It should be alright short term. When or if he makes it more long-term then there is a problem that should be addressed.
Give him space to figure things out but it’s up to you how much time you will actually give him before you reach out and tell him that you need to know what is going on or that you’re there if he needs to talk.
Having that open communication will help ease the worried Scorpio man if he’s wondering whether he can rely on you or trust you. In the event that the Scorpio man is distant after intimacy, you need to reassess.
Don’t let him get away with pulling back after you’ve given your intimate side to him. He may be confused but still, he shouldn’t close himself off to you. Ask him what is going on.
Scorpio man pulling away isn’t fun and should be looked at. There is a reason he’s doing this and it’s up to you to ask him why. Don’t leave yourself hanging, find out!
What To Text A Scorpio Man When He Withdraws After Intimacy?
If you have noticed your Scorpio man has withdrawn after intimacy it can feel really terrible. Your instinct is probably to reach out and figure out what on Earth is happening and immediately too. However, I would suggest that you give him some space first.
Use your own intuition to figure out that the reason he is distant is probably because he needs some space. Give it a couple of days and reach out to him and ask him if he is okay. If he gives you some generic reply then you should take action.
If you don’t like what he is saying then take a few deep breaths and try not to respond out of anger. But it is important to let him know how you feel, even if it means you simply ask for clarity to understand what is going on.
Let him know that you feel hurt by his silence and that you just want to know what is going on. It is important that he is accountable for his behavior, but try to do it with as much grace and elegance as possible.
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FAQ About Distant Scorpio Man
How To Distance Yourself From A Scorpio Man?
It can be very hard to move away from a Scorpio man once you are in his grip. A Scorpio man can be very possessive and easily make you feel like you are owned by him. He wants you for himself and no one else can have you.
So it can be pretty difficult to move away from a Scorpio man when you want to get distance from him. The only thing you can really do is to go no contact and make it impossible for him to get hold of you.
How To Deal With Scorpio Man Mood Swings?
When dating a Scorpio man you are going to have to get used to his mood swings and realize that this guy is up and down. This doesn’t mean that you have to take this personally though. Don’t let his moods affect you.
Make sure that you are grounded and happy in your own life, or else his up and down nature will become a bit much for you. Be strong and focus on your own life. He will come around eventually, but allow him to feel what he is feeling.
Will A Scorpio Man Come Back After Disappearing?
The Scorpio man is pretty intense, but also incredibly stubborn. If he has made his mind up about something or someone it is usually quite difficult to convince him otherwise. However, Scorpio men do like to go back once they get enough space.
A Scorpio man will go back to you, however, it depends on how you behave in the time he is distant. If you just give him space and let him be he is more likely to come around than if you put pressure on him and cling to him.
Is Your Scorpio Man Avoiding Commitment?
Does your Scorpio man pull away or get quiet when you’ve just had a deep emotional connection? Does he seem to disappear just when you thought he was getting closer?
Have you felt confused by your Scorpio man hot and cold behavior?
If so, then he might have an avoidant attachment style.
He could be Dismissive Avoidant and completely terrified of commitment… Or he could be Fearful Avoidant and REALLY want commitment, but get scared when he feels himself getting closer to you.
If he has either one of these attachment styles, you’re going to end up feeling extremely confused at times.
And both are caused by childhood trauma.
When you can see the scared little boy inside him that had to shut down his feelings if he’s dismissive avoidant… Or have a parent not provide his needs consistently if he’s fearful avoidant…
It can make it easier to have empathy and compassion for his confusing and frustrating behavior. But that won’t fix it.
And while advice on attachment styles can be helpful… What you really need to stop this frustrating hot and cold cycle is to understand him better.
It will stop him from pulling back when you begin feeling closer.
And it will accomplish this in only 30 days.
So no more crying yourself to sleep when he pulls back… No more feeling incredibly confused. And no more wondering what in the heck is going on with him…
Even if he has an avoidant attachment style.