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Is Your Scorpio Man Just Using You? 5 Signs to Look For

Scorpio man is very sexy and very good in bed. However, there are times where some women cannot figure out if they’re being used for sex or if he is really into them. Is your Scorpio man just using you?

Here are some signs to keep an eye out for if a Scorpio man is just using you.

1. Talks About Sex A LOT

If you are at the beginning stages of talking to a Scorpio guy and he keeps asking you for dirty pics, tries to sext you, or talks about what he wants to do when you’re together again, he may be in it for sex only.

When a Scorpio man actually wants a relationship with someone, he typically will save the sexy talk for later once the bond has been formed and he’s sure that the relationship is going somewhere.

Scorpio is only playing around when he only wants to talk about sex with you. This will be especially true if you’ve already been suckered into getting into bed with him. Scorpio men can be a little prudish when they actually like someone.

He’ll hold off on the sex until he thinks there is hope. If he’s diving into bed right away, he’s not interested in a relationship, he wants either a booty call or a one night stand. You can tell if a Scorpio man is just using you.

Asking you for naughty photos or texts too much? He’s playing you and isn’t interested in forming a lifelong relationship filled with love and romance. He wants a good shagging, nothing more.

2. Doesn’t Want To Go Out

Is your scorpio man just using you

A trademark for a Scorpio man that is only using or playing you is that he never wants to go out in public with you. He doesn’t want to get together with you and your friends both. He just wants you to himself.

He won’t take you out to be around his friends either. He claims he wants time alone with you but really what he’s doing is getting what he wants from you and has no intention on anyone knowing about you.

You’ve become his dirty little secret that he has to keep under wraps so that no one thinks he has a girlfriend. That also means that you are NOT his girlfriend, you’re a friend with benefits or one-night thing.

A sign of him wanting to stay in all the time when you’re with him is a huge red flag for you that should let you know he’s not in a relationship with you and may not want one either. You might ask him for the truth so you know. This is a sign a Scorpio man is just using you.

3. Doesn’t Want To Meet Your Friends or Family

As I mentioned, he won’t want to go out anywhere with you where he could get seen or where you could. He won’t express any interest in meeting your friends or your family.

If you ask him or indicate you’d like for him to meet them, he’ll come up with excuses as to why he doesn’t think he should or that he’s not ready. Problem is, months go by and he still doesn’t want to.

That’s another red flag that you should pay attention to ladies. A man that has no interest in your friends or where you come from has no investment in you and will not want a future with you. This is another sign a Scorpio man is just using you.

A normal Scorpio man wants to meet his woman’s friends and family so he can learn who she really is, where she comes from, and what he can expect with her in the future.

4. Doesn’t Open Up

is your scorpio man just using you

Scorpio men do not open up easily at all. They take a whole lot of time to make sure they are safe and secure in the relationship they are in. They have to trust a woman to want to talk to her.

That being said, if you’re seeing a Scorpio man or talking to one but he never wants to talk about personal stuff, this is a sign he’s either not ready or he’s not even into you.

A woman he’s just using for sex will never get to know him on a deeply personal level. He has no care or trust in her, therefore, will never reveal who he truly is and is a sign you should walk away.

Scorpio man who is playing you will keep the conversation very basic and/or sexual without any actual emotion or content. This is a bad sign. If he continues doing this as time passes, he’s not into you. It’s probably time to move on.

5. Only Calls For Sex

I’ve mentioned his drive for sex. Well, the Scorpio man will only call you up when he’s really bored or wants some sex. Whether it’s phone sex, sexting or asking you to come over, it’s all about physical intimacy. Another red flag that a Scorpio man is just using you.

This is all physical intimacy without actual emotional intimacy. There’s a possibility he won’t even invite you to stay the night or will ask you to leave first thing in the morning if you do stay over.

He isn’t interested in playing house with someone he’s just screwing. So if you are able to tell by all these signs that he’s only into sex… that’s where his head is at and isn’t into relationship mode.

He has no interest in who you are, where you came from, or what you want with him other than a pleasure ride. Keep these things in mind when you are trying to figure out if he’s really into you or if he’s just playing you.


There are plenty of signs but these are the biggest ones to look for when it comes to the Scorpio man and his desire for physical intimacy without the emotional intimacy that most women want.

Be careful and always trust your own intuition about these types of things. Do what you need to do to make sure your life is what you want it to be. Guard your heart but not too much as to not let anyone in.

If you think that a Scorpio man is using you, then I can help you understand why he is the way he is. Click here for some more details on him.

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How do you know if a Scorpio man is just using you?

Wishing you all the luck of the universe!


Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,

Anna Kovach


    • Hi Michelle! If you two are already dating then I’m not sure what your question really is. Take it slow and easy. Don’t try to pressure him for a deeper commitment. Take your time and make sure that you both want to continue what you have. Even if the divorce is fresh, he probably knows what he wants or doesn’t want. Don’t be afraid to talk to him about it and find out what he’d like to do about the two of you otherwise keep things going and just don’t rush. If you’d like to know more about the Scorpio man as he is a little different than the female Scorpio, you might want to check out my book “Scorpio Man Secrets”.

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