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Possible Signs A Scorpio Man Just Wants To Be Friends

There comes a point when you are seeing a Scorpio when you might wonder how to tell if a Scorpio man just wants to be friends. Everything seems to be going well, but he just isn’t making the commitment that you desire.

One moment you think you are lovers, and the next thing it feels like you and your Scorpio guy are just friends. This can be super confusing and really frustrating. What should you do?

Are you dating a Scorpio man but aren’t sure what’s up with him or how he feels about you? Does he actually care for you, or is he just using you as some sort of booty call?

It is crucial to your future endeavors in love to know the difference! I can definitely help you to figure out how to tell if a Scorpio man is using you.

The Scorpio man is very sexy and very good in bed. However, there are situations where some women cannot figure out if they’re being used for sex or if he is really into them. You may want to keep reading to see if you can determine all the signs that a Scorpio man is using you. Maybe he is, and maybe he isn’t. It’s time that you are able to see the difference!

Can A Scorpio Man Just Be Friends With A Woman?

Scorpio men are incredibly intense creatures and tend to have an all-or-nothing kind of attitude. He wants to be the boss and the person who makes up all of the rules. Being friends with a Scorpio man is unlikely, especially if the two of you have a sexual history.

This is a man who takes his relationships quite seriously, and I don’t foresee him wanting to be friends with a woman he has a history with because down the line, it might complicate his future romantic relationships.

Of course, if things were never sexual or romantically inclined between you and him, then it is possible for you to be friends with a Scorpio man. But I wouldn’t suggest befriending a Scorpio man if you have hopes of something more serious with him in the future.

When a Scorpio man wants a woman, he will go out of his way to make her his. If he doesn’t pursue her in any way, he is likely not interested (and likely never will be). The Scorpio man knows what he wants!

Can a Scorpio man just be friends, the gossip: A Scorpio man will find it hard to be just friends with a woman, especially if there is some sexual history from the past.

The Scorpio Man Just Wants To Hook Up – What Should You Do?

Scorpio Man Just Wants To Hook Up

The Scorpio man is a sexual being — there’s no denying that! His favorite pastime is probably a good old-fashioned romp. This man loves sex, and he will get it as often as he can.

When he isn’t too serious about a woman, he is more inclined to sleep with her very soon. That is when he doesn’t care for love and romance, he just wants to do the deed and get it done.

If a Scorpio man just wants to hook up with you, then that is probably all you are ever going to be to him. This is a guy who loves commitment and being in a long-term relationship, so he will put in the effort for a woman he has feelings for.

But if he is just looking for sex and hooking up, then he is going to do the bare minimum. The last thing he wants is you to fall in love with him and complicate the situation even further.

When a Scorpio man wants to hook up, that is all he wants from you, and he has probably already made up his mind and knows that the situation isn’t going to progress or become any deeper.

This is why you should never sleep with a Scorpio man too soon; you may ruin the chances of the two of you discovering a genuine connection together. Wait it out with this man!

The lowdown on the Scorpio man just wanting sex: When a Scorpio man only wants to hook up with you, he probably isn’t too keen on seeing the relationship grow into something deeper and more meaningful.

Here Are Some Signs That A Scorpio Man Is Just Using You

1. He Talks About Sex A LOT

If you are at the beginning stages of talking to a Scorpio guy and he keeps asking you for dirty pics, tries to sext you, or talks about what he wants to do when you’re together again, he may be in it only for sex.

When a Scorpio man actually wants a relationship with someone, he typically will save the sexy talk for later, once the bond has been formed and he’s sure that the relationship is going somewhere.

Scorpio is only playing around when he wants to talk about sex with you and nothing else. This will be especially true if you’ve already been suckered into getting into bed with him. Scorpio men can be a little prudish when they actually like someone.

He’ll hold off on having sex until he thinks there is hope. If he’s diving into bed right away, he’s not interested in a relationship, he wants either a booty call or a one-night stand. You can tell if a Scorpio man is just using you.

Is he asking you for naughty photos or texting you too much? He’s playing you and isn’t interested in forming a lifelong relationship filled with love and romance. He wants a good shagging, nothing more.

2. He Doesn’t Want To Go Out

Scorpio Man Doesn’t Want To Go Out

A trademark for a Scorpio man that is only using or playing you is that he never wants to go out in public with you. Scorpio guy doesn’t want to get together with you and your friends both. This guy just wants you for himself.

The Scorpio man won’t take you out to be around his friends either. He claims that he wants time alone with you, but really what he’s doing is getting what he wants from you and has no intention of anyone knowing about you.

You’ve become his dirty little secret that he has to keep under wraps so that no one thinks he has a girlfriend. That also means that you are NOT his girlfriend, you’re a friend with benefits or a one-night thing.

A sign of him wanting to stay in all the time when you’re with him is a huge red flag for you that should let you know he’s not in a relationship with you and may not want one either. You might ask him directly for the truth, so you will know what he wants. This is a sign that a Scorpio man is just using you.

3. He Doesn’t Want To Meet Your Friends or Family

As I mentioned, he won’t want to go out anywhere with you where he may be seen or where you would be spotted and recognized. He won’t express any interest in meeting your friends or your family.

If you ask or indicate that you’d like for him to meet them, he’ll come up with excuses as to why he doesn’t think he should or why he’s not yet ready. The problem is, months go by and he still doesn’t want to.

That’s another red flag that you should pay attention to, ladies. A man that has no interest in your friends or where you come from has no investment in you, and will not want a future with you. This is another sign a Scorpio man is just using you.

A normal Scorpio man wants to meet his woman’s friends and family, so he can learn who she really is, where she comes from, and what he can expect from her in the future.

4. He Doesn’t Open Up

Signs A Scorpio Man Just Wants To Be Friends

Scorpio men do not open up easily, at all! They take a whole lot of time to make sure they are safe and secure in the relationship. They have to trust a woman to want to talk to her.

That being said, if you’re seeing a Scorpio man or talking to one but he never wants to talk about personal stuff, this is a sign he’s either not ready or he’s not really into you.

A woman he’s just using for sex will never get to know him on a deeply personal level. He has no care or trust in her, therefore, he will never reveal who he truly is, and it is a sign you should walk away.

A Scorpio man who is playing you will keep the conversation very basic and/or sexual, without any actual emotion or content. This is a bad sign. If he continues doing this as time passes, he’s not into you. It’s probably time to move on.

5. He Only Calls For Sex

I’ve mentioned his drive for sex. Well, the Scorpio man will only call you up when he’s really bored or wants some sex. Whether it’s phone sex, sexting, or asking you to come over, it’s all about physical intimacy. Another red flag that a Scorpio man is just using you.

This is all physical intimacy without any real emotional intimacy. There’s a possibility he won’t even invite you to stay the night or will ask you to leave first thing in the morning if you do stay over.

He isn’t interested in playing house with someone he’s just screwing. So, if you are able to tell by all these signs that he’s only into sex… that’s where his head is at and he isn’t in relationship mode.

He has no interest in who you are, where you came from, or what you want with him other than a pleasure ride. Keep these things in mind when you are trying to figure out if he’s really into you or if he’s just playing you.

These are all definitive signs of how to tell if a Scorpio man is using you. Get wise, pay attention, and watch for these red flags and you’ll save yourself some heartache in the long run.

Signs a Scorpio man is using you summarized: A Scorpio man who is using you is likely only doing so for sex. You can tell because he doesn’t want to be seen in public with you and refuses to introduce you to the people closest to him.

Reasons Why A Scorpio Man Just Wants To Be Friends With You

1. He Is In Love With Someone Else

Reasons Why A Scorpio Man Just Wants To Be Friends With You

When a Scorpio man loves, he loves hard and he gives his heart to that woman. It can take a very long time for him to get over her, and while he is in this process, it is unlikely for him to notice anyone else.

This is probably when he would suggest just remaining friends with a woman. He knows that he can’t share his heart with her and his affections lie elsewhere. He is trying to protect you, so when he says he just wants to be friends, respect it.

You can be patient and wait for him to come around, but you may be wasting your time.

2. He Doesn’t See A Future With You

Like I have mentioned before, when a Scorpio man is interested in a woman, he makes it known and goes out of his way to get her to be his. However, this man is incredibly picky, and he won’t settle for anything less than perfect.

If a Scorpio man only wants to be friends with you, it is very likely that he doesn’t think the two of you would be a good match. This guy has a really good intuition and he knows who he is, so if he doesn’t feel that connection, then he isn’t going to force it.

There is nothing you can do about it. Accept it and move on to someone who sees how amazing and worthy of the love you are!

3. He Doesn’t Trust You

Scorpio Man Just Wants To Be Friends With You

One of the biggest things for a Scorpio man is trust, especially in his relationships. You might not think it but he is actually such a sweet and sensitive guy under that hard shell.

One of his biggest fears in life is being betrayed or getting hurt by someone he loves. This causes him to put a guard up and be too scared to open up his heart to love. It is just easier for him to put up his walls and make friendship the priority.

Perhaps he has been burned in the past and just isn’t ready to make a commitment to someone new yet. He needs time and space to heal, and maybe friendship is all he can offer you at this time.

Respect it, and allow him to heal.

4. You Slept With Him Too Soon

Sleeping with a Scorpio man too soon can be quite the faux pas. These guys love the thrill of the chase and working their way towards something. Perhaps you were taken with passion and couldn’t help yourself and slept with him too soon.

These things happen, but unfortunately, that is probably when your Scorpio man will lose interest and only want to be your friend. Never sleep with a Scorpio man too soon, because he will never respect you or see you as someone worth being with.

The lowdown on a Scorpio man only wanting to be friends: There could be many reasons why a Scorpio man only wants to be friends with you and it could be anything from him being in love with someone else to him simply not feeling ready to be in a relationship with someone.

Signs He Isn’t Interested Than Being More Than Friends With Benefits

When a Scorpio man touches you, you can tell if he’s really passionate and if he’s into you. If he’s all about sex then he’s going to be rather dry and devoid of care. You should be able to feel a palpable difference.

When a Scorpio man cares and possibly is in love with you, he’ll be sensual, soft, and gentle. If he’s all about sex then he may try to hurry, he may not pay attention to your needs as a woman, and he may flip over and be done when he finishes.  Pay very close attention to his touch and you should be able to determine if your Scorpio man is using you or not.

Maybe the Scorpio man only wants to be friends with benefits. If that is true, there are signs a Scorpio man just wants to be friends. In fact, I’d like to share those with you now so that you’re able to figure out if he’s putting you in the friendzone or if he’s actually interested in more from you. Here are the signs that may interest you:

  • Wants to hang out and have sex, but doesn’t want to sleep over (ever).
  • Doesn’t take you out on dates, only stays in at his place or yours.
  • Doesn’t introduce you to important people in his life.
  • He doesn’t seem to want to talk about intensely personal things with you.
  • Flat out tells you that he isn’t into having a relationship.
  • He keeps checking his phone while he’s with you. It’s like he’s late or waiting to hear from someone.
  • The man won’t bring up commitment, marriage, children, or anything else important like this with you.

Now you have some more useful information that helps you determine if he ever has any intention of being something more than friends with you or if he’s keeping you as a friend that he can have sex with from time to time. If you don’t mind being friends with benefits, then this isn’t a big deal.

My Final Thoughts

There are some pretty clear signs when a Scorpio man is in love with you or if he only wants to be your friend. He is a lot easier to read than you might think.

My suggestion with a Scorpio man is to always try to take it slow with him. Make him work for it, and remember, you are worth a lot more than you can imagine, so stick it out and see if HE is actually worth your time.

Being with a Scorpio man can be a lot of fun!

These men are some of the most desirable in the whole Zodiac.

So, it makes so much sense why you are so drawn to your Scorpio man!

However, it is such a pity that recently it seems like he is trying to actively avoid you…

Whenever you reach out and try to speak to him you are met with silence or short replies…

The faster he pulls away the more it just breaks your heart…

You just can’t seem to understand why your Scorpio man keeps ignoring you!

You are sure that you didn’t do something wrong?

And when you ask him, he says it’s nothing…

But you know deep down in your gut that this just isn’t true…

He is pulling away, and you know it.

If only there was something you could do to repair the relationship to its former glory!

You would do anything in the world to have your Scorpio man look at you the way he once did…

You love him with all your heart and you want to fix what is broken…

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There are definitely ways that you can turn all of this around and make your Scorpio man putty in your hands.

However, you need to be ready to commit to this change because once it has been made, then there is no going back.

There is so much you still have to learn about Scorpio men and the way they respond to love and romance.

And you deserve to know this information because it can be invaluable in the way you show up in your relationships.

The relationship you have always wanted is at your fingertips…

It just depends on you if you are ready to reach out and grab it!

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Wishing you so much love and happiness.

Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,

Anna Kovach

12 thoughts on “Possible Signs A Scorpio Man Just Wants To Be Friends

  1. I am dating a Scorpio man and I am a Scorpio woman and his divorce is fresh what can I do I am having feelings for him?

    1. Hi Michelle! If you two are already dating then I’m not sure what your question really is. Take it slow and easy. Don’t try to pressure him for a deeper commitment. Take your time and make sure that you both want to continue what you have. Even if the divorce is fresh, he probably knows what he wants or doesn’t want. Don’t be afraid to talk to him about it and find out what he’d like to do about the two of you otherwise keep things going and just don’t rush. If you’d like to know more about the Scorpio man as he is a little different than the female Scorpio, you might want to check out my book “Scorpio Man Secrets”.

  2. I am seeing a Scorpio man for nearly 6 months, I am an Aquarius woman. He is the one to ask if I can be his girlfriend. He is a business man that work 7 days, so we don’t meet a lots, sometimes even don’t meet for three months. He texts me everyday in the early morning, but conversation simple and short. Most of the time, he comes to see me after work and late at night, in that case we go Straight to have sex without having dinners or drinks and I do feel like been using for sex, and told him once about me feeling that we are in a relationship like one night stand, but he said we’re not. We never meet friends from each other, and none of me/his friends knowing that we’re dating. I tried to move on once and stop contacting him after sending him a message about us moving on. He texted me back in a week and said to me like he is still in the relationship and didn’t agree to move on. I loved him so much, so I decided to give both of us a chance. However, I feel so confused about him, and don’t know what he wants from me, which I asked him once and he said he’s too busy to think about that time. Recently he’s planning to go overseas for Xmas holiday and don’t even have any plans to spend time with me. I don’t even know if I should continue this relationship or not. For an Aquarius woman, this is too insecure and uncertainty to deal with. Please can anyone help me out?

    1. Hi Janice!

      You need to sit down with him face to face and really talk about your feelings and what you want. There is no way around this. You cannot speculate or you’ll drive yourself nuts trying to figure it out. Simply tell him you are confused by everything and you’d like clarity on what your relationship is exactly what ask him how he feels about it. You’ll get the clarity you need then. I hope this helps!

  3. Hi I am 57 year old cancer woman and have been dating 54 year old Scorpio man for 6 months I have read everything about them but when I am with him I am so confused and always land up feeling hurt ….and wondering if I am being used . I have met his best friends who have told me I have made him really really happy and they say he won’t openly tell me anything. And this is true, he does not even say he likes being with me. Or I make him happy , he has brought me flowers and treats me well , looks after me when I’m with him … but does ignore me when he’s playing on video games and keeps his curtains drawn and tells me to shut up if I talk too much and I love communicating , he does not talk about himself or ask me about myself … I am falling in love with this man, one day he had to get up early so asked me to go home early, things that just confuse me so much …. because when I read up about it, it says these are the signs he’s using me .. I know he is stubborn and he’s like a rock I can’t get through , do u think I should give it more time

    1. Hi Deborah! Scorpios don’t trust people and when they do it comes from a very long time of getting to know someone. Otherwise they’re very secretive and tight lipped. Also if they’ve been hurt, they’ll close off and not easily talk about their feelings. This is all normal. Give him some time and be patient with him. I think that after awhile he’ll get comfortable enough to really start to open up and fall for you. Don’t give up on it just yet!

  4. I had a one night stand with a Scorpio over a year ago but we went to school together so I’ve known him for a long time. After we had sex he told me he wanted to see me again. So I texted him a few days later but he never seemed interested. But we stayed in contact and little talks here and there. About 9 months after i told him that i actually really liked him and that I haven’t been with anyone since. He was super excited about it but i was too late and he was in another relationship. After that he would text me here and there to see how i was doing and tell me he was thinking of me. So long story short he broke up with her after his bday. A month after he texted me and said he wanted to see me. So a couple nights ago we did. He even met my mom and sister took a moment to talk to them. We actually talked and hung out for over a hour before i kissed him. When he left he promised me we will be seeing each other and he will come any time I want. But he didnt text me the next day. And today i just texted saying he was amazing. He was appreciative but really short. So I feel like its happening all over again. I’m also a Capricorn female.

  5. I was dating a Scorpio man for a couple months. Things started very slowly and I didn’t sleep with him until I had been talking to him for a month and had a few dates. Things were going well I thought and he had me over one day to his house and was very thoughtful and sweet and he took me ice-skating behind his house and made me dinner. Then he abruptly stopped initiating texting me. He responded to my texts but wouldn’t initiate, which was a change. I sensed something was wrong and gave him space and when I finally and casually asked him what was up with him he told me that he thought we shouldn’t see each other anymore because I had said I didn’t want a relationship but we were acting like we were in a relationship and he thought one of us might get hurt because he didn’t particularly want a relationship at that time either and he couldn’t differentiate between friends with benefits and a relationship. So I told him that yes I probably shouldn’t be in a serious relationship at the time considering I am going through a divorce but I was developing feelings for him so I understood where he was coming from and wished him well. He left it at maybe in a few months we could try being hiking buddies again. It’s been a month of no contact. I find I can’t stop thinking about him and I want him back. Wondering if I have a chance with my Scorpio man. I am a leo sun and cancer moon

    1. Hi Amelia!

      All I can tell you is that when a Scorpio man says he isn’t into having a relationship then he is being pretty honest. It’s hard to say whether or not he will be hiking buddies again. Only time can hash that out. There is also no way to know for sure if you’ll have a chance with him again. He has to want it. Try to stay friends with him and maybe when he IS ready for something more serious and you’re divorced, things could spark back up. I wish you all the very best!

  6. Good day hope all is well, My first Scorpio I had ever encountered sense I started to date . I kept myself from Scorpio men because of the high tension that can be created especially when it’s good between the two people . So here I get the chance to experience a Scorpio man from my sons school matter of fact he is my son coach I know I know , but see I’m the one that kept things out of sight out of mind which means I had a feeling with a back up dream that this man really wanted me but wasn’t sure how he wanted me is the thing . He text me out of the blue which wasn’t a normal text or out of order text . But he sent me an invite to his home for a basketball game watch and I never responded to the text until I was sure that I wanted to go which was hours later . Cause I was overwhelmed on how things was going to play out , I went to his home we talked he was looking shocked that I even took his invite. Like all I wanted to know was the truth on way he sent the invite. But for some reason I felt like he wouldn’t never told me til this day he won’t tell me the truth on why he sent the invite on a Sunday evening at that . That night is swimming through my soul how I haven’t even had sexual connection or sex before that moment in two years . He felt it and lord knows I did and now it’s like he asked me right after what do I want from him and I said nothing that’s only cause he stated before we had sex that his ex’s fiancé and him had other plans which she fail to go through with their plans that’s why things didn’t work out as much . He said that he like my consistency and when I asked him are we just sex partners or friends with benefits he said while laying in his bed no that he was going with the flow . Well the flow of great sex of us has been going on for three months in a half now . After I while I have plans to cut it off cause I’m starting to see half and half of his interaction when it’s texting and calling . He stated that he see that I be chilling and doing what I’m supposed to do as a mother and a person of myself. The thing is my sons father wants to work things out with me but think he knows that me and our son coach have been texting in staying in contact with each other outside of me being a mother but I want the coach. It’s like the coach took all the feelings that my son father gave me.

    1. Hi Tea!

      Thank you for sharing your experience with Scorpio man. It sounds like you should do some deep meditation so that you can make the right decision and go from there. I think you will find the answer if you look within. Sometimes the best thing is to focus on self love so that you accept nothing less. I wish you all the luck of the universe!

  7. I have been met with my Scorpio men almost 9 months ago. Everything is going smooth. But the thing is we are far from each other but we still remain there. After 7 months , he told me that he loves me . Everything is going well and my feelings was developed strongly . I believe that his feeling is also strong . He told every secret of his life and family . But I noticed that he faces some problems at his life and family since 2 week ago . He told me that he is not ready for relationship and he cried so much in front of me and said “ I’m so perfect. So He try to love me but he failed it. ” It hurt me a lot . I told him that “ Let’s break for moments and test yourself during that time “. He agreed with that. I’m sure that if I text him now, he will text me quickly and if I call , he will answer it . During the relationship, we share our deep feelings, sometimes he cries so much in front of me, he shares his deepest secrets about his family . I know that he doesn’t have any girl in his life except me . In here , I wanted to know that he is not sure because of his problems in his life or he really doesn’t love me . Or what should I do at this stage ??

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