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What Are Some Reasons The Scorpio Man May Not Commit?

If you are dating a Scorpio man but not seeing any sign as to advance to the next level in your relationship and are wondering why.

Here is some advice that may help you figure out why a Scorpio man may not commit.

1. He May be too Ambitious

Scorpio men are notorious for having some high set goals that they intend on seeing through. If a relationship is perceived as being in the way; he may back out in order to get his success.

Some Scorpio men can become so driven that they become workaholics. This can effectively snuff out a relationship if not careful. Such scenarios can make his partner insecure or jealous.

If she shows him that she’s feeling these things; he will likely feel distressed and want to end the relationship. His goals are always very important to him and if his partner cannot understand this; he’ll move on.

In the chance that you’re dating a Scorpio, you’re going to have to either be ambitious enough yourself that you cancel each other out or you’ll have to be sympathetic to his situation.

Maintaining love with the hard-working Scorpio can be a challenge but if you stick it out, there can be a victory at the end of the tunnel.

2. Not Ready for a Relationship

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If he’s dating you and seems to be comfortable with that mode thus not moving forward, he may just not be ready to commit. This can be due to past hurts, current projects, or just that his heart isn’t in it.

There are many variables that can cause a Scorpio man not to be ready to dive into a relationship. It depends on each man themselves. His moon could cause him to hide away like a Gemini man or Virgo man.

Having either of those moons or even a Taurus moon will make him tread carefully and be in no particular hurry to get things moving past where he already is.

Typically he will let you know in some way that he just isn’t ready. He’ll pull back, he won’t want to go out very much or spend much time together. He may also go ahead and tell you he isn’t ready.

If he holds back but you know something is up, simply be upfront with him and ask him what he feels and where he sees things going with the two of you.

3. Life Problems

Sometimes the Scorpio man is going through some very personal problems as and such, he doesn’t feel he’s ready to settle down with anyone. He has to feel secure in order to want to commit.

This truly is one of those cases where he’d say “It’s me, not you”; and mean it. If he feels overwhelmed in any way, a relationship will be the last thing he wants to deal with.

This could be a result of his career not going well, finances not going well, or a variety of other issues that feel like a heavy load. If he is carrying a heavy load, he will not be willing to concentrate on love.

Scorpio men stress themselves out and become very emotional. This is why they stay alone for long periods of time. They try to cope with who they are and what needs to be fixed before they share their lives with someone.

4. Not Happy With You

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If the Scorpio man isn’t feeling as though he’s completely fulfilled in the relationship he has with you, he’ll pull back and certainly, will not want to commit and become more.

It could be that he isn’t totally convinced one way or the other. It could also be that maybe not enough time has elapsed for him to really know what he wants or if it’s you that he wants.

He may want to weigh his options and make sure he’s not missing out on some other opportunity. It could be that he’s attracted to you in one way but not fitting with another.

He is finicky but knows what he wants and if he just isn’t feeling that chemistry or connection he wants; he may pull back and will be resistant to commitment with you. He’s looking for a very special spark.

5. If You Try to Force Him

The Scorpio man is one of the signs that do not like to be told what to do. If you give him an ultimatum or try to force his hand into a commitment, he will absolutely become cold or withdraw from you.

Commitment is off the table if you’re trying to push him to it. He has to feel it’s his idea or at the very least; that he is somewhat in control with what is happening within his life.

The best thing to do is to allow him to figure out the timeframe of what he wants and let him lead. If you do not, it may result in him breaking it off or becoming cold toward you. The Scorpion sting is hard to heal from.

If you keep insinuating that you want a commitment from him when he isn’t ready, he will find this annoying and will definitely keep you from attaining your victory with him in a relationship.

It may be best to simmer and let the Scorpio man come to you when he is fully ready. Show him some really good incentive for why he should commit to you. Show him how wonderful and caring you are.

Try to show him that you don’t need him; you just want him. Make him your 50/50 partner rather than trying to lean on him or push him to do things he doesn’t want.

Be passionate in life but be sure to keep him reassured that you’re confident and will stay with him through the good times and the bad.

Click here for more information on how to land a Scorpio man and more!!

I totally get how hard it is to figure out what is going on in this sexy man’s head at any given time. However; if you work with him; you may win the day with him.

What do you think are some of the reasons a Scorpio man may not commit?

I hope this helps you to get a little closer to him by knowing what not to do.

Share your story (or situation) with our community in the comment section below (don’t worry, it’s anonymous).

Wishing you all the luck of the universe

Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,

Anna Kovach

7 thoughts on “What Are Some Reasons The Scorpio Man May Not Commit?

  1. Thanks for your article…

    I am experiencing number 3: life problems…

    I met a Scorpio man who seemed to be really into me but one day he disappeared without any reasons… I never asked questions nor did I go after him…

    I texted him 2 months afterwards because I couldn’t stop thinking about him. He told me that he was sorry, that he really likes me and he wanted to see me but he just couldn’t. We had another date, he said he couldn’t be in a relationship at the moment, that we could just see each other as « friends » but no being in a relationship. I agreed but never any news again nor did he… Well in the meantime his personal life became a nightmare (i knew it from a common friend)…

    5 months later, he saw me in the street and texted me… We started to see each other again… Wonderful date nights… But I never ask questions… I know he is going through hell and has sleepless nights due to personal problems (he told that to a common friend)… He always comes back to me… Always… Some people tell me that if a man really loves you he will do whatever he can to be with you… I have the feeling (I am a cancer) that it’s more complicated with a Scorpio: When we were dating, I didn’t reply to one of his text, the next day he asked a friend that we have in common if I met someone else… It baffled me because he didn’t seem to care much about me at the time… I have learnt that there is sometimes a gap between what he feels and what he shows… I can tell he is not ready to talk about « us » for the moment and that he needs time… But Scorpios are deeply emotional and really prone to anxiety so yes they want passion but require patience!!!! A lot of patience and understanding….

    As you write: « If you work with him you may win the day with him »… Hope it’s true

    1. Hi Bella!

      Thank you so much for sharing your story. Yes, they do require much patience because they aren’t about to trust and open up to someone if they don’t fully trust them. It takes them time to build that up. This is why they don’t like commitment until they know for sure. Yes, if you have patience you may win him over for good. Don’t short change yourself though. You don’t need to change who you are, just compromise. Hope it works out for you!

  2. Hi Bella,

    Thank you for sharing your story.

    I would like to know what is the status now after 2 months you posted this.
    I am dating a scorpio too and I have been patience , almost a similar situation as you.

    Would be grateful if you are able to share with me. Thanks dear

  3. I have been seeing this scorp man for about a month now. We’ve known each other since high school and he has always had a crush on me that’s as far as it went.I got married had children and moved away for 16 yrs. Now divorced and we have reconnected. He told me that he loves me and always loved me. He swept me right off my feet.I’ve fallen deep for this man. He told me that If he ever found out that I was entertaining other men that he would leave me pronto. But he hasn’t made me feel like he fully has committed to me yet or will he ever. I know it’s soon we text ablot and live in different cities so he doesn’t intimate visits too much. I just want to know where I stand and what he is feeling for me.

    1. Hi Nicole!

      Alright so if you want to know where you stand with him then you’re going to have to ask him. Tell him you want to make sure that you two are exclusive because if you’re not supposed to see anyone else then he cannot either. I’m sure he will tell you or agree with you on that. Then you’ll know where you stand and can plan forward. Good luck!

  4. So a around 7 months ago I met a scorpio man who is younger than myself by 16 years. He prefers older ladies as he feels they understand him better.

    After the initial flirting and befriending we embarked on a casual non committed relationship which suited myself as I was not looking for a relationship at the time.

    We spent hours chatting, listening to music having drinks and getting closer. The bedroom antics were out of this world and far exceeded any intimacy that I had experienced previously. There was always lots of cuddles and kissing and snuggling up to sleep.
    He would tease me about one day I would find someone else and leave him but I knew I wouldn’t.
    He would stare into my eyes for what seemed like forever whilst we chatted and his smile was so inviting he made me melt.
    He would go out of his way to help with diy, decorating and anything else that he was happy to turn his hand too. He shared tales from his past told me all about his family what his plans were and things he asked me not to share with anyone.

    Around 6 weeks in he told me that he loved me which I was surprised at as I had developed strong feelings for him too. Despite his age he was so tender and loving and attentive but at the back of my mind there was the whole non commitment thing.

    A few weeks passed and he told me that we had to end what we was doing as he felt it was time to move on. We spent the night together just holding each other tight he even cried but wouldn’t tell me why.

    He was gone, no contact other than when we bumped into each other as we live close by. He was always pleasant and ask how I was doing.

    Until 3 weeks ago, I was having a drink with friends and in he strolled. Taken aback I smiled and said hello and although a little nervous he returned the greeting. He told me he had found a new place to live, he had been looking for a while. So politely I asked where. He replied it was secret and laughed. Knowing he doesn’t like to be probed I didn’t push to find out.

    He told me he had started working in the pub and that we should have a drink sometime. Which we have and as I hoped it has led to us getting closer again. During which time i have been to his new flat.

    He is still as loving, and tender still flirts and jokes and seems to want to spend more time with me. He is constantly watching me when I speak to other guys and
    still he looks deep into my eyes when we speak.

    But there has been no mention of us picking up where we left off. He says there has been nobody else as he says he hasn’t found a real woman like me. He has told me he missed me and that he feels like all his christmases have come at once.

    So I am a tad confused.

    1. Hi Shell!

      It may be that he got in way over his head and started to feel more for you than he expected. He pumped the brakes to take a breather and figure himself out hence the job and new place. It also sounds like he does still like you and maybe with time he may figure out exactly what he wants to do. I would go with it and see where it leads. Just keep an eye out for any red flags. Other than that just take it as it comes. He may actually have realized he wants to be with you and is now ready. You may want to check out my guides on Scorpio man via “Scorpio Man Secrets”. It might give you a bit of extra insight. I wish you all the luck of the Universe!

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