Scorpio Man Being Hot And Cold All The Time - What To Do?
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Scorpio Man Being Hot And Cold All The Time – What To Do?

scorpio man being hot and cold

Are you dating or have been seeing a Scorpio man who made you think that the sun sets in his eyes? Did this unbelievably delicious man get you to think he’s desperately in love with you only to turn his back on you? Keep reading to find out why is your Scorpio man being hot and cold all the time.

Way Too Fast

It’s so easy for the sexy Scorpio man to get caught up in infatuation. He feels that he’s “in love”. However, it happened so quickly that he didn’t give it any actual thought nor did he fully get to know the woman he’s with.

Scorpio man is very emotional and doesn’t by nature, trust people. However, he will make an exception when he thinks he’s in love. Sadly he doesn’t really know that he’s not in love until he does start to get to know the woman he got involved with.

He starts to notice the areas where they are not compatible. He may notice things about her he doesn’t particularly like or that they don’t have as much in common as he thought and so he starts to feel rather turned off toward her.

At some point, he’s going to lose that infatuation and it’s going to turn to “can we just be friends” or “I don’t think I can be in a relationship right now, I’m not really ready”.

Sound like familiar excuses? Well, he has a lot more where that came from. If the two of you got involved very quickly; no matter how hot the sex is; he may have finally thought things through and decided you’re not the one for him.

If he likes the sex enough; he may even suggest a “friends with benefits” scenario. However; he never intends for it to be more of that. Beware that if he asks you to do this, you’ll never have him for more than a friend.

He will eventually find someone else who fits what he is looking for and he will leave you behind in heartache. Don’t ever believe there is a chance for more beyond “friends with benefits”. It’s about a 99.9% chance he will call it off.

Scorpio man is very emotional and doesn’t by nature trust people - Scorpio man being hot and cold

Isn’t Ready Yet

I mentioned that if he gets involved too quickly; he’ll quickly back peddle and try to weasel out of it. There is also the angle where he’ll get you in bed and even though the sex is earth moving; he’ll tell you afterward he’s not ready for a relationship.

If he tells you this from the jump or just after sex; he’s at least being honest with you. He doesn’t have a dual meaning in this ladies. If he tells you he isn’t ready; he’s not.

There are situations where he’ll keep reaching out and acting like he’s in a relationship with you but the go cold again. This is because he told you he isn’t ready and though he likes you; he isn’t going to get tied down.

What can you do about this? Well… the best thing to do is maybe give him some time staying at a friend without sex. Let him contact you and talk to you. That’s great! Perhaps over time, he’ll decide he’s ready and he’ll think you’re a great candidate.

It’s a matter of what you want and if you’re willing to wait him out or not. Think it over because waiting on a Scorpio man requires patience. He often changes his mind from one day to the next.

This is why he swings so hot and so cold. He doesn’t know what he wants and if the person he’s with or considering is right for him. He’ll be terrified of making the wrong choice, hurting someone, or getting hurt.

All these things combined make him blow hot and cold. He doesn’t mean to be this way but his emotions take over and they dictate whether he should be afraid or bold. Trouble is; he should trust his gut rather than his emotions.

Until he learns how to do this; he’s going to be a train wreck. Though I will say this; sometimes it takes for the right person to come into their life for them to snap out of it and fight for love.

So be assured that if you ARE the one for him; he will fight for you no matter how scared he is and how he may even have thoughts of running. Love is deep and ultimately he wants loving security.

Cold Feet When it’s Perfect

Scorpio men being so emotionally driven can screw things up really quickly if they aren’t careful - Scorpio man being hot and cold

Scorpio men being so emotionally driven; can screw things up really quickly if they aren’t careful. He may actually go through with asking a woman to marry him but then the reality sets in and he’s terrified.

He’s one that is likely to get cold feet while getting ready to walk down the aisle. Men that run at the altar are probably a fair amount of Scorpio men. They know that what they have is perfect and their afraid that it’s all a dream.

He’s waiting for the other shoe to fall or that things are not as they seem. He thinks that soon he’ll get burned or something really tragic will happen because things are going far too well.

There may be an element of low self-esteem happening as well. If he feels he doesn’t deserve the woman he’s with; he’ll pull back trying to save her from a huge mistake (mistake being him).

Lots of things go through a Scorpio man’s mind when he’s in love and one of those things is that maybe he doesn’t deserve this wonderful woman. The fear of him hurting the woman he loves becomes unbearable.

Also, the thought of her ever leaving or hurting him is unthinkable. This makes him want to leave before he gets left. This man requires LOTS of encouragement and positive feedback to know he’s doing very well and makes you happy.

I hope this helps give you a rough look at what makes a Scorpio man tick as far as why he would go from one end to the other very quickly. Take care of him and yourself but leave if he becomes too questionable.

It may be helpful for you to learn as much as you can about the Scorpio man so that you can understand why he is the way he is. Click here for some more details on him.

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Wishing you all the luck of the universe

Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,

Anna Kovach

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  1. The guy I’ve been seeing is a Scorpio and I’ve been with him for about 8 months. It’s a long-distance relationship most of the time since we both live in different countries. We were friends before we hooked up and it was unexpected but it just fell naturally into a thing and we took it from there. Since then, we’ve both been crazy about each other. I come visit him every few months, and we text while I’m away. He can’t visit me because of visa problems, or else he would have. We never had any big issues before, even when we would get into an argument we would always work it out right away. He would never be able to stay mad at me for more than a day, and me the same. This has been the longest time we’ve been away from each other, about 4 months. I’m here visiting him now, and when I first got here all was good for a couple days, he seemed so excited and kept saying how much he missed me, and we hung out for the first 3 days every day, alone and with his friends.

    Then he disappeared, but apologized and said he was just taking a break from everything and everyone so I understood and wasn’t upset about it. He then saw me the day after and I got him a gift for his birthday which he loved and kept telling me how happy he was with it. After that he started to gradually get more distant by the day. Stopped texting me every day, and when I would text would take longer to get back to me each time. Wouldn’t talk the same when he did, like for instance, stopped calling me babe, or saying he missed me all time, and all that. I’m always upfront with him and honest, so I told him that I felt he had been distant, and he said nothing was wrong, but I know him well and had a feeling something was off. He knew I was only visiting for a couple weeks, and usually every time I visit he tries to spend as much time with me as he can. He usually works too, and he still manages to find time to see me, and this time he’s not working, so he’s completely free. He would be spending time with his friends whom he can see all the time, and not me. But then say nothing is wrong. He would usually have me hang with him and his friends if he wanted to chill with them and they all like me so they don’t mind at all. Every time we would see each other the time gap would be longer each time, first 2 days, then every 4 days, etc. I was frustrated, normally this wouldn’t bother me if I lived here, because I have all the time in the world to see him, but of course I was upset, because I felt like the time was being wasted and all the while he is telling me nothing is wrong.

    When we would see each other, he would act the same, calling me babe, being attentive, and sweet, etc. But then as soon as he would leave it would go back to the distance, no texting, taking forever to reply, etc. After about a week of this I was up front with him and told him that I know he told me nothing’s wrong, but I feel that something is. He doesn’t treat me the same as he used to, and I feel like he’s not even excited to see me, since he’s spending time with his friends every day and not even bothering to text me or ask about me, but then after 4 or 5 days suddenly say hey, do you want to meet up? And if I’m busy he will of course ask a million questions like all Scorpios do, like I’m supposed to just be sitting around waiting for him. I would meet him though, and he would act like nothing is wrong. I couldn’t take it anymore, the weirdness, the lack of contact. I told him that I was expecting on spending more time with him, he told me well it’s not like we can see each other every day, so I said yea of course I don’t expect you to see me every day, but at least to text or ask about me, then he’s like well we can’t be talking all the time? It was so weird, because he used to text me literally every minute of the day and always want to see me. I didn’t even expect constant texts just a reply to my 1 or 2 texts I send him, so it was just odd, he was acting like I was crazy and I was expecting too much, when I wasn’t at all. He was acting like a different person and it was driving me insane because he kept making me feel like I’m the crazy one.

    Anyways during the 3 weeks I was here I only saw him 5 times, and he was making it seem like that was normal. That was not normal at all. Every time I would visit he would try to see me every day or at least every other day, and if he wasn’t going to see me he was texting me. So, I was sick of being treated like I’m crazy, or being needy or something? He knows very well that if I was living here I wouldn’t expect that shit at all. Even after all that, I still was cool about it, and didn’t make a big deal about it, I just told him that it bothered me. Then I saw him the day I was supposed to leave and we hung out all day and he kept going on and on about how much he’s going to miss me and telling me to try to not be gone so long this time and all this sweet shit, so I was just surprised because this is coming from someone who had 3 weeks to spend with me, but willingly chose barely to spend any time with me. But I just let it go, because I care about him and I don’t want to make a stupid fight about it. Anyways the night I was supposed to leave my flight got cancelled, so I told him, and then I told him that I found out that I didn’t have to go back to work for another 2 weeks because of thanksgiving break and my boss is going to be out of town so I told him I would extend my trip. He didn’t seem excited at all. Next day I text him just to see what’s up, no response….2 days go by, nothing….so same shit! It doesn’t make any sense. He was just saying that he’s going to miss me, what’s up with all these mixed signals? He was NEVER like this before! He was always talking to me, I was tired of this treatment, of the ignoring then showing up like nothing is wrong. All the while he is chilling with his friends.

    So of course, it makes me feel like I’m not important to him. So, I expressed to him how I felt because I like to be open about shit like this, and no reply…. then I started to get frustrated and told him that I don’t deserve to be treated like this, and if he doesn’t want me to talk to him, or doesn’t want to see me anymore all he has to do is tell me, but I don’t like to just be ignored and played with like that. He got back instantly saying wtf are you pissed about? So, I told him I’m pissed because of what I just told you, then he laughs sarcastically (which he does a lot when he’s in a confrontation like this) just like making fun of me kind of. Then I told him I didn’t expect my time here to be like this, I expected spend some time with him, then he says “when they cancel your flight, they’re supposed to book you on a new one right away” wow? Where the hell did that come from? I told him that I already expressed to him that I didn’t have work so I decided to postpone it, but I said thank you for wanting me to leave though, then he said “well I never said I wanted you to leave…. this is just me being cold, because I don’t want to deal with this shit” so I asked him what shit? Me? He said no, this… ok, this as in what? He said “as in you giving me crap all the time? So, I told him I’m sorry if you feel I’m giving you crap all the time, but you’re the one who is just ignoring me for days, then acting as if nothing is wrong. Then he said another one of his stupid excuses he’s been using lately, like I was sleeping, or some shit like that, and I wasn’t ignoring you, I was going to get back eventually. Well I’m not idiot, you can’t be asleep for days, and this is coming from someone who was always bombing my phone with texts and would flip out if I wouldn’t answer for just an hour or two, and now you don’t have time to respond to a simple text or even say your busy? And you’ve hanging with your friends. So, I was sick of him treating me like an idiot because I’m not, I can tell when someone isn’t interested anymore, and I don’t like to be clingy, if you’re not interested just say you’re not interested it’s that simple. I told him, if the roles were reversed and I didn’t get back to you for days you would think I’m ignoring you, right? Then he said, yea I would, “anyways, let’s just stop fighting” and joked around a little so it seemed like he wasn’t pissed anymore. So, I told him okay, I never wanted to fight anyways, and I just wish he would communicate more because I can’t read his mind.
    The next day I texted him about a funny story and he replied normally. Then I sent him a text later and no reply, next day no reply still, 3 days went on, no reply. Just suddenly, same shit as before. All will be good, then boom he’s gone. I texted him yesterday which was 4 days after ignoring me telling him I’m going to the beach, and it would be nice if he could come, and he could even bring his friends too if he wanted. Read it, no reply again.

    So, I really don’t understand WTF is going on. I’ve never been more confused in my life. If he’s over me then why doesn’t he just say so? Why does he keep playing games like this, He was never like this before so it’s very weird? He hasn’t even asked me until now when my new flight is scheduled for. He’s always active online so obviously he’s alive, and he knows I can see that he read the msg. So, it’s just weird, why just ignore me? I didn’t do shit to him, I’m not even putting any pressure on him, I just want him to be honest. So, I don’t know what to do at this point. I don’t want to seem clingy or needy by texting him after him ignoring me AGAIN, but I want to make it clear to him that I’m really sick of this crap. So, I have no idea what to do, please help me. I really like him, if I didn’t, I would have never been this patient. And he was my friend before we started dating so he knows this really well about me, I’m not the type to put up with shit like this. And he was never the type to treat me like this. So why act like nothing is wrong. This is the longest he’s went until now without hearing anything from him, and I haven’t seen him in over a week. So, I thought maybe someone who is a Scorpio or has experience with one would be able to give some advice on how to go about this shit. I’m really frustrated now, I’m only here for a few more days and I wanted to be able to spend time with my guy, but I feel like I’m dating a girl seriously, with all these fucking mood swings and secrecy. I can’t handle this anymore.

  2. Dear I have gone through the same experience, these guys are like this. they want to control things and people around them and if we dont act like it and they dont have choice of leaving as well they do this to mentally manipulte us into mind games and ultimately destroy the peace. when we try to get back the peace and harmony in the relationship back there we compromise and this is exactly what the want to please them. Just put yr head high and up for fights confrontation and if its too much for your nerve sucks all energy you could have invested somewhere else then f*ck him off.
    You lady are definitely better off alone than with wrong guy.

  3. Wow thia whas certainly ezplained the 30 year ols scorpio thats f*cked up in his ways with me..Im a 45 year old women,(please dont judge me as i dont look my age at all)..He popped up too me in 2017 and made conversation then of course one conversation led to him asking if im single..?? My reply yes but im not looking for any kind of relationship..He pursued and didnt stop until i said yes!! Were about 2hours 30mins apart from each other..At first he bombarded me with text calls face time every way of communicating with me he did..It was ok and time was ticking and we hadnt met up..8 months into us talking(yes 8 months) i took upon myself and said if your not coming down to meet me il come up..At first he was humming an harring,using escuses like im busy but eventually i got him to say yes and i drove up to see him in real life..My first real life impression was “boy u have short man syndrome” but i then over look3d his height and liked him 4 him..We drove around with minimum conversation then he took me to his friends restaurant..We had a meal but he was more off the table eating then he was sitting down..Like he had ants in his pants..He complimented me,open the doors for me introduced me to his friends and i even got a kiss on my forehead from him.

    After 3 hours of been together i decided it was time for me to drive back home.He wanted me to stay and even said he would buy me pjs and stay over stuff..I refused and drove back..

    He rang me once when i had 5 mins b4 i reached my destination to see how i got on and once i got home..I never heard from him..He went cold on me..No texts he wouldnt answer my calls he wouldnt reply to my messages nothing..

    I started reading up on his behaviour and come to the conclusion scorpio men r very different humans..5 weeks later he rang me and behaved like nothing had happened and if i questioned him he said just let it go now,and move on..

    First thing he asked was if i had met or seen anyone else? My reply was no..

    It was then his bday and i asked if i could come up and this time stay with him? He became very confused and again it went on for hours his humming and haring and even then he said come up but dont stay cause i dont want us to make out until we get married..I was ok..Morning came i got ready and just about to leave and he rings and suggests that i should stay with him so i quickly packed an over night bag and made my way up.

    I took him lots of helium balloons presents and a cake to celebrate his bday..

    He booked us in a room and he left me to settle in,He came stopped for a while went again and this continued till 10pm..We made out and i didnt feel he was emotionally attached with me whilst makeing out..So this was an indication for me to say the least about this guy..I mean im not one for one night stands but i have done in the past and even then u have a connection,you cant just make out with someone u dont really like..

    Anyway the following morning he couldn’t wait to see me gone..We didnt even have breakfast at the hotel..And i love breakfast so he took me to a drive thru greggs…Hahhaa…Yep cheese an onion pasty with hot chocolate!!!! I sat having my breakfast and he forbids me good bye..Which i thought how rude..

    Anyway after i ate i then hit the motorway back home,i got flashed and fined for speeding whilst in his area..

    I didnt hear anything from him until i got home,we spoke for about a week after that,everything seemed great but since then and up until now its sh*tttte again..Infact i confronted him about him been hot an cold,we ended up in a argument and his blocked me of all social media and messages..

    Im ok with it all now as i understand his finding his emotions or doesnt no how to deal with hos emotions but tbh i rather him keep me blocked and i rather not hear from him ever again..

    He has got his issues going on but so does everyone else,i no its a scorpio trait but surely they can deal with there emotions just the way anyone else has too..

    I just think its a poor excuse but im done with the hot and cold behaviour the want to marry you to f*ck you im gnna block u..All bollocks all bullsh*t..from my own experience im better with out a d*ck like him and he needs to remain single and live a bachelor’s life just so its not complicated for anyone else that he gets involved with..

    So girlies im done with this weird sign and i hope u all over come your love affair with the men that sting you when you least expect it…

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