Why are Scorpios so hot and cold is a question I often receive from my clients. We all know that Scorpio men are special and they can definitely have a hold on women through their magnetic and charismatic energy.
A Scorpio man hot and cold antics is one of the most annoying things about this guy. He is all about extremes, one minute he is all over you and the next he cannot be further away from you if he tried. It is really annoying.
The truth is, when a Scorpio man goes cold, it often has very little to do with you. It is often his own stuff he is dealing with and he is just taking it out on you, unfortunately. This is why it is so important to really understand him and why he is doing this.
Are you currently going through a Scorpio hot and cold situation and wondering what is going on with him? Then I suggest that you keep on reading and find out if he is testing you or if there is something deeper going on.
Why Is My Scorpio Man Hot And Cold? 4 Possible Reasons
1. He Is Fearful And Afraid
The hot and cold Scorpio man has a tendency sometimes to jump in without fully looking. They can fall in love quickly without thinking it through. When this happens; there are things that suddenly dawn on him.
This will cause him to say he loves you but he isn’t ready for a relationship. He’ll play this sort of “tug of war” type of game with you. One minute he’s all about you and cares then the next minute he’s not talking.This is all very normal for the fear-filled Scorpio. As a general rule, Scorpio men are untrusting of most people.
Though he may feel he can open up to you, he may also suddenly think maybe he can’t trust you. It may be over nothing at all that scares him. Then again maybe you could have said something that he took down a dark road and made him feel as though maybe he was making a mistake.
2. He Thinks You Are His Soulmate
This is the part that is rather weird but, when the Scorpio man feels a woman is “the one”, he will be hot and heavy but then get filled with anxiety thus pulling back and cooling off. It scares the crap out of him to have found the right woman. At first, he’s thrilled, elated, and relieved. Then his fears kick in that you’re good to be true so he back peddles.
He starts to feel that maybe he doesn’t deserve you. He may even think that maybe you’re flawed and he just cannot see it yet. There is a fear of being rejected, hurt, or punished for past karma. Scorpio men are untrusting by nature so if he isn’t suspicious of your intention; he may be suspicious of his own.
As strange as it may seem, he’s more terrified of the woman he loves than he is of any other woman he dates. So if you’ve felt an intense connection with a hot and cold Scorpio man that tells you he loves you then gets cold; he probably loves you.
3. He No Longer Feels The Same
The very least with all of this is that he could very well have changed his mind. He felt hot and happy about you but then figured some things out that maybe didn’t feel good anymore for him.
It could also be that he met someone else and feels that the other person may be better for him. It’s not very common for him to not let you know if he’s into someone else or wants to call it off. It CAN happen though.
Watch his behavior and more importantly; watch his eyes. If there is anything at all you want to know, stare into his eyes and ask him. If he cannot look you straight in the eyes when he talks back; he’s possibly not telling you the truth.
On the other hand; if he CAN look at you in the eyes and answer you; he’s most likely telling you the truth. Remember this the next time you’re curious about what he’s been up to or if he’s true to you.
4. He Doesn’t Understand What He Is Feeling
Scorpio men are emotional guys. They can analyze around in circles which can make them feel very confused about what they want. It may have nothing to do with you but rather him not knowing what he wants. If it’s the case that he just doesn’t know what he wants, you’ll definitely have to remain patient with him if you’re really into him.
Otherwise, you may want to move on to someone else who isn’t so confused. There are many factors that weigh in for this guy. He will harbor baggage from his past. He will carry forward any grievances he had from before. Sadly this can be projected on women he gets involved with.
When A Scorpio Goes Cold — Should I Reach Out Or Leave Him Alone?
When a Scorpio man goes cold, there is usually a reason for this. But the thing you NEED to remember about his sign is that he is actually very shy and introspective. He is more than an introvert than you probably realize.
He definitely is signaling for a time out and this is why he is going cold because he wants to disappear into his shell. This is where he feels safe and where he can recuperate. He is a very private person and will often need his space – you need to realize this about him if you want to be with him.
This is why my advice would be for you to leave him alone for the time being so that he can get the space and distance he desires. If you put extra pressure on him he is just going to realize that you don’t understand him and he will start to find you clingy. You don’t want that!
Let him come to you and stop chasing him. I know it probably hurts, but you need to allow him to miss you and realize how respectful you are of his space.
What To Do When A Scorpio Man Goes Cold?
When a Scorpio man avoids you it can feel really intense. You’re probably used to getting all of his attention, and now it is suddenly gone. I get that you are probably feeling quite broken up about this.
When you get the idea that a Scorpio man is going cold and avoiding you the best course of action is first to remain calm. You don’t want to intensify the situation by creating more drama than there is already.
Remove yourself from the situation and give yourself and him some space. It is important that you don’t jump to conclusions. Allow him to come to you with what is going on in his head. Trust me, you don’t want to make assumptions.
If you feel like you may have done something wrong then it is good to give him an apology, but also give him space to allow him to calm down. Don’t overwhelm him if there is a lot he is feeling already.
Once you feel enough time has gone by you could perhaps ask him how he is doing and if he has time to chat. Give him the opportunity to tell you how he is feeling and why he is acting the way he is.
Scorpio Man Acting Cold — Does That Mean He Is Testing You?
A Scorpio man can be quite a sly character. He does all kinds of tests when he meets a woman and wants to see if she is deserving of him. He will put her through the most as he doesn’t always believe that he is worthy of love.
When a Scorpio man is acting cold and distant it can definitely be an indication that he is testing you. He might be playing hard to get and wants to see how far you will go to be with him. He likes to play mind games and leave you feeling confused. This is part of his spell.
He wants to see if you care enough to be around him despite him putting you through a lot constantly. He wants to see proof of your love, over and over again.
FAQ On Scorpio Man Hot And Cold Behaviour
Why Is My Scorpio Man Suddenly Cold After We Had Started Getting Really Close? Is He Losing Interest?
A Scorpio man suddenly going cold after experiencing intimacy is often just an indication of how fearful and scared he is of actually going really deep with someone. He is deathly afraid of being hurt and abandoned and this is why he keeps putting up walls so that no one actually gets to know him.
This could also simply mean that he is losing interest in you and perhaps the connection he thought was there isn’t actually that strong. Give it some time to unfold before you make this assumption though.
What Makes Scorpio Man Lose Interest?
There are a lot of things that make a Scorpio man lose interest. This guy has pretty high standards and he knows what he wants out of a relationship. If he feels like you aren’t hitting the mark, then this might be the reason why he is slowly fading away.
He might find you too aggressive, too needy, not sexual enough, not deep enough, not independent enough, too independent. It could really be anything. The best way to find out is to ask him for clarity.
Do Scorpio Men Play Mind Games?
Scorpio men are the kings of mind games. They can be very sly and manipulative. They really know what buttons to push to make a woman go crazy to get her under his spell. If you think he is playing mind games on you, he probably is.
No More Sleepless Nights About Your Scorpio Man…
It can be SO painful to worry about how to make things work with a Scorpio man who won’t commit.
I know. I’ve been there with many of my friends dating Scorpio guys.
I remember my very close friend crying herself to sleep at night, worried that her man would never commit to her. She lost sleep, time, and even work hours, all because she couldn’t figure out how to capture his heart and get him to commit.
As a friend, it was hard to watch her go through that. But I knew how good he was for her, and I didn’t want her to give up on him.
Even when our other friends were telling her to move on, I could see that he was the most incredible man she had ever met.
How could she just give up on that?
But it wasn’t easy. It took a LOT of work.
She had to learn how to speak a different language… his love language <<
And it worked!!
So if you are ready to sleep like a baby… Knowing your Scorpio man is MADLY in love with you… And never feel anxious about him again…