Scorpio men are secretive. They hold their thoughts close to their hearts, and they’re not the most open of signs. These questions will help you get into his head—and heart—without making him feel as if his precious privacy is being invaded.
Many ladies find Scorpio men totally irresistible—this is one thing I have found to be true time and time again in my experience as a relationship astrologer!
However, Scorpio men are often closed books. It’s hard to read the pages of their story without them becoming slight defensive and even more remote, It takes a lot of time, patience, and building of trust to get through his shell.
If you’ve just started dating him or are hoping to get closer, take a look at my handy tips on the kinds of questions you can ask a Scorpio guy that will not only melt his defenses but get him to like or love you that much more!
And ladies, here’s one general tip to start you off—make sure the setting for your conversation is intimate. There should be no one else around (these guys can be ultra-paranoid about people hearing their deepest and darkest secrets), and they should feel totally safe with you.
Be sure to be gentle with your probing; never demand that he spill anything he clearly doesn’t want to disclose. It may drive you crazy, but just trust that with patience and commitment, he will come closer to you, and sooner than you think, you’ll be more intimate with him than you’ve ever been with anyone!
Don’t Question—Listen
I know you’re here for what you should ask, but here’s my first tip—when you’ve just started dating or spending time with Mr. Scorpio, don’t instantly start firing questions. Instead, listen. Hear what he has to say, and let him listen to your stories, too.
As he begins to feel more and more like he can confide in you without fearing judgement or betrayal, he will open up even more. Then you may slowly start asking him light questions, going progressively deeper and deeper.
Offer Your Secrets
And here’s one more tip before we dive into the questions: Scorpios love a good secret! They thrive on knowing your inner thoughts, and like a vault, they can be trusted implicitly to never, ever reveal what you’ve told them.
A Scorpio man is the perfect confidant. And he really wants to know who you are, where you’ve come from, and what your relationship past is. He’s a born investigator, and the more he knows, the safer he feels opening up to you.
Revealing your own secrets will, in time, bring you closer and allow you to get to know him better. But you have to be brave enough to show your hand first, even if it feels a bit uncomfortable!
5 Questions to Make a Scorpio Man Fall in Love With You Fast
1. Start Light and Easy
This is really important, ladies! When you ask your Scorpio guy about his life, go super slowly and begin with inconsequential questions.
Ask him about his career, his ambitions, and his goals, but don’t insist he reveal anything heavy.
He’ll find it easy to open up and talk about his professional life. He’ll also enjoy simple questions about favorite foods, musical tastes, and hobbies. These are in safe territory, and they allow him to ease into being open with you.
He enjoys the game of getting to know you, but do expect him to ask you much deeper questions without giving away any personal information of his own just yet.
2. Ask Him What He Likes in Bed
Scorpio men have the well-deserved reputation for being the sexiest sign in the Zodiac. They are often masters in the bedroom, and they’ve probably done things that you’ve only dreamed of—how exciting for you!
The next time you’re in a close, intimate space, be brave enough to start probing him about what he likes in bed. He won’t reveal it all right away, as he first needs to test how far you’re willing to go.
But soon, you’ll find there are no limits for him when it comes to talking about his sexy desires.
Be prepared to be shocked, delighted, teased, and swept away!
3. Ask Him About His Favorite TV Dramas
Scorpios adore drama! They often have drama swirling around them, though they may themselves not be directly involved.
When they don’t have drama in their lives, they love watching series that focus on crime, investigation, or forensic themes. Chances are your Scorpio man could talk for hours on the plot of CSI: Miami or give you a blow-by-blow of the best episodes of his favorites.
This is a great easy fun away to get to know him because this is an easy topic for him to share, and it helps you get into his head indirectly—potentially opening him to deeper topics.
4. Ask Him About His Pets and His Family
As a water sign, a Scorpio man tends to value his emotional connections very highly indeed.
Aside from their love relationships, family and pets are extremely important to Scorpios (and their children, of course, if they have them).
Asking him about the people and animals he loves is a sure-fire way to get him to really warm up.
And by opening up in the same way and showing him that you care about those in your life will help him to trust you more and want to let you into his heart.
Read next: 5 Ways to Show a Scorpio Man You’re Serious (Without Seeming Needy)
5. Finally, Ask Him About His Past (Slowly!)
This tip should only be used once you’ve asked all the usual questions and you’ve been together a few months, at least.
In fact, I’d even suggest to wait until the “L” word has been dropped before venturing into this tricky, intimate territory!
A Scorpio man’s past is an interesting place, and he’s not always going to give you full disclosure. You’ll have to accept that there are some things that you’ll just never know, however frustrating that may feel (especially if you have shown him all of you!).
So, with this topic, go slow. Be gentle. Ask him about his last relationship and how it ended. Be curious, not pushy—he’ll pick up your intentions before you may even be aware of them! Be sure to give as much information as you’re getting, and be honest with him.
Be brave enough to be the first one to be vulnerable. Once he feels he is privy to your past, then he’s much more willing to share his. Once he learns he can trust you with his baggage, he’ll realize he can trust you with anything.
If you sense a “block,” don’t push. Step back, and let him lead the way, even if it takes as few days, weeks or months! It’s worth the wait.
So, ladies, if you want to foster more love and connection with a Scorpio guy, the best way is to be gentle, slow, and open. Reveal your own secrets before you ask for his. And trust that as soon as trust has been established (this could take a while!), you will be his one and only confidant, his best friend, and his partner in crime!
What are your go-to questions with a new partner? Your stories are important to me—and they’re completely anonymous! Feel free to share in the comments below!
Your friend and relationship astrologer,
Anna Kovach
