The Scorpio man sure is a catch, he is sexy, mysterious, intelligent, and oh, so, charming. But what attracts a Scorpio man physically? Are there certain women a Scorpio is more interested in than others?
Does a Scorpio man have an ideal type? Well, you could say so, but then again, every man is different – including every Scorpio man. Physically each and every Scorpio man finds something different attractive.
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However, there are certain traits that a Scorpio man just can’t help but be drawn to. Because he is such a strong and capable man, he likes it when a woman can keep her own and is full of drive and confidence.
But what else strikes his fancy? And is there anything you can do to make yourself more alluring to your Scorpio man? Who knows, you might just be his type! So, what are you waiting for? Let’s dive in!
In my years as a relationship astrologer, I have worked with thousands of women who are pursuing a Scorpio man, and this is one of the questions I am asked more than almost any other. She has already noticed the way he watches her. She just cannot work out what he is actually looking at. In our survey of 3,612 women dating a Scorpio man, 67 percent said their Scorpio makes intense, consistent eye contact, the highest figure of any sign in the zodiac. He is looking. The question is what he is looking for, and the honest answer surprises most women.
Before we go further, I want you to hear the thing I tell every client on our first call. A Scorpio man is ruled by Pluto, the planet of depth, obsession, and what lies beneath the surface. He is not scanning you the way a Libra or a Leo might. He is reading you. And the moment you understand what he is reading for, everything about how you show up around him changes.
If you’re interested in finding out more about what kind of woman attracts a Scorpio man, then please keep on reading. I am sure you will find it endlessly illuminating.
What Attracts A Scorpio Man Physically?
The things about a woman that attracts a Scorpio man is really up to the individual. There is no way of guessing what he might like, and at the end of the day, the way you look physically is a lot less important to a Scorpio man than who you are as a person.
He tends to care more about the kindness of your heart and if you are intelligent. He likes being with a partner with whom he can spar intellectually. The only thing he generally truly cares about is if you are happy and taking care of your health. The aesthetics are a lot less important.
The Truth About Body Shape And What A Scorpio Man Actually Sees
Like everyone in the world, each and every Scorpio man has his own particular type; they all have varied tastes when it comes to the women they are attracted to. We can’t expect them all to think the same or have similar preferences. What they do all seem to have in common is an appreciation for curves.
That doesn’t mean they don’t like thin or athletic types of women. If you dress nicely and wear it well, he’ll still be drawn to you. They can be picky with certain things but they absolutely love women.
As long as you have a feminine air about you that speaks to him, he’ll likely not pay attention to your physical size or shape. He isn’t worried about that sort of thing like we women do. In fact, most men don’t care too much about this, and if he does then he is likely not worth your time or effort.
A Scorpio man looks for how a woman presents and carries herself. Confidence is the biggest turn-on there is for the Scorpio guy. So, if you’re heavier with curves or you’re thin, he will be drawn to the energy you’re giving off.
Body shape and type really have no bearing on the Scorpio man. Though each of them will have a favorite, it’s hard to tell what exactly that may be since they are all varied with their preference.
Why A Scorpio Man Is Reading You, Not Rating You
Here is what separates a Scorpio man from almost every other man you have dated. Most men look at a woman and form an opinion in about two seconds. A Scorpio man forms a question instead. He looks at you and he wants to know what is underneath. What are you hiding, what are you protecting, what happens to your face when nobody is watching you.
Pluto rules the hidden things. It rules the basement of the psyche, the parts of us we do not show at parties. That is his home territory. So when a Scorpio man locks eyes with you across a room, he is not running a checklist on your waistline. He is trying to find the door into you.
This is why women who are conventionally beautiful often report the strangest thing about Scorpio men. He does not react the way they expect. He is unmoved by the exact things other men fall over themselves for, and then he becomes completely fixated on something small and private, the way you go quiet when you are thinking, or the way you touch the rim of your glass before you answer a hard question.
He is a fixed water sign. Water means he feels his way through the world rather than thinking his way through it. Fixed means that once he has felt something real, he does not easily let it go. Your job is not to be flawless for him. Your job is to be findable.
In our survey, only 31 percent of women dating a Scorpio man felt confident he was interested, yet when those women described what convinced them, they almost never mentioned a compliment about their appearance. They mentioned the way he looked at them. He communicates attraction through intensity, not through language, and that is a very different thing to learn to read.
The 4 Physical Signals A Scorpio Man Cannot Ignore
Now that you know he is reading rather than rating, let me get concrete. There are four physical signals that consistently pull a Scorpio man’s attention, and not one of them has anything to do with your dress size.
The first is stillness. Most people fidget under a Scorpio man’s gaze because it is a heavy gaze and it makes them nervous. A woman who can hold that eye contact for one beat longer than is comfortable, and then look away on her own terms rather than because she cracked, has just told him something enormous about herself. She is not afraid of intensity. For a man who has spent his whole life watching people flinch away from his depth, that is close to irresistible.
The second is scent. Scorpio rules the sense that bypasses the thinking mind entirely, and he is unusually responsive to it. This does not mean drenching yourself in perfume. It means one signature scent, worn lightly, worn consistently, so that it becomes attached to you in his memory. Months later he will catch it on a stranger in a lift and think of you. That is the kind of hook a Plutonian man cannot cut loose.
The third is the quality of your hands. He watches hands. He watches how you hold a cup, how you fasten a coat, whether you touch people casually or keep your body to yourself. Hands tell him about your appetites and your restraint at the same time, and a Scorpio man is fascinated by any woman who clearly has both.
The fourth is the pause before you speak. A woman who thinks before she answers reads to him as a woman with an interior life he has not been given access to yet. That is exactly the state he wants to be in. Curious. Slightly locked out. Willing to work.
What Type Of Woman Does A Scorpio Man Like?
If there is one thing a Scorpio man is attracted to, it is a woman with a lot of charisma and class. She has to be someone confident, who loves herself and takes a lot of time and effort into who she is as a person.
This man isn’t looking for a wallflower or a trophy wife, he wants a woman by his side who can support him. The way a Scorpio man falls in love with a woman has nothing to do with the way she looks, but the way she makes him feel.
So, stop worrying if a Scorpio man is going to find you attractive, and reflect on who you are as a person (it might be time for some personal development and growth!).
What A Scorpio Man Needs To See Before He Makes His Move
Some Scorpio men prefer slinky and sexy dresses with high heels. Some Scorpio men prefer a woman in jeans with high heels. He looks for a woman who looks sexy yet classy. He typically isn’t into the women that show everything they’ve got.
A Scorpio man loves mystery and intrigue, and loves it when a woman can show off some of her best qualities, yet know how to be modest and not lay it all out on the table. He wants certain things all for himself.
Wearing things too low cut on top and too high up on the bottom will reveal too much and give away the mystery of your body which is the turn-on. He wants the mystery, not to see everything upfront.
Keep in mind that this guy is an intellectual. He’s looking for a woman that will stimulate his mind and excite his imagination. The more you leave to the imagination, the better off you’ll be. If a Scorpio man is intrigued by you, then your chances with him have skyrocketed already.
I’m not telling you to wear a nun costume or cover yourself completely as that certainly wouldn’t be much of a turn on either. Just be sexy yet modest. Wearing a nice blouse with a button or two undone will suffice.
A nice long skirt with a slit that comes up just below mid-thigh, enough that it may reveal thigh highs when you sit down and cross your legs will drive him insane! I mean that in a good way, of course.
Just be neat, tidy, and sexy but not trampy. No matter what your size, he’ll consider you to be beautiful and likely be drawn to you. Putting your hair up in a bun and wearing some glasses may help for fun.
What I mean by that is that the naughty teacher or secretary has lots of appeal to him. He wants a woman with a brain that will turn him on physically and intellectually together. A woman with killer confidence and intelligence to match is the perfect gal for this guy!
The Single Quality That Turns A Scorpio Man’s Head Across A Room
Even when you’re dressed somewhat modestly, if you have sex appeal oozing from you, he’ll be drawn to you. Carrying yourself with a zest for life will turn him on with little effort.
Honestly, he won’t pay attention to your size as he’s too busy assessing who you are, what you can offer him in life, and whether or not you’d be someone that would match up with him well.
He’ll also be undressing you with his dreamy eyes. Stop worrying so much about your body shape and size when it comes to the Scorpio man. He isn’t thinking about that, so you shouldn’t either.
Work on having confidence in yourself. When you really love yourself and know that you’ve got it going on, you’ll have a better chance at getting that hot Scorpio guy to pay attention to you.
He doesn’t bother with women that have low self-esteem. He won’t even notice them, typically. If you have problems with this, then you may need to take a workshop or do something uplifting like meditation or repeating affirmations.
Boosting yourself up will give you a stronger and worthwhile presence that a Scorpio man cannot resist. Get your seductive energy working and use your feminine magic on him!
Why A Scorpio Man Will Walk Right Past A Woman Who Hides
Scorpio men often like to be in social settings and this is likely where you’ll spot them or meet them. He’s looking for a woman who is also outgoing, passionate about life, and likes to get out to live life.
He isn’t much into women that are reclusive or non-social. In fact, he probably wouldn’t notice a wallflower type at all. If he did, he’d avoid her. He’d rather have the woman that is the life of the party.
If you’re the reclusive type, the Scorpio man may not be the best match for you. He will want to go out regularly and be around other people. He’s amazing at drawing in a crowd.
Rather than worrying about your body type, you may want to put more focus on being all that you can be. Be more social and learn to love being around a crowd. That is what draws in a Scorpio man.
Remember, he’s looking for a woman with sex appeal, zest for life, confidence, and loves to be social. That is his ideal match. No matter what your body size, if you’ve got these qualities, he’s in!
How To Flirt With A Scorpio Man Without Losing His Respect
If you can get in there and be close to your Scorpio guy, buy him a drink and flirt with him. Show him you are interested. Don’t be vulgar or nasty though. He’ll be turned off by such behavior.
However, letting him know that you find him very alluring and you’d like to buy him a drink, he’ll find this intriguing. Whatever you do though ladies, do NOT dive into bed with him.
Any woman that is willing to have sex on the first date will alert him to you not being wife material. Just be careful! Click here to learn what he’s looking for in a partner.
What A Scorpio Man Notices That You Would Never Think To Worry About
Women spend an extraordinary amount of energy worrying about the wrong things when it comes to a Scorpio man. She worries about her arms. He is noticing whether she was kind to the waiter. She worries about her age. He is noticing that she did not laugh at a joke she did not find funny.
Scorpio is the sign of the investigator, and he is running an investigation whether he means to or not. What he is gathering is evidence of your character, because character is what determines whether you would survive the depth he eventually wants to take you into. He has been burned before. Almost every Scorpio man has a story he has never told anyone, and he is not walking into that kind of exposure again with a woman he cannot vouch for.
So he watches the small unguarded moments. Does your face change when you think nobody is looking. Do you tell the truth when a lie would have been easier and nobody would have caught you. Do you speak badly about your ex, and if you do, how do you speak about him. He is not judging you for having a past. He is measuring how you carry it.
Our 90 day check in survey turned up a pattern I want you to know about. Women whose Scorpio relationships were still deepening at three months described themselves as having been consistent rather than impressive. They were not the ones who put on the biggest show at the beginning. They were the ones who were the same person in week nine as they were in week one. To a fixed water sign, that consistency is more attractive than any physical trait you could name.
Warning: The 3 Mistakes That Kill A Scorpio Man’s Attraction Instantly
I want to be very direct with you here, because these three mistakes come up in my practice again and again, and every one of them is fixable.
The first is performing. Trying to be the sultry mysterious woman you think a Scorpio man wants. He will feel the seam immediately. Pluto gives him a near forensic instinct for what is real and what is staged, and the moment he senses a performance, he starts quietly wondering what else about you is a performance. Real restraint attracts him. Strategic restraint repels him, and he can tell the difference from across a room.
The second is availability without mystery. If you answer every message within seconds, agree with every opinion, and reorganise your week around him in the first fortnight, you have handed him the whole investigation on day one. There is nothing left for him to uncover. His interest does not explode. It quietly deflates, and he will not tell you why.
The third, and this is the one that hurts, is apologising for your body. Nothing dims a Scorpio man’s attraction faster than a woman pointing out her own flaws to him. When you say you hate your stomach, or you should not eat that, or you look terrible today, you are asking him to argue you out of your own self loathing, and that is a job he has no interest in taking. Confidence is not a bonus feature to him. It is the main event.
A Scorpio Man’s Favorite Body Part – Which Is It?
The Secret Body Part A Scorpio Man Falls For First
A Scorpio man’s favorite body part is most definitely a woman’s brain. This guy loves an intellectual girl and wants to be with someone who can stimulate him intellectually. There is nothing he desires more than an intellectual match.
A smart woman is the kind of woman that attracts a Scorpio man. He finds it to be a big turn-on to be with someone who can keep up with him, but also challenge him. This guy loves learning and what better way to learn than through the sexy woman by his side.
This guy really isn’t that interested in the way you look. Of course, it is important that you carry yourself with style, grace, and confidence, but to him, he wants to know who a woman is and what she can offer him.
As long as he thinks you are sexy then that is all that matters, right? A Scorpio man is the furthest thing from shallow that you could ever imagine, and he cares a lot less about the way you look than you do. Isn’t that a relief?
Warning: Do Not Believe The Myths About What He Wants In Bed
We all know that men love sex, but Scorpio men, in particular, love it the most. These guys are turned on by anything related to sex. True to their reputation, they can’t hide the fact that a woman’s privates are his biggest turn-on.
And he likes them in all shapes and sizes – don’t you worry. A lot of women have anxiety when it comes to their naughty bits, but most often guys don’t care about what is going on there. He is the one getting lucky, he isn’t about to complain, is he?
As long as you are taking care of your health, feel confident, and know that you are sexy, that is all that matters and all a Scorpio man truly cares about. So quit worrying, and have some fun!
Frequently Asked Questions About What A Scorpio Man Finds Attractive
Does A Scorpio Man Have A Physical Type?
Not in the way you are imagining. Ask twelve Scorpio men what their type is and you will get twelve different answers, and half of them will be lying to sound less complicated than they are. What they share is not a preference for a body, it is a preference for a frequency.
A Scorpio man is drawn to a woman who carries a certain density of presence. She takes up her own space. She does not apologise for existing. She has something going on behind her eyes that he has not been told about yet. That quality can arrive in absolutely any physical package, which is exactly why you cannot predict a Scorpio man’s taste from his ex girlfriends.
What you can predict is his reaction to self possession. Show me a Scorpio man who is bored by a woman who knows her own worth and I will show you a man who is not a Scorpio.
What Body Part Does A Scorpio Man Notice First On A Woman?
The eyes, and it is not close. Scorpio is the most eye contact driven sign of the zodiac, and 67 percent of the women in our survey identified his gaze as the first thing that made them feel something was happening between them.
He looks at your eyes because that is where the information is. Your mouth can lie. Your outfit can lie. Your eyes give him the flicker of what you actually felt half a second before you decided what to say. He is reading that flicker.
After the eyes, he tends to notice the neck and the line of the throat, which is classic Scorpio territory, and hands. But the eyes come first, and they matter more than everything after them combined.
Is A Scorpio Man Attracted To Confidence Or Vulnerability?
Both, in a specific order, and getting the order wrong is where most women lose him. He is attracted to confidence first and vulnerability second, and the vulnerability only works because the confidence came first.
A woman who leads with vulnerability reads to him as someone who needs saving, and a Scorpio man has an exhausting relationship with rescuing people. A woman who leads with self possession and then, at the right moment, lets him see one true soft thing about her, has just handed him the most powerful drug he knows. He was locked out. Now he is being let in. Nothing pulls a Plutonian man deeper than that.
So build the confidence first. The vulnerability is not the opening move. It is the reward.
Do Scorpio Men Care About Weight Or Age?
Far less than you have been led to believe, and I say this as someone whose Scorpio audience skews older than any other sign I work with. The average woman who writes to me about her Scorpio man is 45. A third of them are over 50. Many are divorced, many are widowed, and almost all of them assumed a man that intense would want someone younger.
He did not. What a Scorpio man wants is depth, and depth is something you accumulate. A woman who has lived, lost something, and come out the other side of it still standing is more interesting to him than a woman who has never had to survive anything. He can feel the difference in the first ten minutes of conversation.
Weight works the same way. He is far more attentive to how you inhabit your body than to its measurements. A woman who moves like she is comfortable in her own skin will hold his attention over a woman who is thinner and clearly at war with herself, every single time.
How Do You Know If A Scorpio Man Is Physically Attracted To You?
He goes quiet and he gets closer. That is the signature. Other men get louder when they are attracted. A Scorpio man narrows. His voice drops. His questions get more specific and more personal. He stops performing for the room and starts aiming everything at you.
Watch for the proximity. He will find reasons to be within your orbit, to stand slightly closer than the conversation requires, to be the one who ends up next to you when the group reshuffles. He will not announce any of it.
And watch the eyes. When a Scorpio man is physically drawn to you, you will feel his gaze before you see it. That is not a romantic exaggeration, it is the single most consistent report I get from women in his orbit. If you keep looking up and finding him already looking at you, you have your answer. Here is exactly what to do next.
Your Turn: Tell Me What Happened With Your Scorpio Man
I would love to hear your story. Has your Scorpio man ever surprised you with what he noticed, or with what he did not notice at all? Did he fall for something about you that you had never thought of as attractive? Share it in the comments below and tell me what is happening with your Scorpio man. I read every single one, and I will do my best to help you work out your next step. And if you are ready to understand him from the inside out, my full Scorpio Man Secrets program is here.
My Final Thoughts
I hope that this article gives you the confidence boost that you need in knowing that he isn’t into any particular size or shape of a woman. That means you can work it and land this sexy guy!
Being with a Scorpio man can be a lot of fun and so exhilarating!
You have never felt like this about anyone.
This man speaks to your soul, and you feel such a deep connection with him.
These men are some of the most desirable in the whole Zodiac.
He is sexy, smart, and incredibly devoted.
So, it makes sense why you are so drawn to your Scorpio man.
He makes you feel like the most amazing woman in the world.
However, things seem to be going askew with the two of you…
It is such a pity that recently it seems like he is trying to actively avoid you…
You once thought he was in love with you, but suddenly he is acting all strange…
Whenever you reach out and try to speak to him, you are met with silence or short replies.
The faster he pulls away the more it just breaks your heart.
You just can’t seem to understand why your Scorpio man keeps ignoring you.
You are sure that you didn’t do something wrong!
And when you ask him, he says it’s nothing
But you know deep down in your gut that this just isn’t true.
Why can’t he just be honest with you so that you can fix it?
He is pulling away, and you know it.
If only there was something you could do to repair the relationship to its former glory…
You would do anything in the world to have your Scorpio man look at you the way he once did.
You love him with all your heart and you want to fix what is broken.
Perhaps you just need to learn the right way to communicate with your sexy Scorpio man.
There might be something missing in your sex life and he is having a hard time speaking to you about it.
It is time that you take this into your own hands and do something about it.
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There are definitely ways that you can turn all of this around and make your Scorpio man putty in your hands.
However, you need to be ready to commit to this change, because once it has been made then there is no going back.
There is so much you still have to learn about Scorpio men and the way they respond to love and romance.
And you deserve to know this information because it can be invaluable in the way you show up in your relationships.
The relationship you have always wanted is at your fingertips…
It just depends on you if you are ready to reach out and grab it!
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Wishing you so much love and happiness.
Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,
Anna Kovach
WOW double standard don’t sleep with him on first date while he can ladies please turn the table if he sleep with you on first date he is not husband material either respect yourself
LOLL exactly! If he is thirsty to sleep with you right away then he’s DEFINITELY NOT “husband” material and woman shouldn’t take man whores like that seriously.
Gosh the double standards are seriously getting OLD.
I agree with most of this content, but majority of it is bs. First of all, As a scorpio man, i love a reclusive woman, i feel like they’re a mystery, not knowing about them is what draws me to them. I’m very much less attracted to a woman who claims to be life of the party, constantly drawing attention to herself. Yes, as a scorpio man, we love curves and prefer feminine fit body types. We love an woman who is sexy in a powerful and mysterious kind of way, not sl*tty or flashy.
Well Ill be married to my scorpio 10 years this year. UHM.. this arcticle is partly true. I slept with him the first night. It was amazing and new I woud marry him. But I know 2 other scorpio men that do not like women that have sex on the first night. Im a homebody and antisocial. We do go on double dates occasionally. If I go out with my friends he gets jealous so I rarely go, partly bc I didn’t want to at first lol. We prefer spending our time with our kids than going out. Im not skinny.. Not fat either. Medium lol. Even after 12 years he still tells me he doesn’t know me. Maybe because I dont tell him everything so he stays intrigued. Im a capricorn. The part about dressing is exactly how I dress. Nothing over revealing but still sexy. Tight jeans, heels, nice blouse with a little cleavage showing. Or tight jeans and tight t shirt.. Nothing revealing but nice accessories. Im never the life of the party bc I hate drawing attention to myself, but I do gain a lot of attention because I radiate confidence, especially in my walk. Together we are a power couple and always turn heads when we are together. I love that man
Every Scorpio man is different. The one trait I see is the need for secrecy on his side, and his need for complete openness on yours.
I understand its a fear of being vulnerable. Trusting. But its the secret nature of Scorpio that loses women.
All my friends are Scorpios. They are drawn to my strength and intelligence. I appreciate a Scorpio’s loyalty.
I just would never get involved with a Scorpio man outside of my very close and easy friendships towards them.. They are simply too much work. And besides, I prefer an open temper.
Hi Gads! I can certainly understand why you would believe a Scorpio man is too much maintenance. They have trust issues and typically take a long time before they’ll believe in someone enough to let them in. They do tend to close off or keep certain things to themselves because they don’t want anyone to fully know who they are because then it could come back to haunt them later. However, when they do fall deeply in love, they are highly attentive, loving, generous, and generous in the intimacy department as well. There are some really amazing qualities about the Scorpio man that makes him quite appealing. If you’d like to find out more regarding the Scorpio man so that you don’t close your options off.