Hello, ladies! Are you ready to figure out just how to get that hot Scorpio man revved up from your attention? Of course, you are! And yes, there are ways to text him to get his attention and inspire him to actually reply to you.
Lucky for you, I’m here to help! I suggest you keep reading to learn the best ways to flirt with a Scorpio man over text. Keep it cute, simple, and smart – you can’t go wrong having fun with him!
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Before we get into the examples, let me tell you why texting matters so much with this particular sign. In my years as a relationship astrologer I have worked with thousands of women loving a Scorpio man, and the pattern is always the same: he reads far more into a text than he lets on. Pluto rules him, so he is scanning for subtext, for motive, for what you are not saying. A Scorpio man does not skim your message. He studies it.
That is also why so many women feel like they are texting into a void with him. In our survey of more than 3,600 women involved with Scorpio men, “it’s complicated” was the single most common way they described their situation, more than any other sign. A lot of that complication starts on the phone screen, in the gap between what she meant and what he decided she meant.
What Makes A Scorpio Man Actually Reply (Not Just Read And Leave You On Seen)
Here is something most women never work out about a Scorpio man. He is not ignoring you when he goes quiet after your text. He is deciding. He is running your message through that suspicious, deeply feeling Pluto-ruled mind of his, and he is asking himself one question: what does she want from me?
Every text you send him gets sorted into one of two piles. Pile one is “she wants something from me,” which includes reassurance, attention, a definition of the relationship, an apology, or proof that he cares. Pile two is “she is offering me something,” which includes intrigue, warmth, a private joke, a piece of her day, or a compliment she clearly meant. Pile one gets left on read. Pile two gets a reply, often within minutes.
So before you hit send, read your message back and ask yourself which pile it belongs in. “Are we okay?” is pile one. “I just walked past that little bar you love and thought of you” is pile two. Same feeling underneath, completely different response from him.
The other thing that pulls a reply out of a Scorpio man is a small, specific hook. Not a question he can answer with one word, and not an essay either. Something that gives him an easy way in. “I found out something about you today and I am not sure how I feel about it” will get you a reply faster than any good morning text you have ever sent, because you have just opened a loop his mind cannot leave alone.
The Best Time Of Day To Text A Scorpio Man So Your Message Reaches Him At His Most Open
Timing is not a small detail with a Scorpio man, it is half the message. He is a fixed water sign, which means his emotional state moves in slow, deep currents rather than quick ripples. Catch him in the wrong current and even a perfect text falls flat.
During his working hours he is in his most guarded, focused mode. A flirty text at 11 in the morning tends to get a polite, clipped reply at best, and that clipped reply then makes you anxious, and the anxiety makes you send a second text, and now you are in the loop you were trying to avoid. Do not text him for warmth in the middle of his day.
Late evening is his hour. A Scorpio man softens after dark. That is when his defenses come down, when he gets reflective, when the intensity he keeps locked away all day starts looking for somewhere to go. A single flirty line sent between nine and midnight will get more from him than five messages sent before lunch.
The other window nobody talks about is the one right after you two have shared something real, a good date, a long call, a moment of honesty. His guard is briefly open. That is the moment to send something light and warm, not something heavy. Confirm the closeness, do not interrogate it, and he will carry that feeling with him for days.
The Truth About Sending A Scorpio Man Flirty Photos (Most Women Get This Backwards)
I get asked this constantly, and my answer surprises people. Yes, a Scorpio man is the most sensual sign of the zodiac. No, that does not mean you should be sending him revealing photos to hold his attention.
Here is why. A Scorpio man is built for the chase, and what he chases is what is hidden. The moment you hand him everything, the mystery is gone and so is a large part of the pull. He will happily receive the photo, and he will feel a flicker of something, and then a quiet part of him will file you under “already mine, no further effort required.”
What works far better with him is suggestion. A photo of your bare shoulder in soft light. A shot of your hand around a glass of wine with the caption “wish you were here to finish this with me.” The hem of a dress he has never seen. You are giving him one detail and letting his imagination, which is the most powerful imagination in the zodiac, do all the rest of the work for you.
And if you two are already intimate, hold the more explicit messages for moments when you actually want to escalate, not for moments when you feel insecure and want to pull his attention back. A Scorpio man can smell the difference between desire and desperation through a phone screen. One draws him in. The other makes him step back.
6 Examples How To Flirt With A Scorpio Man Over Text
1. Keep It Brief But Interesting
Even if you’re the almighty queen of texting, you’re going to have to pull it back and only send him short messages that pique his interest. So, the question is: how do you go about that?!
The first thing to know is that Scorpio men get bored with long text messages. They probably won’t even read them all the way through. They like text messages that are short, sweet, and to the point.
You’ll want to avoid texts like: “you know I was thinking…” followed by a long story. With that, he will look at the first sentence and then put his phone down. Yes, I’m serious!
The more effective types of texts would be: “hey you, I bet you look amazing today,” and then wait for him to respond. If he doesn’t, it’s not the end of the world.
Wait until later to say anything else. When you do, a simple “what are you up to?” will do. That allows him to tell you what he has going on and if nothing, he may give back a, “not much, what are you up to?”
That can very well lead to him asking you if you want to hang out. You can also ask him questions such as, “have you been to that new restaurant…?” and see what he says.
If he answers (and regardless if it’s a yes or a no) you can tell him, “I’d love to go there sometime with you if you’d be up for it.” It lets him know that you’re thinking about him and wanting to find something for the two of you to do.
Avoid trying to bring up important topics via text. Any texts you send should be flirty, to the point, and a little bit mysterious, when you can. Let me explain a bit more in the next section…
2. Be Attentive & Flirty
The Scorpio man is a passionate guy who loves sex. Even if you two aren’t having sex, it’s good to tempt him with snippets of what you want from him.
I know this sounds cheesy, but it works more often than not! Text him: “What are you wearing right now?” As silly and cliché as it sounds, it’s going to be effective.
It tests the waters to see if he answers and better yet, he asks you what you are wearing. You can then use your imagination to give him a sexy description (whether you’re really wearing it or just imagining!) you may even choose to mention that you’re not wearing panties or a bra.
You’re giving him a visual even if that’s not what you’re actually wearing. It gets him stirred up and turned on which is what you want to do. The more you send these types of texts, the more his desire will build for you.
Another text could be something like: “Those jeans you wore last time I saw you were incredibly hot. Your ass looked fantastic.” He’ll love the compliment and he may mention something he’s seen you in.
These are all flirty messages that help stimulate conversation between you and your Scorpio guy. If you aren’t sure what clothes he likes on you, give him something to work with.
You can try saying, “what did you think of my cute red mini skirt I wore last time I saw you? Is it short enough or should it be longer?”
3. Timing Is Everything
This will sound odd but observing his schedule can either help you or harm you. Texting him when he’s busy could annoy him or put him off.
Find out when he works or when he has things going on. Be sure that when you text, it’s either first thing in the morning or when you know he’s off work. He’ll be more likely to answer then.
He will do the same thing for you as to not bug you while you’re working or are busy with plans. When you do text him first thing in the morning, make it something really cute.
You can say something such as, “Good Morning! I hope your day is filled with good things!” I know I mentioned flirting but not right away first thing.
You’ll want to save the flirting for when you can tell he’s in a friskier mood. First thing in the morning sending the cute texts will make him smile while he’s getting ready to start his work day.
Use your creativity with cuteness. Don’t say anything that is heavy or pushy. Just a simple: “Hope you have a great day at work,” is an easy one.
Yeah, I know it sounds easy and cheesy, but sometimes the cuteness is welcomed and it’s something he’ll think is very sweet of you. These types of messages make him feel good.
4. Utilize Emoticons/Emojis For Expression & Mystery
You can totally flirt with your Scorpio man using emoticons or emojis. The kissing smiley is always a classic! Then there is the smiley with hearts for eyes. Those indicate your affection, which is something Scorpio man loves.
You can do this without words and he’ll not only know how you’re feeling about him but may make him respond with some as well. The winking face is a good one when you pay him a compliment.
I need to warn you that the eggplant emoticon is very sexual and unless you’re trying to make a point, you probably don’t want to throw that one in the mix.
You can try texting something naughty but using the angel halo smiley face. It’s cute and it’s suggestive. Here’s one you can use: “your body gets me so…” leave him hanging. Don’t say what it does to you but send a devil and angel emoticon back-to-back. He’ll get the hint!
If you aren’t sure what to text him, send him a simple winking smiley. He’ll wonder what you’re up to and will likely message you back.
Naturally, if you send the drooling smiley face, he’ll really wonder what is on your mind and will definitely want to get back to you.
If he sends you something spicy, you can respond with the embarrassed blushing smiley along with the devil smiley. It indicates that you’re turned on by what he said to you.
5. Compliments, Compliments, Compliments
Just like most people, the Scorpio man loves when a woman appreciates his efforts to look his best. This is especially if he puts lots of time into his hair and wardrobe.
Make him feel good by telling him how fantastic he looks. Tell him he looks so hot every time you lay eyes on him. Tell him he has nice style.
If he wears sexy cologne then make note of it, so he’ll keep wearing it when the two of you go out. Compliment his hair and the way he smiles. The possibilities are endless!
Text something like: “Where did you get those shoes? They’re really stylish.” He’ll feel good that he has good taste. You letting him know you dig it makes him feel good about you.
If you want to double up, use a couple of the different steps I mentioned: “That shirt is so awesome, where did you get it? (Insert smiley with heart eyes or kissy smile)”
Naturally, compliments that boost his ego are nice, such as: “I absolutely love who I am when I’m with you,” or “You are such an amazing guy.” Yep, these are gushy but hey, they work!
6. A Little Something Sweet
Since Scorpio men are leery when it comes to trust, you need to let him know you trust him. It makes him feel like he’s doing right by you.
Sending him a text to let him know this would be like… “Have a great time with your friends tonight,” when he’s going out.
He will definitely want to know you have his back and aren’t worried about what he’s doing while he’s out without you. Likewise, he will need to do the same.
Of course, something such as: “you’re the best, I appreciate you,” will go far as well. It’s rather to the point and very loving. He will be elated to have a message like this from you.
Keep up the good vibes when you text your Scorpio man. Be sweet, be cute, be funny, and be flirty. This is what he wants in a partner over text!
Read next: How To Develop A Strong Emotional Connection With Your Scorpio Man
3 Texting Mistakes That Women Make When Texting A Scorpio Man
There are three kinds of texts that will make a Scorpio man lose interest in you and become icy cold.
These happen when you don’t know your Scorpio man well enough.
It also happens when you’re letting your emotions take control without thinking things through.
You might do it out of reacting to something he said or did…
When you’re at a loss of what to text your passionate Scorpio man, what do you do?
You make mistakes that you cannot take back – and then what? You could lose him forever!
Don’t let this happen! It’s in your hands and you can avoid these mistakes!
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If you want to sit back and do nothing about it, you might lose your Scorpio guy for good.
Is that really what you want? No! Of course, it isn’t, or you wouldn’t be reading this.
Take some action and make sure that you don’t do what other women do over text to a Scorpio man.
Make your Scorpio love feel wanted and loved.
If you really care for or love your Scorpio man, you’ll take the right steps.
You want to hold onto him and make him the love of your life.
Maybe one day you even want to marry him.
Don’t make the same mistakes other women have made via texting the Scorpio man.
You can do it better and you can keep your Scorpio man happy.
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Frequently Asked Questions About Flirting With A Scorpio Man Over Text
How Do I Start A Text Conversation With A Scorpio Man Without Seeming Needy?
Start with something that has nothing to do with the two of you. That is the trick. A Scorpio man reads “hey, how are you?” as an opening move in a game he has not agreed to play, and he will answer it flatly, or not at all.
Instead, hand him a piece of your world. “I just watched a documentary about that thing you told me about and now I am furious you were right.” “There is a woman on this train reading your favorite book and I nearly said something to her.” You are not asking for anything. You are including him. To a man who keeps 41 percent of women he dates away from every other part of his life, being included is a form of intimacy.
Then let him carry the conversation forward. The single most attractive thing you can do after your opening text is stop typing and let him come to you.
What Should I Do When A Scorpio Man Leaves Me On Read For Days?
Nothing. I know how difficult that word is when your stomach is in knots, but with him it is the only answer that works.
A Scorpio man goes quiet for one of three reasons. He is truly buried in something, he is processing a feeling he is not ready to name, or he is testing to see whether you will panic. The first two resolve on their own. The third one you fail the moment you send that follow-up text asking if you did something wrong.
Give him room and go live your life visibly and well. When he does resurface, and he almost always does, do not open with an interrogation about where he has been. Pick the conversation up as though nothing happened. That single move tells him you are not fragile, and to a Scorpio man there is nothing more magnetic than a woman who is not afraid of losing him.
Do Scorpio Men Like Good Morning And Good Night Texts?
He likes them from a woman he is already sure of. He is bored by them from a woman he is not.
The daily good morning text is a routine, and routine is the enemy of desire for a fixed water sign who feeds on depth and surprise. If you send the same three words every single day, he stops seeing them. Worse, if you stop sending them one day, he notices the absence rather than the affection, and that is not the response you want.
Use them sparingly and make them specific. “Good morning, I dreamt about that thing you said to me on Friday” is a text a Scorpio man rereads. “Good morning” on its own is a text he scrolls past.
How Can I Tell If A Scorpio Man Is Actually Flirting Back With Me Over Text?
Watch for depth, not volume. A Scorpio man who is interested does not necessarily text more, but he texts differently. He starts asking questions with layers to them. He remembers a small thing you mentioned two weeks ago and brings it back. He teases you in a way that is a little too observant, because he has been paying attention.
The clearest sign of all is when he initiates. A Scorpio man does not break his own silence for a woman he is indifferent to. If he texts you first, out of nowhere, with no reason attached, he has been thinking about you and he wanted you to know it without having to say so.
The other tell is emotional risk. When he shares something real, a frustration, a memory, a piece of his history, he is not making conversation. He is letting you in, and for him that is a bigger declaration than any flirty line he could send you. My full guide on how to text a Scorpio man walks you through every stage of this, and if he has gone silent, here is what it means when he texts you out of the blue.
Ready To Make Every Text You Send Him Count?
Flirting with a Scorpio man over text is not about being clever. It is about understanding what he is really reading when he looks at his screen, and giving him the mystery, the warmth, and the emotional safety that make him want to come closer.
My Scorpio Text Magic guide gives you the exact messages to send him at every stage, from the first flirty opener to the texts that make him plan a future with you. And if you want the complete picture of how his heart works, my Scorpio Man Secrets program walks you through all of it.
I would love to hear your story. Have you been texting a Scorpio man and found yourself second-guessing every message? What happened when you tried these? Tell me in the comments below, I read every single one and I will do my best to help you figure out your next step.
Wishing you love and light on your journey.
Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,
Anna Kovach
