Wondering if your Scorpio crush – or ex has feelings for you, or of he still wants you? As secretive as these signals can be, there are some sure-fire signs that he hasn’t let go of you just yet. Once you see these signs, you can be certain that the love is there. Here’s how to tell:
Still in love with your Scorpio fella? Or are you just falling for one and wondering if he feels the same about you? Either way, it can be hard to tell because he’s just so darn secretive! These are not the type of guys to show their feelings easily!
30 Secrets About Your Scorpio Man He Won’t Tell You
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This is where Astrology comes in handy. There are always ways to tell when a guy has feelings for you, according to his Star sign. It takes away the fuss and agony of worrying and gives you the opportunity to act and to know just how he feels.
These are the most obvious signs to tell that a Scorpio man is either developing feelings for you, or still has feelings for you:
In my years as a relationship astrologer, I have worked with thousands of women loving a Scorpio man, and this exact question comes up more than almost any other. He runs hot, then goes quiet, and you are left replaying every word trying to decode what he actually feels. You are not imagining it, and you are not alone. In our survey of women dating Scorpio men, only 31 percent felt confident he was interested, while a combined 53 percent were either reading mixed signals or had no idea where they stood. His feelings are often the most intense of any sign, yet somehow the hardest to read.
If you want to skip the guesswork entirely and understand exactly what is happening in his heart, my full Scorpio Man Secrets program walks you through his emotional wiring step by step. But first, here are the seven signs to watch for.
7 Ways To Tell If A Scorpio Man (Still) Has Feelings For You
1. He Keeps Playing Games With You
Scorpio men play games. Everyone knows that, but it can be infuriating, especially if you don’t know why he’s doing it. This sign often needs you to prove yourself, to test you to see if you are someone who can be trusted, loyal and faithful.
That’s why playing games is one of the strongest signs that he is falling for you, or still has feelings for you. He’s scared of being hurt and terrified of being betrayed. This is why he’s coming across in ways that seem manipulative, secretive or even toxic, at times.
Of course, you should never tolerate downright destructive behavior. It’s best to call him out on it, and show him that you mean business, that your feelings are serious for him. This will help him to trust you. Do away with the games, and get real.
It does mean you lay your heart on the line, however – are you ready for that?
2. He Becomes Vulnerable With You
When a Scorpio is really in love or has deep feelings for you, he will become vulnerable and sometimes, quite clingy and needy. However, it takes a great deal for him to get to that point, as this is a very scary space for him to be in, and usually comes out of desperation to keep you or fear of losing you.
Hence, if he is telling you about his true feelings, sharing his past with you, or sharing personal wounds with you, you can be sure that love is there. Even if you’ve broken up and he’s reaching out to you emotionally, it means that he still has those romantic feelings for you.
Now, is your choice as to what to do with this – do you want to try again – or not?
3. He’s Creating Drama
Another strange way to tell if your Scorpio fella (still) has feelings for you is when he creates drama. Yes, it’s annoying, and probably in some ways, a little childish. He likes to kick up a fuss, and pretend he wasn’t the one doing it.
However, it does get him the reaction he wants – your attention. It’s not always the best way to get your attention, but many Scorpio men can be rather wounded and aren’t always sure of the best way to go about getting what they actually want (your love!).
Of course, if it’s toxic drama, you will have to walk away or call him out. Show him a better way of getting your attention. Whatever you do, never play into his drama games. That will just get messy!
4. He Finds Reasons To See You Or Speak To You
You can be sure that a Scorpio man still cares for you if he is finding any reason to contact you or see you. Whether that means coming to your house to collect his special sweater, or stopping by your work to collect a document, he’s definitely looking for reasons to see you!
This can be quite enduing, once you realize that it’s all just a ploy to have more of you. He may also just reach out by text and pretend to ask you about something practical – don’t be fooled! This is almost always a sign that he is still in love with you.
5. He’s Acting Jealous
Is your Scorpio ex or love interest acting jealously? He’s probably in love with you, or still carrying the torch for you. It may seem very strange that he’s acting jealously about the new guy you’re seeing, because the truth is, who would be jealous unless they still wanted to be with you?
It’s not pretty, the jealousy – but if you know where it’s coming from, then you can find a way to not only tolerate it, but see this as a potential positive.
6. He Tells You His Secrets
Just as being vulnerable with you is a sign of his deeper feelings, sharing his secrets with you is also a sign that he’s in love with you, or still carrying feelings of closeness towards you. Scorpios do not share their secrets very easily at all, so this is a very important signal that he wants you in his life!
This may range from smaller secrets such as sharing his feelings about his boss with you over text one day, or telling you his dreams and hopes of the future over dinner. It may be a sudden revealing of emotion over a phone call, all in an attempt to draw closer to you.
This is almost a last resort with the Scorpio guy – he wouldn’t share his secrets unless he feels he can really trust you and that his games aren’t working. He has no choice but to become vulnerable, which is a very good thing indeed!
Read next: 5 Signs Your Scorpio Ex Does NOT Want You Back
7. He Can’t Let Go Of You
One of the biggest signs that a Scorpio still carries feelings for you is when he just can’t let go of you. Whether that means always reaching out, playing games, acting jealously, posting pictures of the two of you online or still hanging out with your dad for a drink, he still wants you.
Even if he’s new in your life, that will show up as always wanting you around, trying to see you and not taking no for an answer. Scorpios, once they are interested in you, will stop at absolutely nothing to have you.
They are ruled by Mars, the planet of lust and desire, after all – and what a Scorpio wants, a Scorpio gets! Do you want him to hold onto you? If so, enjoy it and let yourself be pursued. Make him work for you a little bit – he does tend to like that!
But never, ever allow toxic behavior to take control, and back out if he starts acting anything like a stalker!
Why a Scorpio Man Hides His Feelings Even When He Is Falling Hard
To read these seven signs correctly, it helps to understand why a Scorpio man buries his feelings in the first place. Scorpio is a fixed water sign ruled by Mars and Pluto, the planets of desire, power, and transformation. That combination gives him an enormous emotional inner world and an almost obsessive need to protect it. He does not hide his feelings because they are shallow. He hides them because they run so deep that exposing them feels dangerous.
This is the single biggest source of confusion for the women I work with. The number one challenge they report with Scorpio men, mentioned more often than hot and cold behavior, more than distance, more than commitment fears, is his emotional unavailability. He feels everything and expresses almost nothing. So when he finally does let a feeling slip, whether through jealousy, a shared secret, or a flash of vulnerability, it carries far more weight than the same gesture would from another sign.
Once you know that his silence is a defense and not an absence of love, the seven signs above stop looking like mixed messages. They start looking like a code you can actually read. If you want a deeper look at the silent treatment side of this, my guide on why Scorpio men are not forthcoming with their feelings breaks it down further.
The Difference Between a Scorpio Man Who Is Attracted and One Who Is In Love
Attraction with a Scorpio man is easy to spot. Love is the part that gets confusing, because both can look intense from the outside. A Scorpio man who is merely attracted will give you that famous laser focus, the eye contact that makes your knees go weak. In fact, 67 percent of women in our survey said their Scorpio man makes the most intense, consistent eye contact of any sign they have dated. That alone is not proof of love. It is proof that he notices you.
What separates real feeling from passing attraction is the intensity withdrawal cycle. A Scorpio man who is falling in love will pull you in close, then withdraw to watch what you do. This is not cruelty. It is how he tests whether you are safe enough to trust with his real self. How you respond when he goes quiet tells him everything. If you chase and panic, he learns you are anxious. If you stay steady and self respecting, he learns you are someone he can finally let his guard down with.
The women who win a Scorpio man are almost never the ones who pass his tests by performing. They are the ones who are simply, truly trustworthy, and who do not crumble the moment he pulls back. If his disappearing act is wearing you down, you may also recognize yourself in my article on the real reasons a Scorpio man pulls away.
What To Do Once You Spot These Signs
Recognizing that your Scorpio man still has feelings for you is only half the battle. The other half is knowing what to do with that information, because the wrong move at this stage can send him retreating right back behind his walls. The most common mistake I see is reacting to his signals with too much intensity of your own, flooding him with questions or demands for a definition. With a Scorpio, pressure reads as a threat, and a threatened Scorpio shuts the vault.
Instead, meet his vulnerability with calm warmth. When he shares a secret, receive it without making it a bigger deal than he can handle. When he creates drama for your attention, name it gently and offer him a healthier way to reach you. When he gets jealous, let it quietly reassure you rather than starting a fight. You are showing him, through your steadiness, that his real feelings are safe with you. That is the exact thing he has been testing for all along.
If you want the precise words to say at this delicate moment, the messages that speak straight to his Mars ruled heart without scaring him off, my Scorpio Man Magic Phrases give you tested, word for word scripts for reopening his heart and drawing him back toward commitment. Read more about them here.
Frequently Asked Questions About a Scorpio Man’s Feelings
How do you know if a Scorpio man secretly likes you?
A Scorpio man who secretly likes you will watch you far more than he talks to you. You will catch the intense stares, the way he seems to know details about your life you never told him directly, and the way he turns up wherever you happen to be. He guards his interest carefully because admitting it makes him feel exposed, so he tests the waters through actions rather than words.
Look for the small leaks in his control. A secretly smitten Scorpio will remember things you mentioned in passing, react with quiet jealousy when other men are around, and find thin excuses to contact you. He may act cool and unbothered on the surface while orchestrating reasons to stay in your orbit. With this sign, the gap between how little he says and how much he does is usually where the truth lives.
Trust the pattern over any single moment. One intense conversation could be a fluke, but a steady drumbeat of attention, memory, and reappearance is a Scorpio man telling you he is far more interested than he is willing to say out loud.
Will a Scorpio man come back if he still has feelings?
Yes, and Scorpio is one of the most likely signs of the entire zodiac to come back. Many of the women I work with describe a Scorpio man who has returned to them repeatedly over years, sometimes decades. He leaves, he moves on, he reappears. She becomes the constant he keeps circling back to, even when life has taken him elsewhere. His fixed nature means that once you are imprinted on his heart, he rarely erases you completely.
That said, a Scorpio man comes back on his own terms and his own timeline, never because he was chased or pressured. He returns when he has processed his feelings in private and decided you are worth lowering his guard for. The no contact period that feels like torture to you is often the exact space he needs to realize what he lost.
If you are in that waiting place right now, my guide on whether a Scorpio man comes back after no contact walks you through the signs that he is not over you.
How does a Scorpio man act when he is hurt but still loves you?
A hurt Scorpio man who still loves you is a study in contradictions. He may lash out, go ice cold, or create the kind of drama designed to provoke a reaction from you, all while privately aching over the very person he is pushing away. His pride and his fear of betrayal sit on top of his love, so the love comes out sideways, disguised as anger or distance.
The tell is that he keeps you in his orbit even while he punishes you with his coldness. A Scorpio who truly stopped loving you would simply vanish, calm and final. One who is hurt but still attached will keep finding reasons to be near, keep tabs on your life, and keep that simmering jealousy alive. The intensity itself is the proof that you still matter.
Do Scorpio men catch feelings fast?
Scorpio men feel quickly but commit slowly, which is a crucial distinction. The attraction can arrive almost instantly, an immediate, almost magnetic pull, especially toward a woman who carries an air of mystery or quiet strength. What takes time is his willingness to trust those feelings enough to act on them openly. He will often sit with an intense attraction for weeks or months, testing and observing, before he lets you see how deep it goes.
So if it feels like your Scorpio man fell hard and fast and then suddenly pumped the brakes, that is completely on brand. The feelings came fast. The trust that turns those feelings into a real relationship is what he is still building.
How can you tell a Scorpio man is over you for good?
A Scorpio man who is truly over you goes quiet in a way that feels final rather than dramatic. The jealousy disappears. The reasons to contact you dry up. He stops watching, stops testing, and stops creating any kind of friction, because friction requires that he still cares. With Scorpio, indifference, not anger, is the real ending.
This is why so many of the signs in this article are actually encouraging. Games, drama, jealousy, and an inability to let go are all forms of engagement, and a Scorpio man only engages where his heart is still involved. If he is still reacting to you at all, the door is very likely still open.
Are you interested to know more about the Scorpio guy? Check out my Scorpio man secrets website right here and find out what makes these mysterious men tick!
I would love to hear your story. Have you noticed any of these seven signs in your own Scorpio man? What happened, and where do things stand now? Share your experience in the comments below, and I will do my best to help you figure out your next step. I read every single one.
Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,
Anna Kovach
What if you make him work for it and he just let’s you go?
Why does he seem so cold and selfish. Almost or is narcissistic. Kind of psychopath?
So Scorpio guy didn’t treat me well at all when we got together in Oct & Dec & I called him on it last week & again today when he texted me. I told him that he disrespected me & was sexually pushy. He hadn’t seen it that way & suprise, this “text only” guy phoned me while I was replying to his last text. He moved out of the apartment above me today but now wants to see me again. I told him that he had to respect my boundaries if anything was to happen between us. So now he feels badly about how he made me feel?? Arrrrg Frustrating Does a strong sexual attraction with these guys ever turn into emotional attachment? Cause he hasn’t been able to walk away & stay away since last January when he moved upstairs?
MINE IS AN ASSHOLE, HE CREATE DRAMA, ACT SICK WHEN HE IS NOT, CRY LIKE A BABY, AND THEN TELL ME ITS ALL MY FAULT. SEE NOW I WOULD HAVE BEEN CONCERN IF I WASN’T A SAG. SO I DON’T GIVE A FUCK. I TREAT HIM LIKE THE PERSON HE ACTS LIKE AND HE GETS IN HIS FEELINGS AND THEN I PUSH HIM AWAY. THATS WHEN HE COME UP WITH SOM MESS ABOUT NO FEELING WELL, OR IF THAT DON’T WORK HE TELLS ME THAT HE CAN’T LIVE WITHOUT ME. YEAH RIGHT. SO I PLAY MY HAND AND TELL HIM I GOT A NEW PERSONAL TRAINER, AND BOY DID THAT PUT HIM BACK WRAPPED AROUND MY FINGERS. I TOLD HIM IF HE FUCK AROUND HE WILL FIND OUT.
Dear Kenzie,
There are some obvious and troublesome differences that Scorpio and Sagittarius will have to negotiate with sensitivity and a willingness to compromise. Scorpio needs security and demands committed loving whereas Sagittarius hates being hemmed in and demands complete freedom.
Scorpio will criticize Sagittarius for lacking direction, focus, and commitment and Sagittarius will think Scorpio is a paranoid control freak. When you argue or disagree things can quickly get out of hand, leaving you both feeling hurt, confused and decidedly turned off. Be careful when navigating his waters!