How To Get A Scorpio Man To Chase You (7 Effective Ways)

by Anna Kovach, relationship astrologer
You’ve got your heart set on a Scorpio man, but aren’t sure what you can do to get him to chase you. Here's how to get a Scorpio man to chase you.

Hey, ladies! It is me, Anna, your relationship astrologer. Knowing how to get a Scorpio man to chase you is key to attaining your dream relationship with him. Scorpio men are some of the most enigmatic and alluring men in the zodiac – they’re mysterious, intense, and extremely passionate, which can be both thrilling and intimidating.

These guys definitely know their way around the heart, and women seem to fall on their words when a Scorpio man is in the room. However, Scorpio men can also be quite difficult to read and pin down, as they are intensely private and selective about who they let into their inner circle.

Getting the attention of a Scorpio man is not easy, as they often come across as aloof and uninterested, even when deep down they are very interested in someone.

However, I definitely have some tips and tricks that can help you get a Scorpio guy chasing after you in no time. Keep reading to find out the 7 effective ways how to get a Scorpio man to chase you and make him fall head-over-heels in love with you.

Do Scorpio Men Like The Thrill Of The Chase?

Yes, Scorpio men absolutely love the excitement and mystery of the chase. These guys need a woman who can captivate them and keep them intrigued. Scorpio men are naturally very intense and passionate, and they get a real thrill out of pursuing someone who seems just a little bit out of reach.

A Scorpio man will put in a lot of effort to gain the attention and affection of a woman he is interested in, as he sees the pursuit as part of the fun and excitement of a new relationship. It is all about that cat and mouse dynamic that Scorpios adore.

Be his prey and he will adore you forever!

How To Get A Scorpio Man To Chase You (7 Effective Ways)

Here are 7 truly effective ways to get a Scorpio man chasing after you:

Keep Him Guessing

Scorpios love a good mystery, so make sure to keep him on his toes. Don’t reveal everything about yourself all at once – let him slowly uncover the layers of your personality over time.

There should always be a little bit of mystery and intrigue surrounding you. You need to be a puzzle for him to solve. When he thinks he has you all figured out, throw him a curveball.

If things are too easy and predictable, a Scorpio man will quickly lose interest. When you keep him on his toes and make him work to get to know you, it will only deepen his fascination.

Be Confident & Independent

Scorpio men are extremely attracted to confident, self-assured women who know what they want. They don’t want a clingy, needy partner – they want someone who is secure in themselves and their own identity.

Scorpios are naturally quite dominant themselves, so they respect and admire women who can hold their own and aren’t afraid to speak their mind. Show him that you are a strong, independent woman who doesn’t need him to validate your worth.

This will ignite his desire to pursue you and make you his own. As much as they love the chase, Scorpio men also want a partner who can keep up with their intensity.

Unleash Your Sensuality

Scorpio men are incredibly passionate and sexual beings, so you’ll want to tap into your own sensuality to really get his attention. This doesn’t mean jumping into bed with him right away, but rather presenting yourself in a alluring, confident way that leaves him wanting more.

Flirt shamelessly, make eye contact, and let your body language do the talking. When you show a Scorpio man that you are a sensual, erotic being, it will drive him wild with fascination and desire.

Just be sure to maintain an air of mystery and don’t give away too much too soon. This will only make him even more obsessed with uncovering every part of you.

Play Hard To Get

Scorpio men adore the thrill of the chase, so make sure to play a little hard to get. Mystery is something that will repeatedly come up – don’t make it too easy for him to win you over.

Scorpios love a challenge, so act aloof and disinterested at times. This will keep him guessing and intrigued, as he’ll be determined to break down your walls and get you to open up to him.

When you act a little stand-offish or turn down his advances occasionally, it will only fuel his desire to pursue you even harder. Of course, don’t be so extreme that he turns the other way – but a little bit of healthy distance will go a long way.

This could include things like taking a little longer to reply to his messages, occasionally bowing out of plans, or acting busy when he tries to make spontaneous plans.

Reveal Your Vulnerabilities

Scorpios are deeply drawn to intensity and intimacy, and they adore when a woman can be vulnerable and open up to them on a deep, emotional level. While you want to maintain an air of mystery, you also need to allow him to see your softer, more vulnerable side.

When you let your guard down and reveal parts of yourself that you usually keep hidden, it will make a Scorpio man feel incredibly special and trusted. This shows him that you are comfortable being your authentic self around him, which will make him feel safe to do the same.

Of course, you’ll want to be selective about when and how you reveal your vulnerabilities, as building that level of trust and intimacy takes time. Don’t rush it – let it happen organically.

Have Deep Conversations

Scorpio men love to dive deep, so engage him in conversations that go beyond the surface level. Talk about your passions, dreams, fears, and values. Show him that you’re not just interested in the superficial – you want to really know him on an emotional and intellectual level.

When you share your innermost thoughts and feelings with a Scorpio, it will make him feel incredibly special and trusted. He’ll be drawn to your depth, authenticity, and vulnerability.

In turn, he’ll start opening up to you more and more, and you’ll develop a deeper, more profound connection. He won’t be able to resist the pull of your alluring mind.

Read also21 Questions To Ask A Scorpio Man

Don’t Be Afraid To Make The First Move

While Scorpio men do love the thrill of the chase, they also respect and admire women who are confident enough to make the first move. Don’t be afraid to flirt shamelessly, initiate conversation, or even ask him out.

When you show a Scorpio man that you’re genuinely interested, it will make him feel special and desired. Plus, it takes the pressure off of him having to always be the pursuer.

Just be sure to strike a balance – don’t be overly aggressive or come on too strong, as that can be a turn-off. Be flirtatious and confident, but let him still feel like he’s the one in control of the dynamic.

This combined approach of allowing him to chase you while also making bold moves yourself will drive a Scorpio man absolutely wild.

Texting Tricks To Get A Scorpio Man To Chase You Through Text

While in-person interactions are crucial, you can also use strategic texting techniques to keep a Scorpio man intrigued and chasing after you. Some tips:

  • Be genuinely interested: Ask open-ended questions about his day, his interests, his thoughts. People enjoy talking to someone who genuinely wants to hear what they have to say.
  • Share something about yourself: Don’t make it all about him. Share a funny anecdote, a thought you had, or something interesting you learned.
  • Keep it light and playful: Flirting is fine, but avoid being overly suggestive or playing hard to get.
  • Mirror his texting style: If he’s brief, don’t send walls of text. If he’s more detailed, match that energy.
  • Don’t overthink it: Sometimes a simple “Hey, how’s your day going?” is all you need.

The key is to keep him guessing and intrigued, without coming across as needy or desperate.

FAQs:

You may still have some questions on your mind, so let’s address a few of the most common ones:

Do Scorpio men like to chase or be chased?

Scorpio men absolutely love the thrill of the chase. They are drawn to confident, mysterious women who play hard to get. They would much rather chase a woman than have her throw herself at them.

If you can remain relaxed and in your feminine energy, allowing him to pursue you, it will drive a Scorpio man wild with desire. Being in your feminine power while letting him be the aggressor is the ultimate aphrodisiac.

Should I chase a shy Scorpio man or wait for him to make the first move?

With a shy Scorpio man, it’s often best to let him make the first move. Scorpios tend to be more reserved and cautious, especially when it comes to making the first move romantically.

If you’re interested in a shy Scorpio, your best bet is to give him subtle signs that you’re interested – make eye contact, smile, initiate conversations. But avoid being too forward or aggressive, as that may scare him off.

Let him build up the courage to approach you, and then you can slowly and gently reciprocate his interest.

What happens when you stop chasing a Scorpio man?

When you stop chasing a Scorpio man and instead pull back and let him do the pursuing, something magical tends to happen. He will suddenly become much more intrigued and determined to win you over.

Scorpios love the thrill of the chase, and when you remove yourself from that dynamic, it will only make him want you more. He’ll start putting in more effort to get your attention and affection.

Just be sure not to play games or be overly aloof. Find the right balance of mystery, confidence, and warmth, and he’ll be hooked.

How to make a Scorpio man chase you after a breakup?

If you’re looking to get a Scorpio ex back and have him chasing you again, the most effective approach is to go completely no contact for a period of time.

This will give him the space to miss you and realize what he’s lost. When you eventually do reach out, be warm but unavailable. Don’t be overly eager to reconnect – let him do the work of pursuing you again.

Appealing to his ego and restoring the thrill of the chase are key. Showing that you’ve grown and improved yourself since the breakup can also pique his interest.

But remember – the goal isn’t to play games, but to authentically reconnect in a way that makes him see your true value.

Read nextHow To Get A Scorpio Man To Commit (5 Effective Ways)

If your Scorpio man pulls away, DON’T do this…

I’ve heard from so many of my clients that their Scorpio man is AMAZING when they are in person with him…

So charming, sweet, funny, and really connected!

But he can tend to pull away when you’re not with him.

It’s a super frustrating situation for any woman. And if you are like my other clients who have been through this, you’re probably feeling REALLY confused.

“Why is he so hot and cold through text?”

“Why does he back off when we aren’t together?”

And most importantly…

“What can I DO about this?”

First, I want to share the things you definitely should NOT do in this situation…

  1. Don’t get clingy or needy and ask him if something is wrong or beg to see him
  2. Don’t force closure if you’ve had some conflict. Wait until you can talk in person about important issues. Text can EASILY lead to miscommunication.
  3. Don’t assume that there IS a problem. He could just be really busy.
  4. Don’t let fear drive your actions. Assume the best and not the worst.
  5. Don’t chase him. Chase your dreams and goals instead.
  6. Don’t stalk him on social media. Give him space.
  7. Don’t get upset with him or freak out. This will only push him away.
  8. Don’t ignore him so he can “see what it feels like.”
  9. Don’t get needy, jealous, or beg for reassurance.

So what SHOULD you do instead?

  1. Take some time out to reflect on the situation and consider logical reasons for his actions.
  2. Date other men if you aren’t exclusive. Don’t lock yourself down with him if you aren’t yet in a committed relationship with him.
  3. Give him space and time with zero pressure. He might be overwhelmed with work or not be feeling well. 
  4. Focus on your own life. If you don’t have an epic life filled with hobbies and time with friends or family, you need to build that.

Your Scorpio man should be the sprinkles on the cupcake of your awesome life, not the cupcake itself.

  1. Let him reach out to you when he’s ready. Taurus men like to lead. You need to let him do that!
  2. Be supportive. If you haven’t heard from him in a week (or a even day if you text every single day no matter what), ask if he’s okay. And offer to be supportive if he’s going through a challenging time.
  3. Communicate what your needs are, but avoid any blame or shame.
  4. When your Scorpio man comes back, welcome him lovingly with open arms. If you are angry, he’ll want to run.
  5. When you are in person, let him know (kindly) the things that make you feel valued and adored.

Text can be challenging, and I don’t want you to feel alone in this.

I don’t want you to lie in bed unable to sleep because you are worried about why your Scorpio man is pulling away.

And there is no need for you to do that.

Especially when I can guide you on how to deeply connect with his heart through text messages… 

Because when you know SPECIFICALLY what to text him based on his astrology… 

He WON’T be pulling away anymore.

And you’ll never again have to worry about what to say to your lovely Scorpio man through text anymore.

Go see what I mean here now so he never pulls away again.

 Sending you love,

Your sister and relationship astrologer, 

Anna Kovach

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7 thoughts on “How To Get A Scorpio Man To Chase You (7 Effective Ways)

    1. Don’t do it. Do not send him any of your pics. He wouldn’t mind using it against you if things start to get sour at any point of time. I would just say yes and keep teasing

    2. AAAAhhh, OH my…What do you think he going to do with them? He may want to just fantasize with them online and jerk off while looking at them, or he may be into sharing them with his buddies. He may even sell them. I would NEVER ever trust a guy that asked me for nude pictures, oh my word.
      You know that ONLY “sex” is on his mind…I would sure stay clear of this one big time or you may be sorry. You may have a real “NUT” on your hands. A real weirdo. You just don’t know, unless yo u have met him and know what he’s really into, but if he’s wanting nude pictures, he’s certainly into something.

  1. Given up on my Scorpio…was going well with all these big promises on what we would do and how many times we would see each other, he’s a one woman man and he is true to what he say he is all about. He was so fun to hang out with and we would enjoy our time together. After a few weeks he starting making excuses when I asked what what he up to. One weekend he had to work the whole weekend when he has a weekday job, then he had to take his computer to a buddy’s place, had to take his son places etc. always something. He would call every so often, and we would have a great chats! He would text every so often to see what I was up to.

    Then all of a sudden he just changed; not sure what happened. I stopped initiating texts and would never hear form him for days, however when I did text he would always send a text back, sometimes he would respond hours/days later. He also stopped calling. He would apologize when he was called out on not responding to my texts.

    I just finally had enough of this behaviour and called him out on it; telling him he has lost interest in me, how he can go days with no contact and seems like he has someone else on the go. I’m just not into these games he plays and he has changed from the man I originally met. Anyhow, I didn’t hear back from him, which is okay, I got a chance to say what I need to say. I’ve read a lot of article on Scorpio men, they are just not for me!

    1. Hi CM!

      I can understand your frustration with his casual pull back over time. You did the right thing by calling him out. I would have too! If you didn’t hear back from him then it shows his lack of commitment and desire for the relationship. So ultimately you found out that your intuition was correct and he had lost interest. I am proud of you for standing up for yourself! I wish you nothing but the best.

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