Scorpio Man Withholding – Why Hasn’t He Busted A Move Yet?

by Anna Kovach, relationship astrologer
Are you asking yourself "Why hasn’t my Scorpio man busted a move yet"? Here is what you probably need to know about this secretive soul...

Are you hot and bothered by an insanely hot Scorpio man but waiting on him to make a move? Maybe you’re wondering if he’s ever going to ask you out or take things to the next level in intimacy.

Do Scorpios make the first move ever? I can help you with this mystery. In fact, here is what you probably need to know about this secretive soul:

Scorpio Man Friend Zones When He Isn’t Ready

Just like some of the other signs in the Zodiac, the Scorpio man tends to only take action when he’s sure of the woman he’s got his eyes on. If he isn’t sure that you’re someone he’d like to date; he may not be forthcoming.

If you’ve already been dating and he acts this way, he isn’t sure if you’re someone he wants to take things to the next level with. If he’s seeing you but withholding sex, he is definitely unsure about what he wants or if you’re the one.

So there is a lot to consider when it comes to this guy. I understand how confusing it can be trying to navigate around him. However, he’s just a man who wants to make sure he’s not going to make a mistake.

If he’s been flirting with you but not asking you out yet; he’s observing your behavior and likely your responses to see how you measure up to what he thinks he’s looking for.

There is that chance of you also being in the “friend zone”. If that’s the case; he’s just a flirt and there isn’t any hope of him asking you out. Observe him and see if he asks anyone else out. If he does; you have your answer.

How well do you know him? Maybe he flirts with you but has a girlfriend. It’s important that you actually try to interact with him and find out what his situation is so that you know what you’re dealing with.

It’s very healthy for you to take your time with your Scorpio man. There is absolutely no reason to rush. If you can tell that he’s worth his weight in gold then you can hold out a bit longer!

He Really Likes You

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There is always that weird element of Scorpio men trying to be very careful when the like someone so they don’t screw it up or scare you off. So they’ll take their time to carefully cultivate the relationship.

When he really likes someone, he gets nervous and naturally, he will come off as cold or cool toward you. He doesn’t mean to be like this but he’s a private person and emotionally; he doesn’t like to show anyone how he feels.

This could make him take his time or nervous to ask you out. It’s really important to watch how he normally acts as you’ll be able to determine if he’s just being nice to you or if he actually IS interested in you.

It’s the oldest story in the book right? Boy likes a girl but is too afraid to ask the girl out in fear or rejection. This is what is running through his mind. He also doesn’t want to give you the wrong impression.

Now when you’re already dating him and he’s afraid to commit further or have sex with you; it’s the same thing. He’s fearful that he likes you so much that he could totally screw it up.

So he’ll wait until he can fully wrap his head around it and feel he’s making the right choices for himself as well as for you. He’s always concerned with feelings and what to do with them.

Easiest way to say it is that Scorpio man doesn’t want to fail and doesn’t want to ruin what he has with you. Scorpio man withholding sex while he’s trying to get closer to you is a very healthy thing.

If you truly care for your Scorpio guy, hang in there. When he finally is with you sexually, he will make sure you have the ultimate pleasure. Keep your eyes on the prize!

Whatever His Reason May Be

Make it real! Don’t be afraid to take the lead if you need to in order to get the Scorpio man moving. If you’re already dating him; you may want to hold off and give him a little time.

If you’re waiting for him to ask you out on a first or second date, you’ll need to suggest it to him. Saying something like “So when are you taking me out for coffee” or something else casual and non-threatening.

He’ll find it adoring and could very well ask you out on the spot. Sometimes Scorpio men just cannot figure out whether or not you’d be interested in going out with him so he just doesn’t bother.

However, if you can bring it upon yourself to make the first move and let him know you would be interested in going out with him, he’s more likely to ask you out then.

Look him in the eyes and be enthusiastic, and act excited no matter what it is that he suggests. It will help win him over. Compliments to him will also go over well in showing your interest.

This is one of the few times where taking the lead is absolutely welcomed with the Scorpio man. Knowing you are into him is half the battle for him. Give it a try!

Why Won’t My Scorpio Man Sleep With Me?

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I cannot say this enough: Scorpio men want to be totally sure that you’re the right one for him which does cause him to be cautious and take his time. It’s not because he doesn’t like you enough.

It’s because he wants to see how things flow with the two of you over time. He wants to see if your values and ideas about life match up. He also wants to see how loyal you will be to him.

These are all things that take time to learn about each other. If you have been with him for mere weeks or months; you’re not there yet. Try not to rush the process.

It may be best for you and him both to take your time and let things flow as they will. By trying to hurry or force the process; you’ll scare him off or you’ll get so frustrated waiting; that you’ll decide to call it quits.

Relax, breathe, or do whatever you have to do to keep yourself in a place of Zen so that when your Scorpio guy is ready; he’ll be ready to take the plunge of commitment or even sex.

Scorpio man withholding sex is not an easy thing to deal with when you want him so much. It’s easy to get turned on by him but you don’t get to pick when you get to sleep with him.

While that can add to the mystery, it can also add to female frustration or also known as “lady blue balls”. Yes, it IS a thing. Hang in there though, he’s usually well worth the wait.

Scorpio man friend zone may not seem ideal but it helps get your foot in the door until he feels there is something more tangible between you.

If you’re already dating and he friend zones you, you probably should cut your losses. He’s found something he doesn’t like and will probably back out. Hang in there, you’ll know soon enough!

Conclusion, Does Scorpio Man Ever Make The First Move?

If or when your Scorpio guy thinks that you could be the one for him or he’s just irresistibly drawn to you then yes, he could make the first move. The truth is, you never really know for sure.

They are very picky with whom they will sleep with and when. It’s really up for him to decide if he wants you right away or if he wants to make you wait it out. It’s not the news you probably want to hear but it’s true.

I realize how absolutely frustrating the Scorpio man can seem at times. However, getting to know him better may help you in the long run. Get to know him better here.

It’s often best to know him as well as you can before you sleep with him. It will help the two of you grow a very tight-knit bond that you can have the rest of your lives together.

Speaking of frustration, did you know that actor Josh Duhamel is a Scorpio man? Can you imagine how insane it would be if he made you wait as sexy as he is? Whoa!

Have you successfully gotten your Scorpio guy to bust moves with you? What did you do to get him there? Tell me!

Share your story (or situation) with our community in the comment section below (don’t worry, it’s anonymous).

Wishing you all the luck of the universe

Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,

Anna Kovach


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5 thoughts on “Scorpio Man Withholding – Why Hasn’t He Busted A Move Yet?

  1. I dont know if it is only me or anyone outthere feel different about scorpio man in terms of him be scary if we rush the relationship. I feel otherwise tho. My scorpio man is intense in my opinion, I felt be pushed instead. Sometimes it scares me. Now I am in cold phase, as I am scared be involved into new relationship, based on my past karmic relationship. meanwhile he is also stuck up, doesnt do anything to make it better. Sigh. Are we both scared…

  2. Hey there I need help!!! I am a libra women who met 9 months ago a guy who’s happened to be an Scorpio, we been talking and texting all this time we hadn’t been in a date not once, but he since the third month of we talking asked me to have a non serious relationship with him, I am a women that respect myself ( I am 45 my experience with men is short Wich I’ve been just with 2 men in long relationships each last for 15 and 10 years and I’ve been alone for 5 years with not going out, not male friends, not dating until he come alone) anyways we been in enticing conversations planned to getaway and him asking me intimate questions and also keep asking me if I have feelings for him ( I never have given him an honest answer of how I feel for him due to he always said that this can’t work with feelings) he ghosting at times, as he goes exciting at times as well when he come back, so many times is me who try to keep our communication going and is very tiring and frustrating as you can read, point is I am confused and don’t know what is going on, 3 weeks ago I told him yes and accepting his proposal of this non serious thing ( fool of my part because is not what I want and is not who I am) we talk and decide to getaway one weekend after I say yes and he stood me up with not explanation or nothing, I send him a message making sure he knows I was upset and I say goodbye but he was trying to explain why and I accepted due to his reason was a life threatening to his mother, but since then is not been any plans of us be together and his communicationn is been less but when we talk the sparks is still there from his side. So as you see I really need help to figured this puzzle out, pleaseee help meee! Thank you in advance for your answers

  3. Well I can tell you something give me a scorpion man anydaybthey are really loveablebi am a pissces woman and we hit it off by day one just by a touch on the arm by him wow I am crazy for the guy and when I see him I tell him all the time that I love him

    1. Hi Janet!

      Two water signs! Yes that’s a great match up and I’m glad to hear that it’s working well for you being with a Scorpio man. I am so happy for you! Thank you for sharing sweetheart. I really appreciate it. I wish you all the luck of the stars!

      1. Janet your lucky i am trying with my scorpion man he knows how i feel for him .trying prove ill be faithful to him love him only .he holds back says he wont come arpund if i get with any other guys says things counterdics self at times like he dont no if there is us yet then talk about dog saying its not going slleep in our bed .we talking about moving in but dont get no where yet .how can i build on relationship make us stronger where he want me .

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