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Healthy Scorpio Man Relationship: Stand Your Ground!

If you are trying to forge a healthy Scorpio man relationship, there is something you need to know. When he was looking for a relationship, he wanted an independent woman that was strong.

It’s important to know how to stand up to a Scorpio man when he’s not treating you well. Don’t ever be a door mat to this man, you’ll regret it.

It’s also important to know how to deal with him when he’s in fight mode.Here are some helpful pointers for you to keep working on your Scorpio man relationship:

A Scorpio Man Relationship Can Be Difficult 

No doubt your Scorpio man relationship will test your patience at times. He often thinks that his way is the best way and can be stubborn about learning other methods. However, if you know what you are saying is right, stand your ground.

I’m certainly not telling you that you should fight with him all the time when you disagree with him. What I am saying is that if there are important issues that you’re trying to work on; don’t back down.

Scorpio isn’t the best at seeing both sides of the coin in an argument. He needs to learn how to see your side of what is going on so that when you two argue; it’s more productive than destructive.

You will need to figure out what is important and what isn’t worth the fight. Figuring out what is a priority will help you to work best at your relationship. Not all battles are worth it.

An example would be battling him because he always leaves the toilet seat up. Is it really worth getting into a knockdown drag em’ out a type of argument? It’s probably not. Arguing about getting the bills paid on time is a much more worthy cause.

Figuring out between the two of you what the most important things in your relationship are worth fighting for and what is best left alone.

Show Him Why He Chose You

Lovely couple together - Healthy Scorpio Man Relationships

You’ll at times; need to remind him why he chose you as a partner. He can become so comfortable that he forgets that you are a strong woman who will not be swept under the rug.

If he keeps repeating mistakes that you’ve argued about before; you’ll need to put your foot down and make sure that changes happen. This may mean telling him to find middle ground or there could be dire consequences.

When he tries to push off his beliefs or his ideas on you that don’t go along well with your own belief system, talk about it. Argue about it if you have to get his attention.

Scorpio will want to be in control as much as he can. He needs to know that it’s not always Ok for him to do that. He needs to know that you have ideas and thoughts of your own.

Don’t allow him to choose for you when it comes to important situations. You have a mind of your own and shouldn’t be expected to adhere to his expectations of what you should do or be.

Again, this isn’t something you should implement about every single little thing otherwise, you’ll be fighting constantly. That’s not what this is about. Prioritizing will help you figure out what is worth fighting for.

Do Not Be a Doormat, How to Deal With a Scorpio Man After a Fight

A Scorpio man relationship will push the limits sometimes with their ladies. Sometimes they aren’t even aware that they’re doing this. If the woman isn’t careful she’ll lie down and just take it.

I realize that sometimes it’s exhausting to deal with him but it’s far better for you, in the long run, to stick up for yourself than it is to deal with a lifetime of bending for someone who isn’t bending for you.

It may feel like war sometimes while getting through this relationship. Scorpio is hard headed and wants things HIS way. However, if he loves you enough, he’ll have to bend and find a middle ground.

Once you get to that point, everything will be smooth sailing from there thus allowing you two to live happily ever after. It’s just getting to that point that will be rather bumpy.

If your Scorpio man is doing or saying things that you are absolutely not ok with or go against your core beliefs; do not let it slide! If you do he’ll always think he can do this or say things like this.

You’re teaching the Scorpio man how to teach you by what you allow and what you do not allow. That’s effectively the core of what you’re trying to do here is teach him what is Ok and what isn’t when it comes to you.

Fair Is Fair, How to Stand up to Scorpio Man

Portrait Of Happy Beautiful Couple In Love - Healthy Scorpio Man Relationships

You’ve got to keep in mind that in your Scorpio man relationship you’re going to get as good as you’re giving. So he will also let you know how he wants to be treated. It should always be a two way street with you two.

Once you can open up that highway of communication; you should be able to work through just about anything that you go through together. Just keep in mind that if you’re railing him on unimportant issues, he’ll retort with some of his own.

Think of all the things that are crucial to your relationship together and what you need to make it work. Write it down if you need to. Sit down and talk to him and let him do the same.

Getting on the same page will help you both understand each other better and will make heated moments less and less over time. I’m not telling you to go into war mode with your Scorpio man relationship.

I’m just simply telling you not to lie down and take whatever he dishes out. He only wants a strong and independent woman. If you expect it to last, you have to show him that you ARE strong.

Fights can be rather intense with a Scorpio man for sure. Telling him the truth about how you feel is important. That’s how you stand up to a Scorpio man.

Don’t let him get away with it! If you know you’re right for certain and he’s making it like you don’t know what you’re talking about, be brave!

Scorpio man after an argument is likely going to be salty for a while.

Do Scorpios Like to Fight?

There are definitely times when Scorpios feel feisty. They’re good at it and they love to prove how right they are even if they aren’t. If you are struggling with a Scorpio man, you need to remember this.

This is when it’s very important that if you indeed are right, you are able to present him with facts. Arguing with a Scorpio can seem rather dicey but you can do it if you know you have the facts right!

If you have to do research to prove your point, this is how you confront a Scorpio man. Having all your ducks in a row that he cannot argue with is typically best.

He does love a good debate too so make sure you know the difference between arguing and debating. He’s an excellent debater. You might actually turn him on if you’re able to hold your own in a debate with him.

Conclusion to Healthy Scorpio Man Relationships

Keep that strength going and don’t let it up. He may lose respect and love for you if you allow him to steamroll you. Once you two establish what is healthy for you both; you’ll have a love that lasts a lifetime.

Scorpio men have a very hot temper and it takes a very cool lady to deal with him properly. Standing down is not an option if he’s in the wrong. If you do, he won’t respect you.

Tell him exactly what is going on and what he’s doing wrong. He needs to hear it and he needs to know you care enough about yourself to point it out.

Oh and I feel like I need to share this with you because it’s exciting… Did you know that adorably funny talk show host; Jimmy Kimmel is actually a Scorpio man? I honestly had no idea. It seems to fight though.

If you need a bit of help to figure your Scorpio guy out a little more, click here for more information.

I really hope that this article will help you to establish a healthy boundary for you with your Scorpio guy so that you can grow together in a wonderful way.

Share your story (or situation) with our community in the comment section below (don’t worry, it’s anonymous).

You should definitely write in if you have tips on how to have a healthy relationship with a feisty Scorpio man!

Wishing you all the luck of the universe

Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,

Anna Kovach



    • Hi Diana!

      Scorpios are untrusting of everyone. They’re born that way. That is what makes them very difficult to deal with. Whoever he ends up with has to have patience and prove to him that they’re loyal for him to feel comfortable. It’s flat out insecurity they have. I hope this helps answer your question.

  • Hahah I can say this article is very good, something that I never found out elsewhere. It is so f*cking true, relate to my situation with my scorpio guy.
    Before I read this, we already do those as well. We fight A LOT, especially in our new beginning. I have beliefs for a relationship, in my perspective. I play fair game. I will not give effort to someone, if he doesnt to me too.
    But by those fights, I believe we strengthening our bond to blend. To know and respect each other better.
    Yeah it must be 100-1.000 fights, or more, in front between us. I never regret the fights, meanwhile I thank for that. 🙂

  • Do Scorpio men mean what they say in an argument? When were better he’ll say he didn’t mean it but in another argument he’ll say the same things. Is this just to hurt me? He’ll criticize my insecuritys. My body, family life ect.. and say I’m annoying.. but when the fights over here would say he’s sorry and he didn’t mean some things. What do you think?

    • I believe he does mean EXACTLY what he says during an argument…or even if it’s jus a confrontation….my friend once told me I need to quit being a slut during our las confrotation. I listened. I played along with it. I joked about it to ease my frustration, but in the end I told him I understood his perception, loud and ever clear. And I changed for the better. I believe if a Scorpion man wants to be with a woman, he will do jus that. And if he isn’t interested, he will do little to nothing at all. In fact, he’ll ignore you. No matter what the circumstances once were. No matter how close you once were. If they are mature enough to realize the bond is worth building stronger, he will build and build until the bricks reach beyond your destination. I believe this is true for the most part because my friend is still my friend, despite what I’ve done, and that’s all I ask of him.

  • Hello ladies ???? Jus some insight on my friendship this is a long one, but it may help someone.
    I’m like this ??with my Scorpio friend ????
    We met at work
    We became great friends within a few months
    We Hesitated to sleep together the first two intimate moments, instead
    We jus touched one another’s bodies ?? haha
    We ALWAYS relax at my place. I dooo love my quater’s decor so I guess thas cool. I have way more room to walk around. I thought My room was messy until I met his. Haha
    It was late in the year so his birthday came before mine, I sketched and colored a drawing for him .
    My birthday came a few months later, he wished me happy birthday and apologized for not getting me anything
    I didn’t expect anything
    We finally slept together…

    I could have died
    The tenth time around I actually told him I was dead so I lay still jus cause I know he likes that…
    he liked that
    He ALMOST ALWAYS asks how the sex was BUT it’s always orgasmic. I always vision the milky way or blooming flowers twards the end I SWEAR I DONT KNOW WHY LOL
    BUT he must see more in me than I do because I’ve slept with other men whilst being with him
    He didn’t like that
    While we were working with one another, we were always together in the building. Breaks. Eating, holding one another’s spots sometimes.
    We would play smart tho, I would leave him be while I’d work somewhere else cause I needed a reason to miss him, instead of missing him while we were together…. I know that sounds weird, but we are weird in a great way together. We tried hard to not flirt while at work but we both quit resisting after the first couple of months and it was MORE FUN.
    One time, a coworker of ours attempted to kiss me when I gave the coworker a ride home one night, this was only 5 minutes after I had told him who I’m “talking/dealing” with . …
    I told my Scorpio friend,
    And ? O M G
    HE was super disappointed in the guy because the three of us were cool and always laughed and joked and worked HARD! (The coworker was a Sagg)
    He tried to sleep with me once before, it didn’t happen.
    He said he wanted to ask the coworker himself
    I asked him if he wanted me to get him
    He said yes
    I walked out, grabbed the worker, and my friend started to confront…I did not think that would happen
    I didn’t know my friend felt that way about me
    He ignored the coworker FOREVER after that day ??????YOU HAD TO HAVE SEEN IT IT WAS AMAZING LY ENTERTAINING YET SERIOUSLY REAL DISTRUST from my Scorpio friend to the coworker.
    BUT to finish up, me and my friend became closer despite how the mixed signals he gave me drove me to continue to be promiscuous
    We’ve talked everything out despite how difficult it has been and still IS …to understand one another’s views and expectations of one another’s actions.
    I told him I like him a lot. I was the first to fall for him
    I was the first to call. Yes indeed, I skipped to my lu twards his car and asked him for his number . I wasn’t leaving the lot without it that night. Seriously.
    And I think he sensed that as clear as the moon was risen.
    I initially approached him at work JUS to pass time I SWEAR!! Cause we were having the BEST CONVERSATIONS DEAD OR ALIVE ? AND I WILL NOT LET THAT GO.
    BUT IF he had INITIALLY told me how he felt about me, and that he wanted to be exclusive with me ON EVERYTHING NO OTHER MAN WOULD EXIST IN ANY REALM !! I PUT THAT ON GODSMACK !!
    We’ve had our revengeful sex already, the sex that he once told me hadn’t existed….I’m very sexual, so he denied my accusation …. then showed me the other side of him….the sex that came the day after I told him I slept with someone else. He could have penetrated anyone of the women that still contact him for sex, but he still chose me… That was jus the firs time
    The second time ….he didn’t have it out for me, no revenge sex. I can’t say make up sex because we are strictly friends….who do some of our favorite things together (art,music, documentaries, we discuss traveling and we converse deeply, etc)
    he was done and didn’t wanna have sex or touch or chill or call or text. He finally came over after over a month . Although he swore it was only two-three weeks hahaha. (It was only 17 days, he was totally correct) it was 7weeks in my world cause I was super lonely and miserable and had to force myself to be happy with my money and I spent my time focusing on what I need to do to make it better. I don’t need to know how to keep him. My soul tells me I have him, because he definitely has me, and I have never felt a gravitational pull so strong from any man such as the one I have with my Scorpion friend.
    We still hugged but it was dry and not the usual juicy ?. Btw he almost never reached out for hugs until a week ago after I told him for the third time…that I’ve slept with someone else. He asked me, so I told him yes. I ain gon lie to the man lol .
    I have him by 3 years and he calls me a cougar lol it’s not my fault I’m attracted to him
    I’m not attracted IM DRAWN TO HIM like…you could place me blindfolded in a dark room and I’d run straight to My friend. I’ve initiated eye contact with him since the day we met
    That’s how I’ve always been with everyone I meet though
    I know ONE THING
    THIS IS MY FRIEND THROUGH EVERYTHING
    I HAVE NEVER MET A SOUL AS UNIQUE AS HIS
    Our endeavors are synchronized
    Our sex is the greatest I’ve ever imagined
    I have a Large imagination…BIG ONE ☝?
    I’ve told him I wanted to change my ways and that I only want him . I only want to sleep with him. He didn’t believe me because I was still sleeping around. The fact is, I HAVE A Very HIGH SEX DRIVE. HE CLAIMED HIS WAS LOW. Another FACT IS his is as high as mine, we both enjoy pleasing ourselves alone, rather than being disappointed by a partner. ..I’ve learned…. I’ve taught him that I can please him, that I can and I will get the deed done….despite how he still wanted to own the moment…..I told him we jus needed to find middle ground …and BOOM!! He lasts forever when we touch, it gives me an mental orgasm that lasts for days…. that random shiver you get when you’re jotting down your grocery list because of that new diet you need for you to gain weight so you can have more body to dominate him on that black faux fur carpet you jus bought from AliExpress … yea. Like that.
    So we don’t argue about how often we sex any longer. Yay!
    Be honest
    Be yourself
    Eye contact EYE CONTACT if you notice that he looks AWAY after quickly staring at you ITS ONLY because he noticed you and doesn’t want you to know. He doesn’t want you know anything if he thinks you aren’t worthy. He takes pride in that guitar! And he’ll play it for you if he knows you’ll appreciate it before hand. Oh yea, he’s interested. And if you intrigue him deeply enough, he’ll engage in conversation that will NEVER disappoint you. Until you tell him where to park and he ignores you because he’s so Alpha . ? ??
    If you lie, you die. But if you’re worth it, find your purpose and I swear he will warm up to your every move. He listens so well. He’s so good with his hands despite how bad he says he is . He may not ever want to be with me now, but I love him and he knows it And I believe that changes the entire game he thought he had controlled.
    Don’t listen to opinions when it comes to matters of the heart
    Most say “ don’t tell him how much you feel for him, let him do that, let him work for it” BUT THATS NEVER BEEN ME I’m too BLUNT and real for that facade game.
    PLUS sometimes, a man, especially my Scorpion friend, has to be told and shown exactly who you are and what you want and they’d BETTER LINE UP ACCORDINGLY YOU don’t have to give him the details all at once, Instead, allow him to pry, because prying is what Scorpio men do best when they are searching for something. He will DIG INTIL HE FINDS THE EARTHS CORE INSIDE OF YOU . If you say you WANT HIM , THEN SHOW HIM YOU WANT HIM AND NOT THAT NOBODY.
    TELL HIM HIS SEX IS THE ONLY SEX ALIVE DURING SEX and or right AFTER SO he won’t wonder afterwards. I HONESTLY DONT KNOW WHAT THATS ABOUT BUT IT May have to do with how I’ve slept with other men, so he may have began to feel insecure. But he’s the best so whatever ??‍♀️
    I KNOW ONE THING THO ☝?
    He HASNT GIVEN UP ON ME
    HE HELPS ME
    He sees ME
    HE STILL DIGS TO FIND ME FOR ME AND NOT FOR WHAT IVE DONE DESPITE THE FACT THAT IT HURT HIM
    HE TRIES TO UNDERSTAND ME
    HE NEVER ONCE TRIED TO CHANGE ME
    except for when my low riders were a bit too…low lol ?. And my hips were out so was my waistband to my VS briefs
    He said it was too sexy and that he didn’t like that
    CORRECTION LADIES
    HE LOVES IT ❤️❤️
    Just only for him and the four walls around y’all two. JUST YALL TWO!!
    He played the games I played along and now we’re bonding 10x strong ??

  • My scorpio man. ..
    We met in april.. Spent every weekend 2gether 4 two months. Met my family. Made commitmments 2 each other… Then one weekend nothimg. No call no text ZERO.. Then october. Out blue… I get text. “Baby u havent been cheating on me have u?”. So we meet. Talk. Dinner.. End uo back on weekends. And texting me while he at work. 5 weeks go by. He sneaks out one morning and never says a word. I text “hey sexy” wen i wake _ notice him gine. No response. 2 weeks later he texts me ” hey baby. I wana see u wen i get off work 2day,we need talk.”. So i agre.. And he calls for a rain check cuz he got diarrhea…. Wtf do i do…. Ur feedback is needed…. Please advise me… This crap is to much.. Wen its good w/us its completely awesome… But whats up w/the disapearing acts and then pop up like he just saw me yesterday?

    • You need to cut all lines with him it’s obvious hes using you for sex and playing games hes not serious about you my boyfriend is Scorpio and I’m Aquarius no way in hell do I allow that type of f*ckery around me and he knows it too we have gotten into fights disagreements but in the end it works out sometimes he will push my button and boundaries but there’s a limit I allow him to with out cussing him off and telling him NO you need to stand up for yourself and not be a rug for him to step all over you or a toilet paper for him to wipe his *ss with tbh he knows he has you wrapped around his finger because you end up sleeping with him making him believe that you’re easy to f*ck and dump respect yourself and don’t allow him to pump and disappear on you stand up for yourself be dominant take charge and show him you’re not a toy or a person to be f*cked with

  • This article is very helpful and very well relates to the situation I am in. My Scorpio husband of 4+ years…

    We both put part of our salaries in a joint account for paying house loan, saving purposes etc. This joint account is the “only” savings account I have. He earns much more than I do.

    Few months back he got a new job with much higher pay, which was great – but he chose to lie to me about his salary. I found out and confronted him, we argued, and I told him I was upset. He said he doesn’t like sharing his salary even though I share mine. I was upset, I became fine in a few days and the discussion just ended.

    Then he opened a bank account and was trying to hide it from me – I found out, but this time confronted him very calmly and just said at least let me know you are saving some extra money in another account too. He said he made this account for whenever we plan a child and didn’t want this money to be touched. The discussion ended calmly.

    Recently I said to my husband that out of what I put in our joint account, I will put some percentage% of that in the other (hidden) account, so we save more, but he refused and said no I don’t want to add you on that account and I want to keep it separate. When I asked why? He just said I don’t trust you coz you spend a lot, when I asked where do I spend? He didn’t really have a good answer. We argued. Next day I calmly told him that what you are doing is called “Financial Infidelity” and I suggest we either go to a counselor or I put all my salary savings in a fixed deposit in both of our names, he was upset and said you can put it in the deposit, its ok I will manage the house loan expenses etc. Since then we are only talking to each other to the point and are obviously upset. But I am standing my ground because I feel there was a pattern of him lying and hiding stuff, which is not acceptable to me. I don’t doubt him that he is using the money elsewhere, he is just secretive, controlling…and calculative I think, maybe he feels hes earning more, so he can save more besides our joint account, which is ok, but why lie and hide?) .

    Otherwise, we have a happy marriage and he fulfills all my wishes, but as I mentioned above, he likes controlling and is secretive by nature (typical scorpio!)

    Thoughts? Feedback would be highly appreciated! (I am a Libran)

    • Hi Libra Baby! Thank you for your amazing feedback. I really appreciate it! If you’d like to know even more juicy information regarding the Scorpio man, I would totally recommend my book to you.

  • My man’s is Scorpio and he’s constantly throwing up my past is constantly griping at me he told me that he wanted me to make a home for us and stay at home and you’ll clean the house and everything and then I’m supposed to just sit here and freaking wait on him to want to come home to me he lies to me about where he goes and I need to learn how to talk to him a little better is there any way that you can help me to tell him that you know I feel like that I’m put on the back burner for everyone else cuz I see him helping all of his friends and everything with no problem but then when I asked him for something that’s a big issue calls me names everything

    • Hi Andrea!

      Scorpio men do tend to hold grudges and dig up old garbage if it suits their point trying to be made at the time. They also use it as revenge later on when you make them angry. Don’t let him tell you what to do or control you. That’s not healthy at all. Put your foot down and do what you know is right. Back burner? No mam… either you tell him to step up his game or you will step out. Do what you intuitively know is good for you. He sounds like a jerk no matter what his sign is. You deserve better!

  • I actually loved learning about the Scorpio man. I read up on it a few years ago, when my boyfriend and I got together. I learned he is very private about his feelings and would talk when he was ready, and comfortable. As an impatient Aries woman, it really helped me to keep quiet at the right times. When he felt like he could trust me, he opened up and let me inside. He told me things he said he couldn’t tell anyone else, that I was his best friend. I couldn’t have been happier than I was with him. I had 5 wonderful years with him, (not easy, but well worth it). I did feel like we had a love most people search for their entire lives. Our relationship was tested many times, but what I loved about him was that he was willing to talk, but when he was ready. I had 2 failed marriages before, and he was very different. You see, he and I had been best friends in high school, never dated, but were good friends. We went on and lived our lives, fast forward 32 years, and he and my brother ran into each other. He asked about me, asked my brother to have me call him. The next 5 yrs were the best and most satisfying, beyond what I ever thought possible. I lost him this year. I took this test as just a confirmation of what I had learned earlier about Scorpio men, and as just something I do while grieving. I do feel what I learned about Scorpio personalities helped me so much to understand him, give him the space he needed to be able to feel comfortable and safe with me, that he was able to open himself up. And we felt so connected, I called it ‘two peas in a pod.’ I am beyond lost without him, but I have no regrets, I do feel I was his best friend, and he understood me, as I told him from the beginning that I wear my feelings on my sleeve, and if I told him I loved him a lot, to just know that is me, and I always wanted him to have no doubts about how I feel about him. He even said I understood him better than anyone. He said I had always been his favorite. I will miss and love him forever. That’s my Scorpio man. (I also have a daughter who is an Aries, and her man is a Scorpio. They have been together 7 yrs and have 2 children. I have shared with her what I learned about Scorpios too.)

    • Hi Christie! I am so sorry to hear of your loss but glad that this article resonated with you and all you know of Scorpio man. How lovely you were able to pass on the information to your daughter. Blessings going around. Thank you darling and I hope your healing process goes quickly and you’re able to get to a better place in your heart so you can open up again to love. Blessings to you!

  • Thank you for your helpful emails.. After 4 years of being dictated and told how to think and feel and do things, I moved out into my own house with my children and have started “putting my foot down”, where it’s due without an argument.. I’m slowly seeing a little difference with his respect for me and what I need and want in our situation. Atm We are broken up but together lol (in a relationship without the titles and it’s my choice to) because I’ve finally showed him what I will and will not tolerate anymore, aswell as making very deep personal healing time for myself… your information is helping me so much. I feel I’m really starting to understand how he works, even tho his been telling me how he works for years. It never really made sense like it does with you…. keep the info coming 😁👍💟

    • Hi Mel!

      Good for you! I’m so glad that you started standing up for yourself and that he started to respect you more. That’s definitely how it works and how it should be. Being a doormat isn’t what this guy is into in a woman. You should never allow anyone to control you either no matter what his sigh. Perhaps the two of you can now build something more healthy and loving. I wish you both well!

  • My scorpio man is totally ignoring my bounderies. He tries to put accountability of the entire relationship on me often telling me i need to do this or that to show i love him. I recently told him im done being treated like that and i do not do tricks for love. That have nothing to prove to him or anyone else. Ive made it clear im not in this relationship alone so i wont br carrying the responsibility of it alone.
    Im often confused by the way he loves me so well 1 day and is very angry blaming and manipulative the next. Ive stopped talking to him. Ive went totally silent. He has not said a word. Not 1 word. I want him to understand im not his emotional dumping ground nor am i a doormat. How long before you think he will allow this to penetrate his brain and stop his childish testing? How long should i silently wait for him to contact me b4 moving on with my life and close the door on our relationship forever?

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