One of the hardest signs to experience a breakup with has to be the Scorpio man! Scorpio men tend to consume your life, making it extremely hard to let go! This relationship may have been deep and intense, or toxic and manipulative depending on how evolved your Scorpio ex was. Here’s how you can move on to find new love in your life :
30 Secrets About Your Scorpio Man He Won’t Tell You
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Opening your heart after a split with Scorpio is never an easy task! In my years of experience as a relationship astrologer, I’ve found that breakups with a Scorpio are often the toughest to get over. It takes time patience and plenty of good, solid boundaries.
Many of my clients even ask me if they’ll ever love again – and I always tell them, of course! If you follow just a few of my steps below, you’ll find it that much easier to get over your Scorpio ex and welcome someone new into your life.
It always helps to remember the reasons why you broke up in the first place, too. This is especially useful when considering your relationship with Scorpio. Was it toxic in any way? All-consuming? Did you perhaps feel controlled, or was he possessive?
Whilst Scorpio men can be great in many wonderful ways, they have their shadow side, too. They especially tend to act out this part of themselves when they feel betrayed or let down in any way.
There are many reasons why a relationship ends, and it always takes two to tango. But, recalling why it never worked is the very first step to moving on. Here are a few more to help you in this process –
In my practice, I have worked with thousands of women trying to recover from a Scorpio man, and I can tell you the pain you are feeling right now is not a sign of weakness. It is a sign of how deeply he pulled you in. Scorpio is ruled by Pluto, the planet of obsession, death, and rebirth, which is exactly why letting go of him feels less like a breakup and more like withdrawal. If you want to understand the man you are trying to move on from, and why he had such a hold on you, my complete Scorpio Man Secrets guide walks you through his deepest patterns step by step.
You are also far from alone. In a survey of more than 3,600 women involved with Scorpio men, “it is complicated” was the single most common way they described their situation, more than for any other sign in the zodiac. When the connection is that intense, the ending is rarely clean. So be gentle with yourself as you read through these steps.
7 Tips to Move on From a Breakup with a Scorpio Man
1. Don’t Give Into His Games
Scorpio men are extremely good at playing games. Whether it’s emotional or mental games, these guys certainly have a bit of a manipulative side to them.
This might come across as him trying to get you back in his life. He may guilt trip you or make you feel bad for moving on. He may drop you unexpected messages, or appear at an event out of the blue. He may even make it so that you see something on his social network profile that triggers you and make you reach out to him.
There are many ways that he may try and play games with you. The best thing you can do to move on is to ignore them completely!
2. Avoid Revenge
It’s very tempting to seek revenge when we end a relationship, especially if things ended badly. It’s also likely that your Scorpio ex could be seeking revenge, too. This may be in very subtle ways or n more complex ways.
However, if you do this, it will only end in tears, and it will certain not help you to move on! Try and resist the pull! However satisfying it might feel to parade around a new partner in front of him to make him jealous, it won’t help you in the long run, and will just create more drama.
3. Don’t Jump Into Bed With Him
Scorpio has a well-deserved reputation for being the most sexual sign in the zodiac. And because of this, you may really struggle to let go and move on! It’s can be almost impossible to not fall back not the same physical patterns you used to have – after all, who doesn’t love that intimacy?
However, this will only prolong your pain. Try not to deceive yourself that this is the way back into his heart, as tough as that might seem. Instead, find someone new to play with. This will help you feel more empowered, knowing that there are plenty of fish in the sea!
4. Don’t Be Persuaded To Try Again
This is perhaps the hardest tip to share, as most women struggle with not going back to their past! We all have hope that things will work out if we try again. And, its not to say that it won’t work, but very often, in my experience as a relationship astrologer, it just delays the healing.
Your Scorpio ex may try a thousand ways to get you back in his life, whether that’s by manipulating, guilt-tripping, or by promising you the whole world. The rule I always apply is “changed behavior instead of words”. Only if you are both willing to truly change and get help if needed, is there a chance of things working again.
But, generally speaking, avoid getting back together.
5. Heal!
In order to welcome new love, find ways of healing yourself. If this means cutting off all relationships, seeking therapy, doing self-development courses or facing your wounds, then so be it! In fact, you may find that your healing path can be totally transformative!
This idea goes hand in hand with self-love. When you’ve had love as deep and intense as with a Scorpio, it’s not easy to find that love inside yourself. Make that your journey and inention, and your heart will be ready to love again in no time!
6. Let Go Of Him Completely
What does letting go mean to you? Does it mean cutting all contact? Or removing yourself from his social media? Does it mean deleting your photos together, or removing his mom from your phone contacts?
Make it your mission to find a way to release your Scorpio ex from your life. Visualize cords running between the two of you, and imagine scissors cutting off your connection. Of course, this will hurt at first, but it can be the healthiest thing you can do for yourself in order to move on completely.
Read next: What to Do When a Scorpio Man Tries to Make You Jealous
7. Get Therapy If You Need It
There isn’t just for those who have mental illnesses, you know! All of us can benefit in life from seeing someone who is totally neutral and doesn’t have any emotional attachment to us. Someone who can listen with an open ear and an open mind.
Maybe you just need a few sessions to help you close the door on your Scorpio ex. Maybe you need to understand what your part in the breakup was. Perhaps you just need someone rational and professional to help you through a difficult time.
Scorpio men do tend to get in your head, and under your skin, and sometimes, it takes a long time to get them out. Don’t be shy of seeking help when you need it, whether it’s from a counselor, psychologist, spiritual guide or psychiatrist.
Why Letting Go of a Scorpio Man Feels Almost Impossible
If you have ever wondered why getting over a Scorpio man is harder than any breakup you have been through before, the answer is written in his stars. Scorpio is the only sign ruled by Pluto, the planet of obsession and transformation, and that energy does not just shape him, it shapes the bond he creates with you. A Scorpio man does not love casually. He merges. He studies you, learns your fears and your desires, and makes you feel seen in a way most women never experience. That is the gift and the trap. When the relationship ends, you are not just missing a partner, you are missing the most intense emotional mirror you have ever had.
This is why so many women describe the aftermath as withdrawal rather than ordinary sadness. In our survey, 56 percent of women said intimacy with their Scorpio man was unlike anything they had felt before, the highest of any sign. When a connection runs that deep, your nervous system genuinely grieves it. Understanding that this is emotional and astrological, not a personal failing, is the first real step toward freeing yourself.
How Long Does It Really Take to Get Over a Scorpio Man?
There is no fixed timeline, but I will be honest with you because honesty is what actually helps. For most women, moving on from a Scorpio man takes longer than moving on from other signs, often several months to a year for the deepest connections. The intensity that made the relationship feel fated is the same intensity that slows your healing.
What matters far more than the calendar is whether you are healing forward or quietly circling back. Every time you check his social media, reread old messages, or let him pull you into a late-night conversation, you reset the clock. Scorpio men are masters of the slow re-entry, and even one moment of contact can undo weeks of progress. The women who move on fastest are not the ones who felt the least. They are the ones who protected their healing fiercely and refused to reopen the wound.
What a Scorpio Man Does After a Breakup (And Why It Confuses You)
Here is what tends to confuse women most. A Scorpio man often goes completely silent after a breakup, then resurfaces just when you have finally started to feel okay. This is not random. Scorpio rules the eighth house of deep bonds and shared intimacy, and he does not release a connection easily, even when he was the one who ended it. He may watch your every move from a distance, appear at a place he knows you will be, or send a single cryptic message that reopens everything.
None of this necessarily means he wants you back. Sometimes it is his way of testing whether the door is still open, and sometimes it is simply his discomfort with losing control. If you want to read his signals clearly instead of guessing, I wrote a companion piece on the signs a Scorpio ex does not actually want you back, which can save you weeks of false hope.
Should You Use the No Contact Rule With a Scorpio Man?
For most signs I recommend the no contact rule, and with a Scorpio man it is not optional, it is essential. His power over you lives in proximity and intimacy. As long as there is a channel open, even a friendly one, he can reach back into your emotional world whenever he chooses, and you will struggle to find solid ground.
No contact with a Scorpio is not about punishing him or playing a game to win him back. It is about reclaiming your own center. Block the temptation to check on him, mute him rather than torturing yourself with his posts, and give yourself a clean stretch of silence. The paradox is that the same silence that heals you is also the one thing a Scorpio man truly respects. If a genuine reconciliation was ever going to happen, it begins with you becoming whole on your own, not with you staying tangled in his web.
Frequently Asked Questions About Moving On From a Scorpio Man
Will my Scorpio man come back after the breakup?
Sometimes, yes. Scorpio men are known for circling back to past loves, especially when the connection was intense. But whether he comes back and whether you should let him back are two very different questions. If he returns, look for changed behavior, not just beautiful words. A Scorpio can say all the right things while quietly planning to repeat the same patterns. Protect yourself by watching what he does over weeks and months, not what he promises in a single emotional moment.
Does a Scorpio man feel guilty after hurting you?
He often does, even if he never shows it. Scorpio men feel everything intensely, but they guard those feelings behind a calm, controlled exterior. He may bury his guilt under silence or distraction, or channel it into resentment so he does not have to face it. Do not mistake his composure for indifference. Just remember that his private guilt is his to carry, not yours to fix. Your only job right now is your own healing.
How do you make a Scorpio man regret losing you?
The honest answer is that you cannot force regret, and chasing it keeps you chained to him. What actually reaches a Scorpio man is your genuine transformation, your visible peace, and your refusal to wait around. If you want the deeper psychology behind this, I cover it in my guide on the ways to make your Scorpio ex regret leaving you. But the real prize is never his regret. It is your freedom.
Why does it feel like I am addicted to my Scorpio man?
Because in a real sense you are, and it has a true explanation. A Scorpio man creates a bond that activates the same reward pathways as any deep attachment, which is why pulling away can feel like withdrawal. The cure is not more of him. It is time, distance, and rebuilding the parts of your life that existed before he arrived. The pull fades once your own world becomes full again, and one day you will be surprised by how free you feel.
Moving on does not mean facing it without guidance. If part of you is still unsure whether to close the door for good or give him one more honest chance, the words you choose now will shape what happens next. My Scorpio Man Magic Phrases show you exactly what reaches his guarded, Pluto-ruled heart, whether you decide to reconnect on healthier terms or simply find the closure you need to walk away in peace.
Have you been through a breakup with a Scorpio man before? How was it for you? Was it easy for you to move on or was it a challenge? Can you share any tips on what helped you to forget him? If there’s a way that helped you open up your heart again, I’d really love to hear it! Your stories are always important to me, and will stay completely anonymous.
If there’s more you’d like to know about the Scorpio man, check out my extensive blog on this mysterious sign right here :
https://scorpiomansecrets.com/blog/
Your friend and relationship astrologer,
Anna Kovach
