Things You Can Do To Get Your Scorpio Man Excited!
Are you ready to kick the heat up a notch with your Scorpio man? I definitely have some amazing things to share with you.
Keep reading so that you can learn the seven ways to spice up your love life with Scorpio man and keep him excited!
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In my years as a relationship astrologer, I have worked with thousands of women who love a Scorpio man, and the one thing they tell me over and over is that the physical connection with him feels unlike anything they have known before. That is not your imagination. Scorpio is ruled by Pluto and Mars, the planets of raw desire and transformation, and he lives more of his emotional life through intimacy than any other sign in the zodiac. In our situation survey of 3,612 women dating a Scorpio man, 55 percent said they felt a deep, unmistakable connection with him, higher than most signs. So keeping that fire alive is not about gimmicks. It is about understanding what his intense, water-sign heart actually craves.
7 Ways To Spice Up Your Love Life With Scorpio Man
Before we get into the seven ways, know this: a Scorpio man is stirred as much by words as he is by touch. If you want the exact phrases that speak straight to his sensual, Pluto-ruled nature, my Scorpio Man Sextrology guide hands you word-for-word lines that turn him on and make him crave you. Keep it close as you read on.
1. Talk Dirty To Him
The Scorpio man is quite intelligent and really loves being with a woman who is riveting when she speaks. That being said, you really need to get his engine revving with your words!
There is a wide range of topics to choose from, but since you’re trying to make things sizzle with your Scorpio man, you need to pick things that will get his attention.
One of the things you can do is talk dirty to him. Do it randomly, because he’ll get a total kick out of it. You can do this via text or video chat.
The idea is to build up tension and passion. This is especially fantastic if he’s working. You can call him and tell him how sexy he is and how much you want him, “right now!”
Tell him what you’d like to do to him or what you’d like your Scorpio man to do to you, more specifically.
He wants details that make him excited and looking forward to the next time he’s with you. Scorpio men love sexy talk. Try whispering in his ear when you two are together again.
Say something like, “you really turn me on, I love how you caress my breasts, and stroke my thigh like that.” Use your own words obviously but let him know how much it makes you hot!
It doesn’t matter if you’ve only been with him for a couple weeks or many years. The Scorpio man is excited by sexual stimulation through words.
Take your pick; whisper hot things in to his ear or try sexting with him. He will really get a kick out of that! Sexting with a Scorpio man is fun and erotic!
2. Enjoy Porn Together
Scorpio men have a very high libido. Just like most guys, they like looking at porn or dirty magazines. They also like to read erotic material.
My suggestion to you is to browse online together at different types and styles of porn, erotic comics, or other erotic material. It’s more fun and exciting to do it as one.
It lets him know that you’re open for fun and are definitely up for keeping things spicy between you. Try something new!
I know sometimes you get stuck in the “norm,” but in order to keep the fire burning in your Scorpio man, you’ve got to keep those briquettes ablaze!
When you read erotic stories or watch the porn, make sure that you read it to him in a very sexy tone and perhaps while you’re masturbating. This will drive him wild! He won’t know what to do with himself.
The good news is, he will know what to do to you while you’re reading. No, I am not kidding! He wants to see if you can continue to read while he’s going down on your or kissing your thighs.
This will add all the pepper you need into your Scorpio man salad. He loves fantasy. You can even do this playing a video game. Have him play something while you go down on him and see his excitement!
3. Eye Contact Keeps Intimacy Together
Your Scorpio guy wants to feel you in every way that he can. To do that, he wants to stare deeply into your eyes. If he isn’t doing that then it’s a red flag for you.
Scorpio men will typically look at you in the eye when they’re making love to you or even just making out with you. They are looking into your soul to make sure that they’re connecting.
No matter what sexual position you happen to be in, if you’re facing each other at all, stare him in the eyes. Even when you’re down on your knees looking up at him, he will absolutely lose his mind in a good way!
This will especially excite him if you’ve never done it that way before. He’ll feel very excited and any notion of things becoming routine will fade away for him. That’s what you want!
4. Dominate In The Bedroom
You need to take control sometimes in the bedroom. Call the shots! Tell him what to do and how to do it. Believe it or not, this alone will turn him on like you wouldn’t believe.
Tie his hands up or his feet (or both!). Unless he’s terrified of doing so, he will allow you to do this and sit back relaxed. He wants to see what you can do or what you’re willing to do.
A whip always makes things a bit kinky too. If you haven’t tried one, you really should. It will make him quiver in excitement. The art of teasing him is the best route.
You never want to dive right into intercourse, no. You want to drag it out and make it linger so that by the time you both orgasm, it will be the most erotic thing you have both experienced.
How is that for spicing things up in your Scorpio man relationship? Obviously, this isn’t something you want to do every single time because then even that becomes routine and will lose its exciting luster.
Try doing this once or twice a month. You can implement different toys, different positions, or dirty talk. Keeping things feeling fresh and new keep your Scorpio man excited with you.
5. Metaphysical Ways To Satisfaction
Many people don’t think of this one and I think it’s something that should be brought up more often. Did you know there are actually workshops for spiritual sex?
When your souls are connected through sex, it makes you closer to each other. It really does make things exciting, fresh, and new. It also makes it really fulfilling.
There are things such as Tantric sex which is done through meditating with each other while being in a sexual or sensual position. There is plenty of information available online to become familiar with this, along with courses and books.
If you two are brave, you can go attend a work shop as it will help you meet other people and discuss things you may learn. Also the act of learning together will be a turn on.
Get the Kama Sutra book! There are loads of different positions you can try, what they mean, and what they help you achieve. This is one of the best ways to spice up your love life with Scorpio man.
6. Dress For The Occasion
You definitely will want to wear things that appeal to the Scorpio man’s senses. He loves lacy garter belts with stockings above the knee.
He loves black and red the most. There is something sensual and dangerous about those two colors. It makes him feel he’s being naughty, which turns him on more.
High heels will add the icing on the cake. Catch him off guard one day and answer the door in lingerie or keep it covered up under a trench coat so that when he comes in, you can ask him to take your coat.
He’ll be so flushed with lust when he sees you that he may not wait to see what else you’ve got in store. Then again, he may want the teasing to commence and will be patiently turned on.
Wear racy scents such as musk or earth tones. It makes him want to dive into you. You can also dress up in cosplay outfits or just simple costumes. He will go crazy with you in a very good way.
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7. Play Sex Games
I mentioned cosplay outfits but truly, if you get into character and do things to him, he’ll be completely floored. Get a nurse outfit and play it out. Take his temperature, give him a cool compress, and check his heart.
Ask him where it hurts and see what he tells you. It’s all about role playing and making sure you both spontaneously go along with it. This is something that can be different every time.
You can also try playing literal sex games as well. Strip poker is always a favorite! Each time someone loses, they lose an article of clothing. Once you both have no clothes, you go in for kissing, nibbling, or licking.
There are other games such as “dirty dice” which will allow you two to roll and then it will tell you what to do to your partner such as “kiss on the lips” or on other places.
Make it new, fresh, and spicy. Your Scorpio man will be so turned on by you that he’ll want more. Be ready for how much his libido rises. A happy Scorpio man in the bedroom makes for a happy Scorpio man in life.
Now that you seven ways to spice things up your love life with Scorpio man, you can begin getting closer!
The Truth About Why Intimacy Runs Deeper for a Scorpio Man
If sex with your Scorpio man feels more charged than any relationship you have had before, there is a real astrological reason for it. Scorpio rules the eighth house, the house of merging, deep bonding, and everything hidden beneath the surface. When a Scorpio man is intimate with you, he is not chasing a physical release. He is looking for a way to dissolve the wall between two people and feel completely fused with you. That is why eye contact matters so much to him, and why he wants your full presence in the room and not a distracted version of you.
This depth is also why his relationships tend to run at extremes. In our survey, 27 percent of women said things with their Scorpio man moved quickly, the highest of any sign, while 32 percent said there was no progress at all. He either goes all in or he stalls completely. When you understand that his physical side is really an emotional side wearing a different outfit, spicing things up stops being about props and starts being about trust. If you want to understand his sexual nature at a deeper level, read my full guide to what sex is like with a Scorpio man.
Warning: The One Thing That Kills the Mood for a Scorpio Man Instantly
You can do everything on this list perfectly and still lose him in a single moment if you make one mistake, and that mistake is anything that feels fake. A Scorpio man has an almost supernatural radar for pretending. If you fake your reactions, perform pleasure you do not feel, or reach for a bold move because you read it in an article instead of because you want it, he senses the gap immediately, and the spell breaks.
The second mood killer is a betrayal of trust, even a small one. Checking your phone in bed, laughing at his vulnerability, or repeating something private to a friend will shut a Scorpio man down faster than any physical misstep. He gives you the deepest, most guarded part of himself in those moments, and he needs to know it is safe with you. Keep his secrets, stay present, and let your desire be genuine. That single choice does more for your love life than every toy and costume combined.
How to Keep the Spark Alive With a Scorpio Man for the Long Haul
Novelty matters to a Scorpio man, but it is not what sustains him. What keeps him obsessed year after year is the sense that there is always more of you to discover. He is drawn to mystery, so a woman who keeps growing, keeps surprising him, and keeps a little of herself just out of reach will hold his fascination far longer than one who lays everything bare on day one. This is not about playing games. It is about staying a full, evolving person rather than becoming an open book he has already finished reading.
Emotional intimacy is the fuel behind the physical fire for him. The more safe and seen he feels with you outside the bedroom, the more uninhibited and generous he becomes inside it. Learn his body, too. Knowing where and how he most wants to be touched tells him you pay attention, and attention is the language his heart speaks. My guide to his Scorpio man erogenous zones walks you through exactly where to focus.
If you want a complete playbook for keeping his passion at a rolling boil, from the words that light him up to the moves that undo him, my Scorpio Man Sextrology guide was written for exactly this. It is the shortcut to becoming the woman he cannot stop thinking about.
Frequently Asked Questions About Spicing Up Your Love Life With a Scorpio Man
What turns a Scorpio man on the most?
More than any single act, a Scorpio man is turned on by intensity and authenticity. He wants to feel that you truly desire him, not that you are going through motions. Deep eye contact, honest expression of what you want, and a willingness to go somewhere emotionally real with him will do more than any technique.
He is also powerfully stirred by words. Because Scorpio is ruled by Pluto and Mars, his mind is his largest erogenous zone. Whispering exactly what you want, sexting through the day, and telling him how he makes you feel will build a charge that lasts for hours. Combine that verbal buildup with genuine physical presence and you have his complete attention.
Finally, he is drawn to a woman who is unafraid of the deeper, darker, more vulnerable side of intimacy. A Scorpio man does not want everything to stay light and safe. He wants to feel that you will meet him in the intense place he lives, and that you trust him enough to be fully yourself there.
How do I know if my Scorpio man is satisfied in the bedroom?
A satisfied Scorpio man becomes more open, not less. After a real connection, he will linger, hold you, keep eye contact, and often share something personal he would not normally say. That afterglow of emotional openness is his tell. A Scorpio man who pulls away immediately or goes cold is usually signaling that something felt off for him emotionally, not physically.
He will also come back for more, and he will initiate. Scorpio men are not shy about pursuing what they want. If he is reaching for you, planning your next time together, and getting more adventurous rather than more routine, he is a happy man. Watch his eyes and his words in the quiet moments after, because that is where a Scorpio man tells you the truth.
Do Scorpio men get bored in long relationships?
A Scorpio man can get restless, but he does not get bored the way lighter signs do. What he fears is stagnation, the sense that the mystery is gone and there is nothing left to discover. If your intimacy becomes fully predictable and your emotional life together goes flat, he may start to drift or look for intensity elsewhere.
The fix is not endless new tricks. It is keeping the relationship emotionally alive. Keep growing as a person, keep being honest about your desires, and keep letting him see new sides of you. A Scorpio man will stay devoted to a woman who remains a genuine adventure to know, and the physical passion follows the emotional depth.
How can I make my Scorpio man obsessed with me physically?
Obsession, for a Scorpio man, grows out of the feeling that you understand him at a level no one else does. Match his intensity instead of shrinking from it. Be fully present, be honest about your desire, and never fake a moment with him. That authenticity is magnetic to him.
Build anticipation rather than rushing. Tease him, draw the moment out, and let the tension climb, because a Scorpio man loves the slow burn far more than the quick finish. Learn what he responds to and use it with confidence. When he feels that you see him, trust him, and want him without pretense, he will not be able to get you out of his mind.
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