The world before the internet was simpler in many ways. Certainly, romance and dating have changed, and there are so many new rules when it comes to love! Who texts first? Is it up to him or you? Do men want to be pursued? How long do you have to wait? No one has the perfect answers to this, but astrology can help!
Let’s face is—modern love is confusing. In the old days, commitment was typically the goal, and everyone was clear on where the relationship would eventually go.
There was a logical order for most relationships, and that meant less confusion. But with the difficulties of dating today come many perks—you just have to learn to navigate this territory.
When it comes to the Scorpio man, how can you get him to call or text your first? You may already know by now that this guy tends to like to be the one in pursuit. Being ruled by Mars and Pluto, the “lust” planets, makes him need to chase!
Here are some tips on how you can get him to make that first move more often.
7 Ways to Get a Scorpio Man to Text or Call You First
1. Keep Him Guessing
In my experience with Scorpio men in relationship astrology, you need to keep him guessing. Don’t reveal all your secrets and desires right away! He needs to know that there is more to you than meets the eye.
If you’ve dangled a carrot or two in front of his nose, he’ll be wanting more of you. Share a little of your life and hint at more to come, and he should be texting you to find out more in no time! Even then, try to keep some of your secrets—it’ll keep him coming back.
2. Be Patient
The biggest problem with modern romance is a lack of patience. Women are often looking for answers right away—but having communication at our fingertips is not always a blessing!
If he’s not texting or calling back right away, let it be. Carry on with your own life. Focus on yourself. After all, if a man really, really wants you, he will show you.
Scorpio men are the types to always get what they want. He may just need some time to figure things out—especially if he has the trust issues common to Scorpios!
He may be scared to have his heart broken again. Even though he seems strong, in control, and even a bit remote, you can bet your bottom dollar that he’s a total softie inside, and once he invests in someone, he really invests.
So ladies, be patient. He’ll call if he really wants to.
3. Focus On Your Career
This might seem like a counterintuitive tip to get him to call or text you first. But bear with me.
As strange as it sounds, Scorpios are very sensitive to energy. He will “feel” if your focus has shifted from him to something else.
Another reason to throw energy at your work is that he really admires a woman with ambition.
Once he feels this energy shift, you can almost guarantee that he’ll be trying to contact you and get your focus back on him! Try it!
4. Post a Few New Pictures Online
Men are visual creatures—we all know that, right? Well, a Scorpio man can be particularly visual. He loves a woman who takes good care of herself and takes the trouble to look good. He especially loves the colors red and black, and a girl who looks powerful and in control.
Find your most appealing pictures that have a bit of mystery to them, or take a few new ones! Post them online if you’re friends, or use one as your messenger or email avatar. He’ll be bound to notice how great you’re looking and see it as a reminder to pick up the phone and give you a call!
5. Don’t Pursue Him
This falls under the “be patient” category, but it’s more than that. Scorpio men really need to be in the lead, more so than other men. For example, a Leo man might love for you to send him a complimentary message asking him how his day is going, but a Scorpio man doesn’t like being beaten to the punch.
Besides, being co-ruled by Mars, the planet of drive and action, guarantees he will get hold of you if he wants you. This is an all-or-nothing kind of guy, so you don’t need to worry about him being wishy-washy.
6. Make Yourself Desirable
How do you make yourself more desirable, to the point where he will text or call you?
There are a few ways. Of course, one way is to publicly post about the great things happening in your life. But sometimes, “more desirable” is a very subtle shift in gears. Desirable means independent, unattached to your ex, and willing to be vulnerable.
It means that when you do see him or talk to him, you’re someone he imagines in his life long-term. Someone he can trust, someone he can rely on, someone stable, sensitive, and willing to be there for him.
Desirable also means sexy, but not over the top. It means holding out physically and waiting for the right moment to get into bed with him. He will respect and admire you so much more if he sees you don’t give yourself away too quickly.
Plus, it keeps him wanting more!
7. Never Put Pressure On Him
Don’t push him! If you beg him and he feels forced to call or you or text you, he may lose interest.
If you’ve been only dating a few weeks, this is even more important. Unless you’re in an exclusive relationship, he doesn’t “owe” you anything—yet. If you are seriously involved, say for over a year, you have every right to ask him to check in and call. But those are relationship duties, not dating duties. There is a difference—a big one!
These are just some of the ways you can get him to call and text you first. But don’t forget the most important rule: always focus on yourself. You don’t enjoy feeling needy, and he won’t enjoy it either. Focus on your own life and let him call when he wants to call. Men are always an addition to your life, rather than the centerpiece—at very least until you are committed!
Are you dating a guy who just won’t pick up the phone unless you reach out first? How have you been handling it? I’d love to hear your story in the comments!
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